Thursday, April 18, 2013
Hailey Dunn: The Anxiety of Waiting
There is the self destructive fatalism of the one driving the stolen car, not fully enjoying the comfortable ride of the fancy, expensive car, because, as he knows, it is just a matter of time before he gets caught.
Last month, remains were found in Scurry County, the county that Shawn Adkins informed investigators that they should be looking in.
We also disclosed that a particular article of clothing was found near the remains that strongly suggests that the remains belong to Hailey Dunn, as well as the comment that DNA would not be difficult to retrieve from a reliable commentator. As we covered on Crime Wire, "point hunter" who revealed himself to be Curtis Lloyd, was truthful (as seen through the lens of Statement Analysis) in his descriptions.
People have posted false identities in the past, including those who claimed to be Shawn Adkins. When asked "how do you know you are now not being fooled?" the answer remains the same: Statement Analysis. Truth was discerned; it is the same principles followed in all claims made.
When we are able to reveal more detail, we will. We are not in a 'race' of sorts with local media, it is just that with any sensitive information, we want to know that justice is always unimpeded.
Consider that our impatience is that of the public; a public who was appalled to learn of the details disclosed in the police affidavit, as well as the responses thrust upon us by the victim's mother, who has made many appearances on television and radio, finally charging the police with conspiracy against her and her boyfriend, whom the police have named "Persons of Interest."
What of them? What of their waiting? Wait of the anxiety they must be experiencing?
As noted in the language ("the statement is alive, but the subject is dead") the mother distanced herself, within the statement, from December 27th 2010 10PM, and onward. From this point, the victim's mother said things like "I had David text her" and "I did not touch her" and "she looked like she was sleeping" and even had her son text Hailey's girlfriend to tell Hailey...
Even while allegedly at a "sleep over" the same mother who called herself "wonderful" could not bring herself to say:
"I called her to talk to her..."
"I called to see if she was okay, since I had not heard from her."
"I called her to correct her for getting permission to sleep over"
"I called to say goodnight..."
"I called to tell her I love her"
She did not "call" Hailey that afternoon where she allegedly said "tell my mom I am sleeping at Marybeth's...", nor did this "wonderful" mother call her that night. In fact, the mother did not say, what might be expected: what her last conversation was like with Hailey.
I would love to ask her, "Tell me about the last time you yourself spoke to Hailey" without warning, so that she would have to enter the Free Editing Process.
This "moving on" was seen in her statements, but it was also in her behavior:
the victim's mother "moved on" with her life because she had to do so to survive. Recall the "tell tale heart" beating louder and louder, driving the killer into madness...I think that as long as she was able to keep talking to the media, she kept the noise of the beating heart down. Now, she has gone silent, like her attorney wanted her to, and it must be madness waiting for both her and Shawn Adkins.
The victim's mother sold Hailey's dog.
The victim's mother painted Hailey's room.
The victim's mother changed phone numbers and "announced" it on television so "Hailey" would "know" that her mother has a different phone number...and, by the way,
the mother moved away and has a different address. Did she publicly announce that, too?
This was a "moving on" in Behavioral analysis but it started in the statement, bled over to the watching of television instead of searching, the New Year's Eve party, the out partying, sexting, and getting in trouble.
Now, she and her former boyfriend have more "moving on" to do.
What does one do when one is expecting an arrest?
An arrest means that mobility, something we likely do not think about much, will be severely restricted, beginning with the wearing of handcuffs, leaving one quite vulnerable.
Next, they will be taken to a place in which they do not wish to go, and be given clothing they do not wish to be wearing.
How does one prepare for this?
What must the anxiety of waking up, every day, wondering if this will be a day in which my plans go forward, or is it the day I have lived dreading? Thinking in pragmatic terms:
Do they pack their belongings?
Do they attempt to settle up affairs? What do you say to the landlord?
What do they do with their belongings? Clothing, shoes, personal belongings? It is not like one can pack a suitcase for jail, and in spite of what attorneys promise...what about bail money?
Place David with relatives?
Seek to get bail money together from relatives?
Do they visit with relatives and prepare them for the news? Do they continue to maintain the deceptive sleep over story, or has it grown wearisome in the soul to keep up the same changing story?
Do they hold garage sales to sell off what they have for cigarette money in jail? Do they sell the things they think others will only steal, anyway?
Do they have anyone who can store their belongings?
As you read this, look around your home. What would you do if you were facing the rest of your life in prison? What would you do with the things that are dear to you?
Would either of them sell things to provide for David? He is a young man who should be in college, yet his mother and grandmother might be in jail together? What kind of legacy is that for him to live with?
Recall the Maine man who had shot and killed the Florida firefighter/drug dealer. He drove to say goodbye to his grandmother, knowing that he was going to spend the rest of his grandmother's natural life in prison. It was a very sad day for his grandmother, who kissed her grandson goodbye, knowing that likely, she would never see him again. (in that case, at the initial hearing, his supporters came out wearing t-shirts proclaiming his innocence. There were no supporters there last week when he pled guilty).
What about Adkins' grandmother? Does he say "goodbye" forever to her? His family is limited in means and they do not have a free hot shot attorney to represent him.
Even in the cause of justice, there is sadness; enough sadness to spread around. While we may rejoice that justice for Hailey is come, what of, for example, the grandmother of Shawn Adkins' pain? Justice is best served with a sober and heavy heart. If not for the taunting of Billie Dunn, her attorney might have had a chance at gaining sympathy for her, but with her saying,
"The important thing people need to remember is to not slander me" and 101 other narcissistic antagonistic statements with similar "me first" echoes. Billie Jean Dunn repeatedly publicly chose Shawn Adkins over Hailey, even as people supporting her begged her not to. It was who she is.
"Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." It is a matter of listening and learning.
All the while, they both must consider making a deal to testify against the other, but now, having waited so long, will prosecution even accept a deal?
Whatever we may feel in waiting for justice, imagine what others are feeling, waiting daily for the same justice. The perpetrators of the crime must feel anxiety, but so do the perpetrators' families, some of whom have endured the last two years of shame, knowing how friends and neighbors exchange knowing glances when they pass them in the supermarket. They suffer too.
What Hailey suffered is what must be answered for, yet the attendant suffering continues and will continue. Even those who emotionally and physically wore themselves down searching, or investigating the case suffer. Recall what John Douglas experienced in his search for a killer; it almost killed him. Consider the suffering that Susan Murphy Milano carried with her, long before her diagnosis, when her body was silently fighting off vicious memories of her putting herself in harm's way to sacrifice herself to save her siblings.
There are family members, on both sides, who will suffer from the selfish and perverted action taken by those who killed Hailey. Family likely saw the slippery desensitization process those two went through getting deeper and deeper into the darkness of horror, and the growing fascination with blood; knowing they had to deaden their own consciences with drugs...drugs that Billie Dunn once eschewed and refused to get involved in.
Drugs stole the souls, but yes, the souls were open prey to being stolen by the slow, dangerous and vile 'grooming' they did to themselves, to one another, and eventually, to the innocent young victim, who's voice cries out for justice.
Although the cries of others is heard, it is Hailey's voice that is just a little bit louder, and a little bit clearer, and who's response appears to be, now, at hand.