Thursday, November 29, 2012

Investigators: Dylan's Father Not Suspect


VALLECITO, La Plata County - Federal investigators searched the home of Dylan Redwine's father Thursday morning. Mark Redwine was the last person who saw his 13-year-old son, before Dylan disappeared last Monday.
"The Sheriff's Office is not calling Mark Redwine a suspect," Dan Bender, La Plata County Sheriff's Office Public Information Officer, said. "However, since that house was the last place Dylan was seen, it is only prudent to do a more thorough search of that house and property for any information that can help direct us to Dylan."

Investigators searched Mark's home initially last week. Thursday's search was considered more thorough.

Thursday morning, Mark told 9NEWS he was going to spend the day with FBI and CBI investigators.

Dylan disappeared from his father's home in Vallecito. Vallecito is 20 minutes east of Durango. Dylan was visiting his father for Thanksgiving break. Mark Redwine was the last person to see his son.

"Our goal is to bring Dylan home," Mark Redwine told 9NEWS.
Why does this need to be said?

Investigators said it was important to search Mark's home again because that was the last place Dylan was seen.

On Wednesday, the La Plata County Sheriff's Department said they no longer believed Dylan ran away. Earlier in the week they said there are two possible outcomes: 1) that Dylan ran away 2) that he was abducted or foul play was involved.

The issue facing investigators is a lack of evidence. No clues were left behind that would point them in the direction of Dylan's whereabouts. Dylan is 13 years old and is described as an "urban kid" who loves to play video games. His brother Cory said Dylan isn't much of an "outdoorsy type of teen."

78 comments:

Anonymous said...

"The Sheriff's Office is not calling Mark Redwine a suspect,' Dan Bender, La Plata County Sheriff's Office Public Information Officer, said."

Not calling him a suspect...

What are they calling him then?

A "Person of interest"?

Are they thinking he's a suspect?

Are they treating him like a suspect?

Doesn't sound like a very strong statement.

Anonymous said...

Also:

"However, since that house was the last place Dylan was seen, it is only prudent to do a more thorough search of that house and property for any information that can help direct us to Dylan."

" that house was the last place Dylan was seen"....

Why "THAT house"???
Why not his dad's house?
Why not Mark Redwine's house?

..."it is only prudent to do a more thorough search of THAT HOUSE and property"...

Why do they feel the need to explain this with "only prudent"? I would think this would be obvious. That says something to me. THAT HOUSE is mentioned again instead of Mark Redwine's house or Dylan's dad's house.

THAT is distancing, right?

Mainah said...

"not calling" is not the same as "not a suspect"...and the "however" cancel out what is said before it.

I'm worried LE feels the need to "court" dad into cooperating, I think.

JerseyJane said...

The best clue or direction comes from his buddies. Dylan had no problem at all hitching rides...

At 13yo THAT tells ALOT.
Maybe neither parent knows Dylan quite like they should. Both parents sound caught up in themselves to me.

John Mc Gowan said...
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John Mc Gowan said...

One swallow doesnt make a summer,i dont think there is enough red flags to start suspecting or accusing anyone just yet,i need more statements from the family and friends of Dylan.

Speaking of friends,his buddies said,
"Dylan has no problems hitching rides"
(Anything in the negative)

This again is just one sentence and not enough to go on.

Do his buddies no more than their saying?

Shelley said...

Nancy Grace had a quote that was from the father. Not sure if it was word for word but if so... The first thing said by dad was "that boy WAS my world"

And the other issue for me is that he didn't send out a single text after 8pm that night on.

13 year olds text non stop. It's what they do at that age and his family said the same thing about him. The fact that his contact shut off is very concerning... Even if he was really tired "like dad said... Kids will even lay in bed texting. And lets say had he crashed, he would been texting again the next day.

John Mc Gowan said...

"That boy was my whole world...I WOULD do anything to find him.

Is this another subtle sign that points towards the father.

I would say,i WILL do anything to find him..

Anonymous said...

@Shelley per speculation (only) at WS, there's some possibility Dylan may not have had cell service at his dad's house, depending on his provider. This could account for him going off the grid so early but it doesn't explain everything.

This speculation is based on provider coverage maps & nobody knows what provider Dylan had.

John Mc Gowan said...

OT..

I found this and find it very interesting.


Introduction to Statement Analysis: Sample Course.

http://www.deceptionanalysis.com/online_training_sample_course.html

Anonymous said...

"That boy was my whole world...I would do anything to find him."
John, I am thinking, reporters should ask back when they catch the past tense reference. They should ask: -Was? Sir, why do you say "was"?

Arrest in a missing child case after 19 years. God bless the investigators who don't give up! http://gma.yahoo.com/man-arrested-1993-missing-fla-girl-case-025202364--abc-news-topstories.html

John Mc Gowan said...

Anonymous 6;42.

What is also confusing is not only did his father reference Dylan in the past tense but his friends also did,and his mum and brother too?

Tania Cadogan said...

Anything said in the negative is sensitive :)

John Mc Gowan said...

“We asked (residents) about any sheds or barns where he could take shelter,” said Fernando Stubbs, 14, who added that Dylan had been known to hitch rides.


“HONESTLY, I THINK he was WALKING into Bayfield and got taken away,” he told the Durango Herald.


Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/colorado-teen-vanishes-court-ordered-visit-father-article-1.1207669#ixzz2DiQ4McgT

John Mc Gowan said...

Dylan is described as 5 feet tall, 105 pounds, blond hair, blue eyes and fair complexion.
He was last seen wearing a black Nike shirt, black basketball nylon shorts, black Jordan tennis shoes and a two-tone blue and white Duke Blue Devils baseball hat.
He may have a BLACK BACKPACK with him. His may have also taken his cell phone and charger with him.

A postal worker who knows Dylan reported possibly seeing him walking along County Road 501 in Vallecito Monday afternoon with another boy about the same age. BOTH HAD BACKPACKS

Investigators have not been able to determine who the two boys were that the postal worker saw. Both boys were said to be wearing hoodies and dark BACKPACKS. The sheriff’s office is asking anyone who may fit that description and who was in that area around 2 p.m. last Monday, to contact La Plata Sheriff’s Investigator Tonya Golbricht at 970-382-7019. Whoever it may have been is not in trouble. Investigators just want to determine if it was Dylan the postal worker saw or if it was two other boys.

Were these two boys Dylans friends?

Tania Cadogan said...

Police were searching the home of the father of a missing 13-year-old Colorado boy after determining that the teenager did not run away while visiting his dad.
La Plata County Sheriff spokesman Dan Bender said authorities were scouring the home of Mark Redwine Thursday because it's the last place Dylan Redwine was seen before he disappeared November 19.
Bender said the boy's father has previously allowed investigators to search his property in the mountains near Durango in western Colorado.
Dylan went to visit his dad for Thanksgiving — not because he wanted to but because a court ordered it as part of his parents' divorce. Then the 13-year-old boy vanished.
More than a week later, police were searching Colorado reservoirs and neighborhoods but still don't know what happened to the boy.
Dylan's father picked him up on November 18 at Durango-La Plata County Airport. The boy announced his arrival in Vallecito in a text message that ended with a scowling emoticon, said Elaine Redwine, his mother.
The next day, while his father ran an errand, he disappeared after setting off to meet friends in the secluded vacation spot high in the mountains near Durango.
Authorities don't believe Dylan ran away. They said he has a cell phone and has not contacted any of his friends in nearby Bayfield, where he previously went to school.
On Thursday, authorities served a search warrant at the father's home


According to the Durango Herald, Colorado Bureau of Investigation and the FBI also set up tents and a trailer outside the house. Investigators wearing white scrub-like uniforms made trips in and out of the house and a travel trailer on Thursday.
'We were checking the basement and other rooms, we were seeing if there had been something left on the bed, like his cellphone,' La Plata County sheriff's spokesman Dan Bender told ABC News. 'We weren't doing a very meticulous search.'
Bender said authorities are focusing on the possibility of foul play but hope that is not the case.
At this point, they consider their effort to be a search, not a recovery mission, he said. Bender said it was only prudent to search the house and not an indication any suspects have been identified

We've been doing a potential criminal investigation, looking at abduction, kidnapping or foul play.
‘We haven't closed out the possibility he has run away and we're still going door to door. We have an absence of clues. It's a mystery, that's what makes it so frustrating,’ he said.
Elaine Redwine told ABC News that she fears Dylan's father might have had a problem with the boy.
‘If Dylan maybe did or said something that wasn't what Mark wanted to hear, I'm just afraid of how Mark would have reacted,’ she said.
Mark Redwine said he didn't want to respond to the fears of his ex-wife.

‘I don't want to lash out,’ he told the Durango Herald.
Police have declined to comment on the suggestion.
The parents did not respond to requests for comment from the AP.
Bender said the parents divorced in 2007, and a court ordered Dylan to live with his mother while granting visitation rights for the father.
Bender refused to comment on the divorce or the suggestion by Elaine Redwine, but said, ‘If you're the parent of a child and haven't heard from him in several days, that would be difficult for anyone.’
Lia Howard, the sister of Elaine Redwine, said the family has told authorities Dylan didn't run away. She also said Dylan wanted to spend Thanksgiving with family members in Castle Rock and was disappointed he had to go to see his father.
Elaine's boyfriend, Mike Hall, who lives with the mother in Colorado Springs, declined to speculate on what might have happened to Dylan.

Tania Cadogan said...

‘I just hope we can get him back,’ Hall said. ‘We're very grateful for the support of everyone that's trying to help in that community.’
Authorities, including the FBI and Colorado State Police, are using satellites to map neighborhoods and asking the public for any video footage that includes vehicles traveling on main routes between Durango and Vallecito Lake around the time Dylan went missing.
Little has been revealed about the results of the search. A few days ago, there was a spark of hope after part of a fishing pole was found on a dam, prompting a two-day search of the area that turned up empty.
Investigators determined the discovery had no connection to the case after they located the owner of the broken pole.
The missing boy is 5 feet tall, weighs 105lbs and has blond hair, blue eyes and fair complexion. He was last seen wearing a blue-and-white Duke Blue Devils baseball cap, black Nike T-shirt and black Jordan tennis shoes.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2240655/Dylan-Redwine-missing-Colorado-authorities-search-fathers-home.html

John Mc Gowan said...

Bridget Redwine-Simmers writes on Gather.

http://simmerscdasea.gather.com/

Vita said...

Thank You John for posting the link. Irregardless of the content written by Hoffman.

I find it disheartening some of the remarks made. That is Dylan's blood who are posting. If anything I would think that it would be an avenue to ask questions, not slam the family.

They as they write are defending themselves. How did it become a pissing match instead of a helpful
discussion. HOW? By people antagonizing them the second they spoke out for DYLAN.

Dylan is Missing, he is not at fault any more than the women "family" posting on the blog written. Yet they are attacked by some, who feel they have more vested in finding Dylan? Dylan is their family for god sakes.

He is a beautiful, handsome, sweet boy as I watched a video of him.
Someone made this video of Dylan, he full of life, happy.

http://youtu.be/TgsZwb_OYW8

Serious. People if you want information to aid in the missing, do not attack the messenger. The women *family* who are defending themselves on this blog have every right to tell the offensive to shut the hell up - and get a life.

This is not about them, the women, family of Dylan. This is about Dylan. Focus on him. Focus on aiding in finding him. The smallest leads can somehow become the most significant keys to finding the missing Lost. LE I am sure is reading the blog. And paying attention to who is troll and antagonizing the family too.

It all goes without saying. Attacking the family will lead them to recoil as ignorance has zero tolerance in this instance.
They are not of Dylan's vanishing as they have written, they Love him and Want him HOME. They do not live near Colorado. They are helpless trying to aid him home.

These people are his family and they know him, his life. How are the MORONS attacking them, to help, to open up the doorway? How is this to help find Dylan?

It does not.

Dylan has to be found bottom line.
People need to step back and realize the depth of the subject. He is a precious innocent Missing and he is a Human Being. Not a Poster Child, not a commodity, not missing for others to climb on their soap box to make themselves feel important.

He is a real boy - As they know, and do not have to be told, He is Dylan and he is missing.
No rant to you John, my rant is of the posts, attacking the family.

Tania Cadogan said...

I have posyed there in regard to the use of past tense. It was the only word out the whole statement she claims was mistyped.

I wonder what the relationships are like between the families and also between those in each family.

it is confusing to say the least.

They tell us in their hearts mark is innocent, no mention about what their heads believe.

Those who are defending mark and insulting the bio mom need to decide who their priority is, Missing Dylan or the last one known to have seen him alive.

John Mc Gowan said...
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Anonymous said...

From Hobnobs comment:
‘If Dylan maybe did or said something that wasn't what Mark wanted to hear, I'm just afraid of how Mark would have reacted,’ she said.
Mark Redwine said he didn't want to respond to the fears of his ex-wife.

‘I don't want to lash out,’ he told the Durango Herald.

The father stated in the negative what he doesn't want to do. That would be to "lash" out. This is a new word introduced to us. I bet you he doesn't want to lash out! I wonder what happened the last time he did "lash" out?

John Mc Gowan said...

Investigators interview father of missing boy.

According to La Plata County Sheriff's Office, authorities concluded their search of the home around 9:00 p.m. Thursday.

Officials said that Redwine is cooperating with the investigation and he volunteered to give an official interview to the task force Thursday afternoon.

Lt. Ray Shupe with the task force said, "This is an ongoing investigation and we are not releasing any information about the official interview of Mr. Redwine or what was, or was not taken from Mr. Redwine's residence."

Authorities have ruled out the possibility that Dylan is a runaway due to the length of time he's been missing, lack of cell phone activity, and the fact that he hasn't contacted any family or friends.

They also believe there's no chance Dylan wandered off and became lost in the wild.

"Task force members are looking at this investigation as a criminal investigation," said Lt. Shupe. "We are still looking at all other possibilities."

According to La Plata County sheriff's officials, Dylan's parents have brought in friends and family from out-of-state for moral support and to assist with the continued search efforts for their son.

Door-to-door canvassing by task force members began on Tuesday, November 27 but has been concluded at this time.

Lt. Shupe said they would like to thank the community for sharing video footage of the Vallecito area, taken between the evening of Sunday, November 18 and noon on Monday, November 19.

"Footage is currently being analyzed by investigators for clues," said Lt. Shupe.

The task force is still requesting video footage or photographs that include vehicles traveling on any routes between Durango and Vallecito Reservoir during that time frame.

If you feel you have photos, or information that could assist in the search for Dylan, call the dispatch office at (970) 385-2900.

You can also leave information via voicemail at the Dylan Redwine Tip Line at (970) 382-7511.

Durango La Plata Crime Stoppers is also offering a cash reward for information leading to Dylan's whereabouts. That office can be reached by calling (970) 247-1112.

John Mc Gowan said...

Link from above.

http://www.kjct8.com/news/Investigators-interview-father-of-missing-boy/-/163152/17609894/-/yrl3duz/-/index.html

Anonymous said...

"Unfortunately, in situations like this, they are going to look at my brother as having something to do with this, but they should be looking at both parents and or anyone involved or related to their divorce proceedings. As mothers and siblings have in the past had involvement in cases like this to get back at the other parent or parents if it is a sibling. Sad, but true."

Aunt doesn't even allow for the possibility that it is a total stranger involved. She says investigate anyone related to the divorce. Funny she mentions "mothers and siblings" but not fathers?

Anonymous said...

Would police need to get a search warrant if parents voluntarily offered up their house for a full search?

Tania Cadogan said...

Anonymous said...
Would police need to get a search warrant if parents voluntarily offered up their house for a full search?


Possibly not though they probably would.

Remember debbie bradely let the police search her house supposedly fully except she placed restrictions on where they couldn't search.

Police would probably get a warrant just in case they did find something incriminating.
This would cover them against claims of an illegal search or not having the evidence allowed into court at a later date.

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla

By Dale Rodebaugh , Emery Cowan and Jordyn Dahl Herald staff writers
“There’s a combination of factors,” Bender said. “There’s been the passage of time without any sightings; DYLAN WAS NOT A VISITOR but had friends here; he has a history of staying in contact with his family and friends; and there’s been nothing on his cellphone record since he was reported missing.”
.
A telephone tip line has been set up: 382-7511.
Mark Redwine said Dylan had made tentative plans to meet friends at 6:30 a.m. Monday morning, but “nothing was etched in stone.” (Things etched in stone are meant to last ages) Bender said Dylan didn’t contact the friends then.

Mark Redwine said he was going to give Dylan a ride to his friends’ house and tried to wake him up when he left Monday morning but said Dylan was “out (opposed to “on” asleep/awake) like a light (red flags for using the word “light” and for objectifying Dylan by comparing him to a lamp, it explains the lack of DNA).” I think this means unconscious quickly. “
“I want my gut to tell me that HE’S STILL HIDING OUT THERE, but my gut is telling me SOMETHING MORE IS GOING ON,” said Vallecito resident Richard Scarbeary on Wednesday morning. (Embedded statement from neighbor.)
http://durangoherald.com/article/20121128/NEWS01/121129612/Dylan-Redwine-did-not-run-away-police-say&template=mobileart

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
it explains the lack of DNA) lack of material for the scent dogs.

Vita said...

Posted this evening, Telephone interview, Mark Redwine speaks to reporters.

http://www.9news.com/news/article/302378/188/Missing-boys-father-denies-involvement

Anonymous said...

Anon, just last Sunday morning during church, I leaned over to my mother and motioned toward my daughter who had fallen asleep in my lap, and whispered, "She's out like a light." In fact, Anon, I use that phrase frequently describing either of my daughters and also my puppy. Also, I recall my own parents using that phrase when endearingly describing my siblings, baby cousins, Uncle Mike after the Thanksgiving turkey had taken its toll...you get my drift.

Don't make it more than it is. If he's done something to his son, it is not apparent from the usage of common phrases that mean nothing other than "sleeping really well," and yes, people actually DO use words to mean what they mean, and not to be unintentionally cryptic.

Some of y'all need to let the molehills be molehills.

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
who had fallen asleep in my lap, and whispered, "She's out like a light." In fact, Anon,…you get the point, "she's out" implies immediate prior wakefulness; "like a light" describes the time it took for her to fall asleep, it implies that she fell asleep quickly, like a light bulb turns from "on" to "off".
Back to Mark using the term to describe the last time he saw Dylan is unexpected. Expected might be: he was sleeping soundly, asleep like a baby etc.

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla

“Before I left I nudged him on the shoulder and he acknowledged that he understood that I needed to leave and if he needed anything he would just call me..”


“I think mom’s, you know, thinking that…thinking the worst or whatever. And I just think she’s looking for someone to lash out to ‘cause you know in everyone’s eyes I WAS THE LAST PERSON TO SEE HIM.”
http://www.9news.com/news/article/302378/188/Missing-boys-father-denies-involvement

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla

“Before I left I nudged him on the, you know, shoulder and he acknowledged that he understood that I needed to leave and if he needed anything he would just call me..” He is unable to quote Dylan? Unexpected. “Acknowledged that he understood”(how does that fit with “out like a light”)

“I think mom’s, you know, thinking that…thinking the worst or whatever. And I just think she’s looking for someone to lash out to ‘cause you know in everybody’s eyes I was the last person to see him.”


“That’s been one of the frustrating parts in this because the county people that started the investigation don’t seem to know how to handle a situation like this”

“ I believe that he…I, I hope that he is. I mean that’s all I got right now is that I hope that he is.

http://www.9news.com/news/article/302378/188/Missing-boys-father-denies-involvement

0 Dylan’s
12 “I”’s

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
“Before I left (missing information) I NUDGED HIM on the, you know (trying to convince), shoulder and he acknowledged that he understood that I NEEDED TO LEAVE and if he needed anything he would( wrong tense, “he could”, sounds like “he would if he could” just call me.”

John Mc Gowan said...

"I THINK MOMS LASHING out BECAUSE MOMS is THINKING the worst," Mark Redwine said. "I THINK SHES JUST looking for somebody to LASH out to BECAUSE in everybody's eyes, I was the last person to see him.".


"I think">LEAVING IT OPEN FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO THINK DIFFERENTLY.


"mum"not Elaine,MUM USED TWICE THEN CHANGES TO "SHE"WHY THE CHANGE, AND DISTANCING?


"Lashing out,lash"WE WOULD NEED TO FIND OUT WHAT HIS MEANING OF LASH MEANS IN HIS PERSONAL INTERNAL DICTIONARY.

"because">A NEED TO EXPLAIN.


"Just">MINIMISING.

"I was"Taking ownership that he was the last person to see Dylan.

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla

“I think mom’s, YOU KNOW, THINKING THAT…THINKING THE WORST or whatever. And I just think she’s LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO LASH OUT TO ‘CAUSE YOU KNOW in everybody’s eyes
I WAS THE LAST PERSON TO SEE HIM.”

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
He has domestic violence on his record. I think lashing out means to disparage Dylans mom; Out like a light is a term used to describe someone physically or chemically knocked unconscious. Followed by being "nudged".

John Mc Gowan said...

Please help find Ayla,Said,

He has domestic violence on his record. I think lashing out means to disparage Dylans mom; Out like a light is a term used to describe someone physically or chemically knocked unconscious. Followed by being "nudged".

December 1, 2012 4:50 AM

Out like a light in the uk means to fall asleep quickly.

IE, He/She was so tired he went out like a light.

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
"Out like a light" may be a truthful statement, however it doesn't fit in the context:“Before I left I nudged him on the shoulder and he acknowledged that he understood that I needed to leave and if he needed anything he would just call me..”

In a boxing match a knock-out punch can put one "out like a light' in England.

John Mc Gowan said...

Please help find Ayla,

This is why we need to know a persons,personal internal dictionary.

John Mc Gowan said...

Please help find Ayla,

Theres so many questions that need answering,now we dont know what was said when LE interviewed him.

Have they done polygraphs is one my main questions.

Anonymous said...

http://www.9news.com/news/article/302378/188/Missing-boys-father-denies-involvement

^This link has been 404ed.

Any other links?

John Mc Gowan said...
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SunnyDayNM said...

The following is an uncut interview that a Channel 7 Albuquerque NM reporter had with Mark Redwine in a local video store/command center type location - the video is 7:50 long but then it cuts off...since it's an unedited version it's interesting to watch...he does speak of Dylan in the past tense a lot...

http://www.koat.com/news/new-mexico/albuquerque/Uncut-Mark-Redwine-talks-about-son-s-dissapearance/-/9153728/17616906/-/huo4iaz/-/index.html

Vita said...

Nancy Grace Show aired Nov 28,2012
Transcript

Link: http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/1211/28/ng.01.html

This woman, Denise Hess, who is speaking on the NG show is offering information. Obviously it is not direct statements from Mark Redwine. She is repeating the conversation she had with Redwine.
She was guest on show, as a family friend.

Dad his saying of Dylan " Out like a light". Here Hess offers Dad's version of picking up Dylan, at the airport, and what happened afterward.

Copied from Transcript:

GRACE: Denise, what is the custody situation with little Dylan?

HESS: Dylan was awarded -- his mother was awarded full custody of him in September and then his father was awarded visitation on certain days.

GRACE: So how far apart do the mother and the father actually live?

HESS: It takes about traveling by -- by car, it takes about five hours to reach Colorado Springs from here.

GRACE: OK. Did Dylan drive or fly to his dad`s?

HESS: He flew in to the Durango Airport here. It`s my understanding around 6:00 or 6:30 Sunday evening.

GRACE: And what if anything did the father have planned to do with the little boy during the vacation?

HESS: I don`t know of anything specific. I know when I had spoke with the father at one point he said that they had gone shopping after they got off the -- after he picked up Dylan at the airport they had gone shopping for groceries and had talked about what they wanted to do for Thanksgiving.

I do know that Dylan had planned to spend time with friends and that he was supposed to be his friends around 6:30 in the morning, and it was his intent to get up and his dad to drive him to meet his friends at 6:30 in the morning.

GRACE: You mean on Monday morning?
HESS: Yes.

GRACE: OK. That`s interesting. That`s a new fact I didn`t know. I wonder what happened to that plan because the dad left at 7:30 without Dylan.

HESS: The dad said that Dylan had been up fairly late, the evening before he flew -- the night before he flew in to Durango. And he was really tired they had gone to bed. And that he had gotten up in the morning, stirred around the house, made some noise trying to get Dylan up, and Dylan didn`t want to get up and go into town at that time.

Vita said...

Thank You SunnyDayNM for the link.

@4:39 of the video

Finally at this marker, the reporter asks questions about Dylan once he arrived to his father. I wish she would have began the interview with these questions. As you said, the video cuts off as he is still speaking.

@4:53 His dad says that Dylan indicated to him, he had been up till 4'oclock in the morning the night before.

He goes on that Dylan was tired from the airport, the flight etc. He says of the next morning, which would be Monday, that he knows his son, that he isn't the type that will get up at 6:30 am if he doesn't have to.

Sat the 17th, Dylan stayed up until 4AM, as Dad said Dylan indicated to him.

4AM would be the morning of Sunday the 18th. He to fly out Sunday and arrive to see his Dad around 6PM.
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Why would a 13 yr old be up until 4AM? Did he have a friend over? was he playing video games?

Wondering if LE has searched Mother's house, taken the computers, checking Dylan's online activity. She said he is a Techy kid, not an outdoorsy kid.

Makes sense that he would be
" Out like a light" as Dad says Dylan indicated he was up for (?) 20hours straight the night before.

Thinking out loud, of a boy who stays up till 4AM. My daughters ex bf/friend (he 15/16 then) He would do that. Have a friend spend the night, they to play video games till dawn, while his parents slept. He would be no good to anyone the next day. Add 12 hours+ straight video game playing, no sleep, a growing boy, the next day he is worthless. Doesn't want to communicate, all he wants is to sleep. I have witnessed it, picking him up late afternoon after one of his all nighters. That the kids were to go somewhere. He to look like crap and would be quiet as a mouse, no energy. Zombie boy, his brain not working.
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Where is Dylan?

John Mc Gowan said...

SunnydayNm,

Ive just watched that VT,and again he speaks in the past tense about Dylan.

"He WAS the light of my life and he MEANT everything to me".

Interesting he uses the word LIGHT again.

Gambler said...

Reply to Anonymous
Help Find Ayla

on the other page you asked for a link to the website that said Ryan's father went to the lawyer that morning. I posted on the other page but people have moved on to this newer posting. In case you didn't see it on there I will post it here.


Here's an article mentioning Mark went to his divorce lawyer.

http://durangoherald.com/article/20121128/NEWS01/121129612/Dylan-Redwine-did-not-run-away-police-say&template=mobileart

Mark Redwine said he was going to give Dylan a ride to his friends’ house and tried to wake him up when he left Monday morning but said Dylan was “out like a light.”

The father said he had to go to Durango that morning to run errands and speak to his divorce lawyer.

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
SunnyDayNM said...
The following is an uncut interview
First moments of interview show a smiling laughing Mark Redwine…then as the interview begins…" I KNOW it's been difficult…"
-5 for smiling and laughing during an interview about Dylan's disappearance

Anonymous said...

Please help find Ayla
I'm sorry rhe above quote is incorrect…the smiling and laughing pissed me off

Jazzie said...

"Mark Redwine also agreed to give an official interview to the task force...

Redwine has given several cursory interviews in the past, but this was the first in-depth interview he has given, Shupe said.

No attorney was present for the interview, and Shupe said Redwine has not retained an attorney."

http://durangoherald.com/article/20121130/NEWS01/121139996/Investigators-complete-search-of-Mark-Redwine-s-house

Both parents spoke of Dylan in past/present tense, and others:
"Like many who spoke, he referred to Dylan in both the present tense and the past tense, reflecting the uncertainty everyone feels about Dylan’s fate."

http://www.durangoherald.com/article/20121127/NEWS01/121129616/150-people-turn-out-for-Redwine-vigil

CEC said...

About the phrase "out like a light", my late mother-in-law used that expression all the time, while watching a grandchild fall asleep quickly. She also would use the expression, "dead to the world" to describe the same thing! She was one of the sweetest people I have ever known, and completely non-violent. This is to say that while I feel Dylan's father is very likely involved in what happened to him, the "out like a light" expression isn't what gives me red flags about him.

Pak31 said...

Bender was also quoted as saying the last confirmed sighting of Dylan was Sunday. MR said he saw Dylan Monday but I guess since no one else saw him they can't confirm that he was really seen. Plus, when police needed scent items for the dogs, MR couldn't provide any. Yet if Dylan slept there on Sunday night wouldn't there be something with his scent? It's extremely odd how police have been so vague in this case. How does someone just disappear like this?

JerseyJane said...

I would love to see the grocery shopping videos ( if there were any). Curious if Dylan was doing some major sad sackin-it during those intial first 2 hours before phone was off (8pm) and father claiming early bed...I'm not condemning Dylan for moping around or sad-sackin , but it makes sense why the dad brought up the long hours of Dylan staying up before he arrived at dad's.
Reason I am Curious:
Mom said she was worried what dad would do if Dylan DID or SAID something dad didn't like ... (so mom is claiming Dylan's actions would piss dad off before something Dylan said)...........ummmmmm.
Dylan maybe never made it to bed??
I'm not condemning Dylan for moping around or sad-sackin , but it makes sense why the dad brought up the long hours of Dylan staying up before he arrived at dad's.( to cover up for lashing out or shaking the crap out of Dylan or something rough that caused death?)

Anonymous said...

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“Well it’s been a tough time for all of us I know…I know that it’s been difficult on me …an I, I can only imagine how difficult it’s been for his mom and his brother an his family over in the Colorado Springs area, and you know we’re doing everything we can to try to find Dylan and we want to keep the focus on finding Dylan. You know I’ve been working with the investigators to make sure that you know all the bases are being covered on that end, and you know that’s pretty much where I’m at with that. I mean I’m doin everything I know how to do…”

Reporter:“….when Elaine went on ABC news.”

“Right.”

“Um…Well..I, I can only imagine bein a mother, the frustration that… of hearing about your son going missing…and, you know I, I can only think that that has to do with lashing out and trying to find whose accountable for this in this situation. Um, you know, I’ve been working closely with the investigators ta,, to do what needed to be done, because, you know he, was last seen at my house, I know there’s rumors goin around that he’s been spotted by people , an, you know, our concern is that, you know, something has happened to the point now where, we just want to keep in the publics eye, you know Dylans face, and keep the focus on Dylan. An, you know, don’t worry about me, an, an, everythings going to be alright on my end. But I know this is only a troubling time for Elaine an, an, my son Cory, an I spoke with him last night, an, you know I’m surprised that we haven’t been able to hook up today because, you know, one of the things we’re trying to do is unite together, an, an, I have my oldest son from the Phonex area here and of course my brothers here, so, we’re trying to unite as a family and stay focused on what’s important here, an, you know everybody wants to focus on me but the focus isn’t me right now. The focus is finding Dylan, and that’s where I’m at..”

“Well, because I think it’s just a natural part of the process, an, I think because he was, you know, he was last seen with me, An he was with me that last night before, an I saw him the morning that I left to go run my errands, but, you know, that’s the logical place to start. An so, it doesn’t at all surprise me, you know, that they searched my home yesterday, cause quite frankly I was expecting that to happen a week ago, so. You know, my opinion is we’re all a week late in where we’re at with this, In that. Really the focus is, you know, what do we need to be doin now, to keep….searching for Dylan, and bring him home. “

Anonymous said...

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Reporter,”Do you have anything to say directly to Dylan?”

“Dylan, my prayers are with you, and I love you, very much. He was the light of my life. An he, he meant everything to me, an I just want him home, just like everybody else does. An, an, that’s why, you know we gotta keep searching for him, cause somebody knows something. We gotta find him, and we need to know that he’s ok. “

“Oh well, I know, I don’t want the focus to be mainly on me, I want the focus to remain on Dylan. Cause that’s where, that’s the most important thing right now. An, you know, if the process of …what’s going on with the authorities, and the people handling this is to search my home., you know all they had to do was ask, I woulda willingly let em come in an do it. You know, I’ve given them my, I’ve cooperated with them in every way, anything that they’ve asked me for I’ve been willing to do, anything that they’ve suggested that I do …whether it be sitting at the house waiting for the phones to ring, or, or Dylan to walk through the front door.I, I’m willing to do whatever I need to do. An that’s what I want everybody to understand, is that you know, my focus is on Dylan an, an what’s going on with him. An tryin to keep the investigation moving forward in, in whatever necessary means that, that is. An so, you know, in cooperating with them in we can keep the focus on the search for Dylan and that’s really where I’m at with all this.”

“Well there was some discussion that he had had with me the night before about leaving with me so I could drop him off in the Bayfield area with one of his friends that had been trying to text him, or he had been communicating with. You know, as he indicated to me, that he was up ‘til four o-clock the morning before, an that he was tired from bein in the airport most of the day in his travel from Colorado Springs to Durango. I laughed at him, kinda jokingly, because I know him, if he ain’t gotta get up, he, he’s not likely to get up, an he’s not the kind of kid thats gonna get up at 6:30 if he doesn’t have to, but, you know, his friends are important, an I KNOW THEY’RE IMPORTANT TO ME, so, you know there was a possibility but…it, it doesn’t surprise me that he elected not get up when I left. And when I left and he acknowledged that everything that I was sayin to him an that I would be back. He knew that when I came back I would be workin on getting him down to his friends. And that’s part of the struggle that we all have is, you know, what happened to him between the time I left and the time I got back. And that’s what nobody seems to be able to answer. “

Reporter asks about Thanksgiving plans.

“Well because he was with me for such a short period of time we, we had touch on a few things. One of the things we talked about was going to my brother David’s house in Castle Rock. Um, I know his friends were important to him. So we were wanting to make sure he had adequate time to be with his friends. Um, you know, the the basically the plan was Monday and Tuesday he would spend with his friends. Maybe Wednesday, you know, we had talked a little bit maybe about goin bowling er, or doin something as an activitiy not with just me and him , but with his friends included, an then we’d have Thanksgiving day to ourselves. Or there was the possibility that we could travel on Wednesday and get to my brothers house. So, you know, none of that ever got finalized, I mean we were just focusing on the next day, an what we were gonna do, an how that was gonna take place, an that’s as far as we really ever got. You know, I know his friends are important to him, an I certainly don’t expect him to spend a week with me, an spend every waking moment with me when he’s got his, he’s grown up in this community he has tons of people around that love and care about him “

Anonymous said...

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Reporter: “When was the last time he saw you”

“Ummm. I think probably sometime around early September I had flown him over from Colorado Springs on a round trip ticket at that point. So he came over here, an probably spent three or four days with me. In that, an obviously we got him back to the plane, got him back safely to his mom . You know in that case it was a , a transfer flight from the Durango airport, er the Denver airport to a flight leaving to Colorado Springs. An it was my goal to keep him on a direct flight, or one that he never had to change planes with, cause, you know there was some controversy between me and his mom do those kinds of things, an so, you know, when I got the flight for him I made sure that it he could get on in Colorado Springs
http://www.koat.com/news/new-mexico/albuquerque/Uncut-Mark-Redwine-talks-about-son-s-dissapearance/-/9153728/17616906/-/huo4iaz/-/index.html

JerseyJane said...

^ WoW! Great posting!!!!!

Damn, dad is sooooo furious and pissed about Dylan and him wanting to see his friends..... To keep bringing it up, wow!!
Plus first mentioning having him for such a short time( a dig to the mom with custody situation).

Well, mom said dad would be pissed about Dylan's actions versus something he says...
It's eating dad alive!!! STILL with Dylan missing.... WoW!!!!

Gambler said...

Has anyone heard if the father was asked to take a polygraph test?

He's been in contact with a defense lawyer, I wonder when he did that?

John Mc Gowan said...

Why aren't the parents doing press converances,pleading for dylan,addressing the killer/kidnappers etc to let him go,shout it from the roof tops,make as much noise,fuss as they can to try to contact him in anyway possible?

Anonymous said...

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“Well THERE WAS SOME DISCUSSION THAT HE HAD HAD WITH ME THE NIGHT BEFORE ABOUT LEAVING with me so I could drop him off in the Bayfield area WITH ONE OF HIS FRIENDS THAT HAD BEEN TRYING TO TEXT HIM, or he had been communicating with. You know, as he indicated to me, that HE WAS UP ‘TIL FOUR O-CLOCK THE MORNING BEFORE, an that he was tired from bein in the airport most of the day in his travel from Colorado Springs to Durango. I LAUGHED AT HIM, KINDA JOKINGLY, because I know him, if he ain’t gotta get up, he, HE’S NOT LIKELY TO GET UP, an he’s not the kind of kid thats gonna get up at 6:30 if he doesn’t have to, but, you know, HIS FRIENDS ARE IMPORTANT, AN I KNOW THEY’RE IMPORTANT TO ME, so, you know THERE WAS A POSSIBILITY BUT…it, it doesn’t surprise me that HE ELECTED NOT GET UP WHEN I LEFT. And when I LEFT and he acknowledged that everything that I was sayin to him an that I WOULD BE BACK. He knew that when I came back I WOULD BE WORKIN ON GETTING HIM DOWN to his friends. And that’s part of the struggle that we all have is, YOU KNOW, WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM BETWEEN THE TIME I LEFT AND THE TIME I GOT BACK. And that’s what nobody seems to be able to answer. “

Anonymous said...

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“HE WAS OUT LIKE A LIGHT”

“Before I left I NUDGED HIM on the, you know, shoulder and he acknowledged that he understood that I NEEDED TO LEAVE and if he needed anything he would just call me..”


Durango. I LAUGHED AT HIM, KINDA JOKINGLY, because I know him, if he ain’t gotta get up, he, HE’S NOT LIKELY TO GET UP, an he’s not the kind of kid thats gonna get up at 6:30 if he doesn’t have to, but, you know, HIS FRIENDS ARE IMPORTANT, AN I KNOW THEY’RE IMPORTANT TO ME, so, you know there was a possibility but…it, it doesn’t surprise me that HE ELECTED NOT GET UP WHEN I LEFT.

Anonymous said...

I agree with you regarding " out like a light" being an expression, not a red flag. I'm originally from WI and it's a phrase my family uses. I have also said " dead to the world" and my personal favorite, "I was in a coma," all referring to sleeping hard.
I also agree that something seems off with the father's comments about Dylan's disappearance. My gut tells me Dylan is dead and the father is responsible.
-Shayna

SunnyDayNM said...

Here is an article from The Denver Post this morning which fills in a little more background as to what Mark and Dylan did on Sunday right after Mark picked Dylan up:

http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_22108222/dad-its-wait-wonder

Vita said...

I don't believe Dad is guilty of anything, but loving his son.
There is a lot not being said by Dylan's mother. Her convictions are her own. Dylan has had no voice in any of the accounts.

Dylan was taken out of his community, his only known, 4 short months ago. Moved by MOM. She to move 6 hours away. I can't help but think of Sierra LaMar.

Sierra too moved from her only known. She to be a constant on her twitter, her texting, trying to hold on to her only known life.
Her Dad, she wanted to be around, He to live in Fremont. She felt displaced. Where is Sierra?

How is it that Dylan would not want to see his Buddies, be around them, as his mother says he didn't want to go. I don't believe it.
Dad to say it for him, that Dylan's friends were his everything. Yes, I believe this. His world flipped upside down, who else would he have to run to?

The parents in a tug o war over him, not yet divorced? this to remain a constant, his Dad had an appointment yet again, Monday the 19th with his Atty. Pressers to say the appointment was made prior to Dylan's arrival. That it was rescheduled. Dad went.

Did he tell Dylan, the night before, sorry Bud I have to go see my atty tomorrow morning. Your Mom and I ... Dylan so over this. Here he is sent to DAD, that his mother withheld him. He first thing in his face, his first morning is, Dad has to meet with his " Atty". He wanted to see his friends that evening as Dad says, Okay, but it was too late, no crime committed. He didn't say NO you cannot, he said wait till tomorrow. Tomorrow is what? Dad has to leave him, to go out, to meet with his divorce atty. His parents not to fix anything, they to continue, who was the bait? the pawn? Dylan.

He to sit and think, I am not sticking around to hear what Dad and his Atty talked about. He to know why and what the reason was for his Dad to meet his atty?
" Him". Children do not come with an overflow button. They can only take on so much. His mother to Poo Poo every equation and blame Dad outright. My thought is Dylan tossed his phone after Dad picked him up. He tossed it why? His mother would not leave him alone. She blowing him up with texts, with calls, what is your Dad doing now .. BS. Because She knew Dad had a meeting yet with his Attorney, contesting her custody that came in Sept? could be. She said he sent her a text he arrived and was safe. Wasn't enough for Mom? She said he sent her a scowl face. Maybe that scowl was for her. How bout that?
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I want to know why Mom is so hell bent on Mark? because she has something to lose is why. A little too late. I think Dylan was disgusted and said to himself I am out of here. He to grab his stuff, his fishing rod, his brain all over the place. He didn't have his phone to contact his buddies, so started walking and someone picked him up. He met up with someone that he thought he knew? or someone who said they knew his family or friends? Sicko's can make anything sound " right" if a kid is down and out, and feeling lost. Sure Bud hop in, I will take you to Bayfield, No problem.
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How Come Mom hasn't disclosed that Mike Hall is her Ex Husband?
That she married him in 1988. She married Mark in 91. She is or isn't divorced from Redwine? That she calls Hall in the press her Significant other. No he is her Ex Husband. El Paso County-CO
Instrument Number: 001685600
Date Recorded: 3/30/1988 11:35:00 AM
Document Type:
MARRIAGE LICENSE - FROM VAX
HALL MICHAEL LEE
HATFIELD ELAINE SUSAN
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Dylan took it upon himself to leave his dad's house not thinking anything could be worse than what he knew. :( The fact that Mom has not disclosed her past is troubling to me, that she can point all wrong doings unto Dad - It doesn't add. Dylan's leaving on foot, a product of her spinning, not Dads. This is my gut. He thought he was going to have a breather, to come back to his dad. It didn't work out that way.

Vita said...

Dec 2, 2012 -

Dylan wouldn't have run away: He was too happy, his father said, in spite of the fact that his parents had

been locked in a rough divorce battle for about seven years. It's unlikely he was abducted from this home in a tiny community where everyone knows everyone else in the offseason and few lock doors.

That leaves hitchhiking.

Mark said he learned from some of Dylan's friends in the wake of the disappearance that his son had been known to hitchhike.

So he ponders the what-ifs and details that might have led to Dylan's hitchhiking.

His son, who had flown in the evening before his disappearance to spend Thanksgiving with his father, badly wanted to go see friends who lived in Bayfield. Dylan had lived near there with his mother, Elaine Redwine, until July, when they moved to the Front Range.

Dylan had asked his father whether he could go to his friends' that evening after they had shopped at Walmart and eaten at a McDonald's in Durango and before the 45-minute drive to Mark's home north of Vallecito Lake. Mark said he told his son it was too late. So Dylan texted friends in Bayfield, his father said, and made arrangements to meet them the next morning.

The next morning, Dylan was sleeping on the couch where Mark Redwine now sits and where Dylan's blankets still lie jumbled. Mark said he waited until 7:30 a.m. but still couldn't rouse his son, so he told him he would return about 11. When he got back at 11:30, his son's dirty cereal bowl was beside the sink. The television was on Nickelodeon. His son's fishing pole was gone. So was his black-and-gray backpack. A few articles of clothing were left behind on the couch.

"His priority was pretty much with his friends, so I wasn't alarmed," Mark said.

In hindsight, Mark wonders whether Dylan became impatient and hitchhiked. "I can't quite wrap my mind around that yet," he said.

Mark said he tried texting Dylan all afternoon in an area with spotty cellphone service. When he didn't hear anything back by late afternoon, he went to Dylan's friend's house in Vallecito. That friend hadn't seen him.
Mark became alarmed and drove the 20 miles to Bayfield. Dylan's friends there hadn't seen him either. Mark called Elaine Redwine and went to the Bayfield Marshal's Office.

Read more:
http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_22108222/dad-its-wait-wonder

John Mc Gowan said...


That he came home the cereal bowl was empty and the tv was on the nicklodeon channel.

However if dylan was prone to hitchicking alone would he be the kind of kid to sit and watch Nicklodeon,it seems to me that, that channel is a little to childish for someone of his temperament.

Also his dad seems to be placing an awful lot of emphasis on dylans friends.

Vita said...

John have you watched Nick lately?

It's the mild version of MTV.
http://www.nick.com/

Dylan is 13 - Nick suits him. Yes.

John Mc Gowan said...

Cheers Vita,

I'm getting old lol.

Anonymous said...

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If Dylan is alive and watching this on TV he is seeing his dad be a deceptive coward.

Lulu said...

With the emphasis that dad placed on how important Dylan's friends are to him...I think they fought about Dylan wanting to see his friends instead of visiting with his dad. I have a feeling the argument went too far. Who knows what happened next - Dylan jetting or Mark flipping out. Sad.

Anonymous said...

Mom pointed a finger way too fast....

Jen said...

I'm fairly new to SA but I see a lot of red flags and sensitivity in the fathers interview. I'm looking forward to Peter's analysis. I'm not even close to being able to analyze but I'll post what stands out to me...please be gentle, lol

Mark Redwine repeatedly refers to Dylan's in the past tense and mentions his friends being his priority multiple times. He states in the negative that he didn't expect Dylan to spend the whole week with him, and he appears to confuse his pronouns in one of his statements regarding 'his friends are important, and I know they are important to ME' (I know we are not supposed to interpret, however watching the video hes speaking of Dylan's possibly getting up early to go see his friend and it sounds more like he confused his words saying Me rather than HIM). 

He slightly disparages the victim when he speaks of him being unlikely to get up early if he didn't have to and introduces the topic of purchasing a round trip ticket for Dylan to have a direct flight for his last visit (he also feels he need to mention that he got Dylan home safely to his mom after the visit..trying to portray himself as a good parent). He brings up the fact that Dylan had been tired from being up til 4am and then in the airport all day, and that he and the mother had issues regarding the airports and Dylan's flights. (he seems to be trying to portray himself as the more caring parent, who pays more for a direct flight than his ex who leaves Dylan having to spend all day in the airport...unreal that he introduces this topic when his time on air should be spent speaking of/to Dylan, not his petty squabbling with his ex-wife over flight plans)

He says he is 'cooperating in every way' (same as 'fully cooperating')..with investigators and we all know what that usually means...he confirms that he is not on the same page as investigators by saying that if they wanted to search his house 'all they had to do was ask' and then disparages law enforcement by saying he feels they should have searched his house a week ago and that they are running a week behind.  He qualifies his cooperation in several different ways, saying he is 'doing whatever they ask, whether it be waiting by the phone or for him to walk thru the door' and that "in cooperating with them in we can keep the focus on the search for Dylan and that’s really where I’m at with all this.”  

Jen said...

In the almost 8min of interview, he only speaks directly to Dylan once, after being prompted to address him by the interviewer. He says one sentence... "Dylan, my prayers are with you and I love you very much", before returning the focus to the interviewer and speaking in the past tense of how 'he was the light of my life', etc. (I don't know where to start on this one, it's SO not what I expect to hear a father say to his missing son! 'My prayers are with you', feels like something you say to a friends who's mom is sick or someone who is removed from personal feelings rather than how you would speak to your child in crisis.)

Now on to the 'out like a light' controversy. I agree 'out like a light' may be an innocent expression used by many people, however in this case it still doesn't fit. Dad's story has evolved a lot, from not seeing him at all in the morning, to seeing Dylan and him being 'out like a light', and now to "“Before I left I nudged him on the shoulder and he acknowledged that he understood that I needed to leave and if he needed anything he would just call me". I certainly wouldn't use the phrase, "out like a light" to describe a person who I nudged awake and communicated with. If I tried to wake them with no response then maybe, but in this latest story where Dylan acknowledges and understands that his dad is leaving, etc..I don't think so.

The most significant issue that makes me question the fathers intentions is something that isn't really being addressed...a divorce doesn't have to drag out for 7 years unless someone wants it to. It appears from the known facts that the mother wants the relationship over and has moved away and on with her life, leaving the assumption that the father may be using the courts to harass and continue having some control over her by use of their shared son.

Statement Analysis Blog said...

Jen, "my prayers are with you" are words said to a friend, as you described, and not up close and personal, like a father might.

good post

Peter

Anonymous said...

Anon-Ayla, I totally get why he uses the word "would" instead of "could [call me]." I would also express it this way, as a guarantee that he WILL let me know if there's a problem or need, not that he CAN let me know such. "Could" in this context, is much less personal, and certainly less parental; "could," is the word to use when we know the person has and may utilize other options besides our assistance - like, when a friend is sick and you say, "I made sure he knew he could call me for anything at all." The friend probably has a spouse or parents or others closer to him that WOULD help, but that if more were needed, he COULD rely on his friend, also.

As the parent, Dylan’s father is insisting on a verbal agreement that he WILL call him if the need arises, not just “you CAN call me if a need arises.” “Will/would” is a much stronger term, indicating that to Mr. Redwine, it is of high importance that Dylan contact specifically his father if he needs anything or if there is a problem. Also, we’re talking about a 13-yr-old boy here. Mr. Redwine was likely also confirming that if there was a need or a problem, Dylan wouldn’t just…oh, I don’t know…up and leave, but that he WOULD call his father for help or information. Mr. Redwine was clearly justified in emphasizing this, and I think that’s why he highlights it in the interview. This is a sensitive point in the timeline to him, because this is the point at which he took care to get his son’s verbal acknowledgement that he would NOT do exactly what it looks like he may have done. This “conversation,” or exchange, is not only the last thing Mr. Redwine said to his son, but it’s also where he made sure his son understood that Dad will handle it if something comes up; just let him know…and Mr. Redwine is left to recall that admonition now, after it seems his son chose not to follow his father’s instructions and left to go see friends instead of waiting on his dad to return home and take him. The history of hitchhiking that his friends have described bears this out even more. These things corroborate Mr. Redwine’s version of events, and nearly everyone here is overlooking them. One word doesn’t necessarily indicate wonderful parenting, but the “would” statement by Mr. Redwine indicates specific concern and responsible parenting. Now, can I say he’s a fabulous parent on this statement alone? Nope. Just like none of you can say that he’s done something to his son based on one or two lines of text (and yes, after the very first article on the topic, many here were all “Dad did something to his son; why won’t he talk?”). It goes both ways.

Anonymous said...

The reason Mr. Redwine emphasizes Dylan’s friends so much, in my opinion, is because that’s what Mr. Redwine was thinking about while he was searching for his son. He went to their homes (he probably didn’t have their home numbers because Dylan had those in his phone, and since Dylan had his own phone, Mr. Redwine could check on him using that instead of calling the friends’ parents). Up until Dylan couldn’t be found at his friends’ homes, Mr. Redwine was probably pretty angry with his son for leaving without telling his dad where he had gone. Now, Mr. Redwine focuses on how much Dylan wanted to visit with his friends because he feels guilty. He feels heartbroken because, had he only been able to know that he would be searching for days for his missing son, he would have canceled that appointment and taken his son anywhere in the world. As an onlooker, I recognize that Mr. Redwine did nothing wrong by keeping his appointment, because he tried to make provisions for his son to do something he’d wanted to do, and did not expect to be leaving Dylan at home all morning. Mr. Redwine, however, is probably beating himself to a pulp over not placing a higher importance on getting Dylan to see his friends over anything else that was to take place that day; you know how our rational minds tell us that we could not know the future, and could not have foreseen tragedy ahead, but how we’ll come up with every irrational accusation of ourselves when we didn’t know what was coming and something bad happens. This is called guilt, and it is common for parents of missing kids, even if they’ve done everything correctly. They will second-guess themselves to insanity over what they “should have known,” when we on the outside know there’s no way they could have. Now, Mr. Redwine not only deals with all of that, but also feels guilty for originally being angry with his son for leaving without permission and for thinking he was still disobeying by not answering texts and calls, now knowing that, all the while, something bad had happened to his son and that’s why he wasn’t responding.

This is all my own speculation of what may have taken place. This makes more sense to me than an immediate rush to incriminate a father who is losing hope by the minute that his son will be found alive.