Monday, November 4, 2013
NFL Player Suspended for Bullying
Masculinity is the sacrifice of strength for right purposes. This means to yield to those weaker, and not exploit weakness outside of the game itself, where the purpose is just that: exploit the weaknesses of the opponent. Gentlemen seek the comfort of others, yet can be fierce athletes and warriors, but save their ferocity for the opponent, and not for women, children, nor anyone vulnerable. Masculinity is controlled aggression guided by respect. It does not gloat, nor showboat, boast or seek to further punish the defeated. In war, masculinity gave quarter to the enemy, fed and cared for the sick and wounded, in spite of rage and hatred experienced in combat.
Robert E. Lee was such a man, who's ferocity in battle was legendary, just as renown was his care over his sick wife, of whom he was described as a female "nurse" in his tender care over her. Once, in battle, soldiers reported that even in a hail of bullets, his demeanor was calm, as he bent over to pick up a tiny bird's nest where baby birds were vulnerable to being stomped by soldiers. The dichotomy between strength and sacrifice was evident to all who met him. His letters taught me more about parenting than any "how to raise children" book I've read.
Masculinity is timeless. It is, however, out of "vogue" today, but it exists and examples of men sacrificing themselves for their wives, children, and the good of others continues to be found, though not readily recognized by the media, nor by Hollywood. In Hollywood, the father, having lived for four decades upon the earth, is the "dopey, fumbling" idiot, with his stodgy intellect, is always wrong, while his 16 year old daughter, following her "heart", is always right. Yeah, that's how the earth works.
Discussion of proper fatherly examples for athletes is another discussion for another day.
The number of NFL players (and professional athletes in general) who are arrested for domestic violence, proportionately to the general population, is staggering.
In this case, one player so bullied another that the player left the team and sought professional psychological treatment; it was that severe.
The bully has taken to twitter to defend himself. Richie Incognito has 'denied' the bullying, which apparently including cash payments.
Did he do it?
We let the player speak for himself.
"Enough is enough. I want my name cleared"
Waiting for ESPN to "apologize"
Nowhere has he said he did not do it. His team has now suspended him and has concluded, early in their internal investigation, that he "did it" to his teammate.
Cognito earned a reputation for being one of the dirtiest players in the league when with St. Louis. A "dirty" player is one who must rely upon cheating to gain advantage. If he has done these things to players and teammates, God help his wife and children.