Saturday, November 30, 2013

False Accusation of Childhood Sexual Abuse

by Peter Hyatt

With the sexual abuse allegation by a grown woman against her father, there is a need for Statement Analysis.

What if the woman is telling the truth?

What if the father is falsely accused?

What if a therapist is touting a new theory and is playing with lives?

What if a vengeful parent has talked her daughter into making the false claim?

What if it really did, in deed, happen?

Statement Analysis can get to the truth.

I have worked with some fathers who were falsely accused.  Those men who were falsely accused loved their daughters and said things like this:

"I love my daughter.  I did not molest her, touch her, show her porn, or anything like that.  I would never as a father do such things. But someone has.  My daughter needs help.  Please help her!  I will take a polygraph if needed, but please help my daughter."

In spite of fear of being falsely accused and falsely imprisoned, the caring father speaks out due to his love of his daughter, showing that he loves her, more than he loves his own life.

The victim's own statement can be analyzed, knowing that with PTSD like symptoms, some present tense language will be indicated.

The diagnosing psychologist will not only need to get to the truth, but will need to know what actions were taken by the victim. This is because the psychological trauma of child rape, for example, can cause the child to disassociate as the brain protects itself.  The language will seem passive, as if the subject is "watching herself" be abused.

In the case against William Kennedy Smith, there was not a rape, in legal terms, that took place, but the victim's language did, in fact, show that she has been sexually molested in childhood.

When a child is subjected to rape at an early age, you can expect some extreme reactions from her...perhaps not until adolescence, and then again, statistically, in her mid 30's, but you will get reactions:

extreme promiscuity
substance abuse
anorexia
suicidal ideation


In short, you often find victims of early and acute childhood sexual abuse doing one thing well in life, consistently:

destroying her own life.  Later in life, she may be frigid, unable to enjoy intimacy.

The psychologist must know that the actions speak as do the words.

The statement analyst can learn truth from deception, and since the child's brain has an extreme reaction to the abuse (disassociation), the analyst must be very careful to stitch together the language, over time, that the victim's brain is willing to yield, often in small increments.  Whatever word slips out, must be considered highly significant.

One MUST hear.

A child who is sexually abused fears muted her entire life.  That child must have a voice.  This is why I implore therapists to take the SCAN training and put its tools to good use.  I think some of the best therapists are likely intuitive about language, something that would be in agreement with the SCAN technique, and who, when trained, would take to the training without difficulty.

I have had many cases in which the woman was telling the truth, and her history only bore testimony that she had been sexually assaulted in early childhood, interfering with the natural development of the brain.

I have also had cases where the father was falsely accused.  In one case, the victim simply entered into the language of her mother, and when confronted with this, confessed.  I also learned that the mother owed the father money, and had hoped for extortion.

Extortion.

Guilty parties often seek to silence the victim.

A little girl who is sexually assaulted feels muted.  Some will delay speech, and others will grow up incapable of standing up for themselves.

Disassociation through child rape, for example, can lead to a woman incapable of true empathy for others, as they learn to detach from pain.  Often, the only way to get "the story" is to listen for the missing information that SCAN so well identifies...

"The next thing I knew..."

"And so I left."

Readers here know that these are signals of missing information, and jumps in time.

We will look at a series of examples of statements in which sexual abuse was indicated, and we will show when in which the subject was deceptive, and later confessed to the deception.

The falsely accused father, who loves his daughter, will cooperate with the therapist, or police investigation, and the interview will be "team work" to get to the truth.

Due to detachment and disassociation, it can be very difficult to string together a cohesive statement from a victim, but the diagnosis must include external testimony of behavioral interactions.

It is a very tragic outcome, no matter what help is given, and for a moment's perverse "pleasure" by the perpetrator, the woman is given a life sentence of pain; along with all who love her.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

this is very interesting.

I think it's worth adding that some savvy, worldly, abusers --- feel very comfortable offering their assistance to police, etc. surely for a range or reasons but also for the specific reason that it shows the victim that they (the abuser) are connected to the pottential sources of help -- more deeply than the victim. and are therefore more credible.

Ivanna-Anna said...

Is there a typo in the example?
"I would never as a father do such things"
- never as a father (but perhaps as an uncle)?

GetThem said...

The father's statement is unreliable. Lots of distancing language. Never mentions her by name. Also, saying: As a father I would not do that and a stranger did it.

Anonymous said...

Angela Steinfurth, 25, of 329 Valleywood Dr., was indicted by a Lucas County grand jury for murder in the death of Elaina Steinfurth, who was 18 months old when she was last seen June 2.

Steven King II, 24, of 704 Federal St., was indicted on charges of aggravated murder, tampering with evidence, and abuse of a corpse in the child’s death.

https://www.toledoblade.com/Courts/2013/12/02/Couple-indicted-in-death-of-toddler-Elaina-Steinfurth.html#7V1wtj0RpueHGObL.99

Anonymous said...

Mackenzie Phillips talks about her incestuous relationship with her dad. I didn't detect deceit. Interestingly I noticed when she changed from dad to father. I believe her.

http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0910/03/lkl.01.html

Anonymous said...

I think, percentage-wise, there are few people who accuse others falsely of any kind of abuse. It is the abusers who are experts in lying. In fact, my parents were both physical and emotional abusers, and it is like they took a class somewhere on how to lie to deny the abuse took place.
My father has said to me "You just love to rewrite the past." This is his way of denying he physically assaulted me on many occasions. My mother says similar things, for example, "you just hate me so much you imagine that I did that". Do these abusers take a class somewhere on how to lie to deny the abuse happened and how to deflect attention from what they are being accused of and onto the victim supposedly "fabricating" reality?
To even say a person "loves" to fabricate reality?
I feel parents should think long and hard about what kind of parent they will be BEFORE they have children. These abusers have to know that they are lying lunatics before they have children. It amazes me why they don't just not have children!

Anonymous said...

peter, i love your blog, read it often and try to learn these techniques.
i was sexually assualted by my father starting at eight years old.
as a nurse i empathize and sympathize every day with ppl. i am very good at it.
your commments made me realize that i don't do it enough outside the jobm and i will work on that. i'm making it no 1 on my list.

clair said...

Hi
Because you have had training with sexual abuse victims, do you know if a woman can overcome childhood abuse, and enjoy sex later in life with her husband?

Anonymous said...

Off Topic: Question about lying:
My mother thinks her hubby might be cheating on her (long story). Here is a specific example: He told her he is going to a celebratory work dinner so will be home late. cThen when he returns home he says "Wow, that was a boring meeting." Then she says "It was a dinner right?" He very smoothly picks up from there. She asks him "It was at (place name) right?" He responds "Yes it was at (place name). ". He then says "Yep they had a lot of things to choose from to eat. They had chicken. They had shrimp and chicken. They had steak. They had fish and shrimp. They had pasta. ". My question: Is this repetition of "they had....." they had...." they had" indicative of lying? He repeated "they had" before each dish name. This person is extremely shady. Thanks for any input!

Jen Ow said...

Hi Anon 10:49-

I would say the repetition is an attempt to convince, and reinforce the idea that he was actually there. Any repetition is flagged for sensitivity, and he uses reflective language in answering her question about the meeting/dinner (it was at-----, right? Yes it was at ---). He simply added 'yes', then repeated her question.

I also find it strange if he offered the information about the 'boring meeting' without being asked or prompted. Blurting out how 'boring that meeting was' seems like an over the top effort to convince her that he was actually at a meeting.

Ivanna-Anna said...

"My mother ... her hubby"
Because you use a more tender term for the husband than the mother, I got the feeling that you are closer to the husband than the mother, and so you might be talking about your own husband, not your mother's. If this is the case, do you have more exact phrases he said to you? (My reasoning is: if your mum's husband said something to your mum, and your mum told it to you, the words have probably changed/phrases distorted, taking the value away from the analysis).

Please note: I don't know what the blog rules are regarding analysing a reader's personal text.

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john said...

Hi Ivanna-Anna, i agree with what you say about words/phrases being changed and not having direct quotes making difficult to analyse.

For me, there is a lot more going on within this statement than meets the eye.

My mother thinks her hubby might be cheating on her (long story).

My Mother = We see here the word "My" being used, this puts the person close to the Mother with possessive pronoun "My" taken ownership of their word's and the Mother.

"Her hubby" = This for me is distancing language, if your Mum? is who you claim she is?.

Hubby = Also, Hubby is a personal title.

Her Hubby = Has you Mum been Married before given that you don't use the word "My" Dad, is he your Dad?. My guess and only a guess is he is not.

HE TOLD her he is going to a celebratory work dinner so will be home late.

"He told her" = This sound like a one way conversation given the use of the stronger word "Told" and not the softer word "Said"

"so will be home late."

"So" = A need to explain making it very sensitive.

"Will be home late." = dropped pronoun i would expect. "He" will be home late" Therefore taken ownership of his words.

"Then when he returns home he says"

Skip in time, missing information.

"Then when he returns home he says"

"Return's home" = Present tense ? I would expect "Returned home"

"He says" = Again Present tense. I would expect "He said"

"Wow, that was a boring meeting."

Then she says "It was a dinner right?"

"Wow" = Why would your Mum feel the need to use this word, and not just say, "He said/told her "It was a boring meeting".

"Wow, that was a boring meeting."

We see here the use of the word "Was", a shift into past tense, were before, present tense was being used?.

"Wow, that was a boring meeting."

Was he asked how the dinner went? If not, i would question why he feels the need to offer up this information.

She asks him "It was at (place name) right?"

(place name) right?" = This is feeding him the answer, were by he responds.

"Yes it was at (place name). "

This is a reflected answer and maybe deemed unreliable.

He then says "Yep they had a lot of things to choose from to eat. They had chicken. They had shrimp and chicken. They had steak. They had fish and shrimp.They had pasta.

"He then says" = Now we a have a shift back to present tense?.I would expect "He then SAID" past tense.

"Yep" = Change in language from "Yes" to "Yep"

"Yep they had a lot of things to choose from to eat. They had chicken. They had shrimp and chicken. They had steak. They had fish and shrimp. They had pasta.

"To eat" = These two words are unnecessary. Take them out the sentence and the message still gets across. Also why does he feel the need to use these word's when it's quite obvious he is going for something to eat when you told us he said. "He told her he is going to a celebratory work dinner so will be home late"

"They had chicken. They had shrimp and chicken. They had steak. They had fish and shrimp. They had pasta."

Order is important. He places "Chicken" first. Is this his favorite food?.

"They Had" x 6. A very noticable repetition of "They had" making it very sensitive

"This person is extremely shady"

"This person"

This = close.

"This person" = Gender neutral, and a change in language from the more personal word "Hubby"

"Shady" = What is your definition of "shady"?.

Given the shift's in tense's and the changes in language. Again i believe there is more going on in this statement than meets the eye?.

john said...

OT..

I lifted this from "Eyes For Lie's blog"

David Camm: 3rd Trial Sets Him Free.

David Camm supposedly found his wife and kids shot to death inside their family garage back in September of 2008. You can hear his 911 call above. David Camm faced three trials, in which two of the verdicts were overthrown, and Camm was given new trials. The last trial ended in October of this year, and this time David Camm was vindicated and sent free.

Transcript of call..

Ind. State Police: Can I help you?

Camm: Patrice, it's Dave Camm. Let me talk to post command right now.

ISP: Okay, he's on another line.

Camm: (inaudible) Let me talk to post command.

ISP: Hold on. Dave?

Camm: Get everybody out here to my house, now.

ISP: Okay. Alright.

Camm: My wife and my kids are dead. Get everybody out to my house.

ISP: (talking off phone) Okay, David, we got people on the way okay?

Camm: Get everybody out here.

ISP: Everything is going to be okay, alright. We're going to get you...

Camm: Everything is not going to be okay. Get everybody out here now. (crying)

ISP: They're coming. Go to Dave Camm's house, now.

Camm: (crying) (inaudible)

ISP: Do you know what happened, David?

Camm: No. (crying) They're dead. I just got home from playing basketball. They're dead.

ISP: (radio chatter)

Camm: Oh my God. What am I gonna do?

ISP: Huh?

Camm: (crying)

ISP: David, they're on their way right now, okay?

Camm: They're dead.

ISP: I got everybody coming, okay? Listen, I'm gonna let you talk to Patrice while I get people
coming.

Camm: I can't talk to Patrice. I gotta get some help. (inaudible)... to my parent's house.

ISP: Okay, David, do you need an ambulance?

Camm: Get everybody out here.

ISP: Do you need an ambulance?

Camm: I gotta go!

ISP: Dave? He hung up.

http://www.wdrb.com/story/23235076/raw-david

Ivanna-Anna said...

Great analysis on the hubby text, John.

Anonymous said...

Thanks all for the analysis. John, thank you for going in depth. He is my Dad but, interestingly, I sometimes don't like to call him my Dad. This conversation was overheard verbatim while me, my husband, and my son were over at my parents' house for dinner (Thanksgiving leftovers). A little background--I repeated this conversation as it had just happened and I could remember it verbatim. My father has, for years and years, made excuses to be gone in the evening/night (not all night) as much as possible. He makes all kinds of excuses ranging from having to go to the store, to a meeting, to just any ruse that he can think of. I believe he is having some kind of affair but would never have the heart to tell my mother this. She looks the other way. My husband does not think my Dad is having an affair. He thinks he is just making excuses to get away from my Mom. I believe he probably is having an affair. Sometimes I wonder if he has used his family as window dressing. Maybe he is gay? The reason why I asked you guys is because the behavior is really strange--he has been up to something for a very long time, but like I mentioned, my husband thinks he is just avoiding my Mom because he thinks she's annoying. I, however, suspect something more troubling, like an affair. It really isn't my business, but after overhearing the conversation I figured I would ask about it here since you guys are good lie detectors.

john said...

Thanks Anon 5:21 for letting me know about your "Dad", it helps me when i get feed back. It teaches me to look at statements from all angles. I hope everything works out well. :-)

Anonymous said...

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My father has, for years and years, made excuses to be gone in the evening/night (not all night) as much as possible. He makes all kinds of excuses ranging from having to go to the store, to a meeting, to just any ruse that he can think of. I believe he is having some kind of affair but would never have the heart to tell my mother this. She looks the other way. My husband does not think my Dad is having an affair. He thinks he is just making excuses to get away from my Mom. I believe he probably is having an affair. Sometimes I wonder if he has used his family as window dressing. Maybe he is gay? The reason why I asked you guys is because the behavior is really strange--he has been up to something for a very long time, but like I mentioned, my husband thinks he is just avoiding my Mom because he thinks she's annoying. I, however, suspect something more troubling, like an affair. It really isn't my business, but after overhearing the conversation I figured I would ask about it here since you guys are good lie detectors.
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Follow him some evening(s).

Anonymous said...

My daughter was abused by her dad at a very early age. Now at 6 yrs old once in a while she will say how her dad "hurt her" and "did bad things" since getting full custody she has made huge progress. When she first came with me ft she didnt talk, she was very aggressive, often hitting and bitting, and had unusual fears like of bubbles. She would scream at the sight of a bubble bath. Because of her age she doesnt have deep invasive therapy but rather works on improving language and nonverbal skills and teaching her empathy. I was very scared because she lacked empathy. Peter I am curious if there is a way to avoid an adult life of pain and suffering. Sometimes for little provocation she will kick our dog. It scares me.