|We were okay, but then the music started and...|
|Nobody, but Nobody, can dance with a daughter like Dad! Be warned, young men! I am not a balanced, neutral, peace loving father when it comes to my baby!|
"But, Dad, we're just friends!"
Principle: 'extra' words give us additional information. Your daughter (not mine) could have said, "Dad, we're friends!", and the sentence would have been complete. Therefore, the word "just" is significant.
The word "just" will creep into the subject's language in less than a micro second. It is highly significant.
It is used to compare one thing with at least one other thing.
For example, I want to sell you a car for $15,000 but I know you are thinking it is too much money. Therefore, I roll out a few $25,000 cars first, which look very similar, and then...
I roll out the 15K car and say, "Ah, yes, I know $25,000 is way out of your price range, but this one...yes, this one is just $15,000."
The word "just" is used to compare.
Parents, listen carefully to the language your kids use, following the pronouns, and grabbing those "extra" words, which are so very important.
If you catch your spouse using these words, it may be that he or she is "just" friends, but first ask yourself:
"Who brought in the comparison?"
If you, the suspicious spouse did, the word "just" is an appropriate response. But if you ask, "Who did you have lunch with?" and you get, "I went to lunch with Bob; we're just friends" you now know that the subject, has compared the level of friendship she has with Bob with another level.
Proceed with caution.