He was attempting to learn if the woman he was "pitching woo" towards (anyone?) was responsive or not. (side note: "pitching woo" was not his expression, but his action.)
There were indications within her responses, via text or email, that indicated that she was less than interested in him.
"I miss you" versus "I miss seeing you"
What is the difference between missing someone, and missing seeing someone?
I asked him which one she used.
He said "she wrote "I will certainly email you"of which I told him, "Don't get your hopes up on this one."
He said, "Oh, no, I think she will email me this weekend, as she said. " He had been attempting to get him to make plans for the weekend and had given her his email address.
The key was "certainly", adding sensitivity to her response. Why the need for emphasis? It was this need to add emphasis that I focused upon. I told him that this was weaker than "I will email you" in her response, and not to bank on a response.
Monday morning came and he said, "I hate to say it but you were right."
He said that he had not seen her in two weeks and sent her a text message about missing her and asked her, plainly, if she had missed him. It was abbreviated: "Miss u. u miss me?"
She wrote, "I miss seeing you."
He asked me about this.
I told him that this is something one might say if they have less interest, or if they do not know you well enough to miss you, yet the sight of you is a positive with the person.
He said that she did not know him very well, so, he said, he hoped it was the latter.
What is the difference when someone says "I miss you" versus, "I miss seeing you"?
Extra words give us additional information. In this case, the phrase, "I miss you" is very strong, as the person misses the subject. But in the latter, "I miss seeing you" is not as strong as the person misses, not the subject, but just seeing the subject. I told him that it may be that she has not had a lot of interaction with him.
He said that they sometimes worked together but sporadically only.
I told him that his pitching may not be going so well and he will either need to change his strategy, or move on to find a new love interest.
Can you guess which he chose?
Next update on his love life: Monday.