Mark Redwine, shortly after Dylan Redwine, 13, went missing.
In the above quote, we see the first glimpse into the mind of Mark Redwine.
2 principles stand out:
1. The word "with" when found between people, indicates distance
2. The past tense verb used describing his missing child, very early in the case.
Mark Redwine did not initiate the call to 911 about his son, but did so in a response to Dylan's mother, Elaine's call.
When asked about the 911 call, Elaine said, "Well, there has been debates about that, I called the Police after he texted me and apparently he called the police right after I called them."
This is consistent with his behavior.
There is no controversy about the 911 call: Behavioral Analysis shows this:
*When a child goes missing, the innocent parent does whatever necessary to help find the child;
while the guilty parent does only what helps build a defense. A guilty person will do the minimum possible to avoid being seen as guilty.
An innocent parent seeks to have a never-ending source of information flow, to help find the child, while the guilty parent:
*seeks to control information
*seeks to limit information
*seeks to hinder information
*does only what is necessary to alleviate pressure and concentration.
This will come out in the language.
After reporting his child kidnapped from his home, Justin DiPietro was given an opportunity to plead for his daughter's return. Instead of taking the microphone, he said he was "emotionally incapable" of doing so. He would go on to fail his polygraph, and a trail of blood would be announced, from his basement, to his closet, shoes and truck; blood belonging to Baby Ayla.
This is like a parent losing a toddler while shopping at Walmart, and instead of calling the child's name, the parent decides to check out, pack the car, drive home, unload the groceries, and then think about calling out to the missing child.
When a toddler wanders off, the parent calls out to the child and will search. When the parent does not, it is the "unexpected."
The guilty person cannot help but say "we need to keep the focus on the child" whenever the spotlight turns to him. This is said in a variety of ways, but it is said repeatedly. It is, in fact, the "expected" among the guilty:
Attempt to keep the focus off of the guilty party, while making a 'peace treaty' with guilt; that is, accepting the fact that people think he did it. The innocent care for nothing, including their own reputation, because they can think of nothing but what the child is going through.
Tangents are a guilty person's best friend. He will embrace them and run with them whenever he can.
If you were on national television about your "missing" son, would you have the wherewithal to renew an old feud with someone else, unrelated to helping locate your son?
Our language gives us away. All of us. "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks."
Mark Redwine: concern about being disrespected on television, by his 21 year old son instead of being concerned about finding Dylan.
DiPietros: lots of concern about what Justin was going through, without a word of what Baby Ayla may have been going through.
Celis: concern over media scrutiny and not over what Isabel might be experiencing.
Statement Analysis shows that the guilty parent's words reveal this very thing:
"And that's all I know..."
"I've done everything possible..."
"I searched everywhere."
These words (and words similar) should recall such parents as Lena Lunsford (Aliayah), Misty Croslin, Sergio Celis, and so many others. These are common statements of guilty parents: if that is "all" that is known, there is no need to ask more questions, because the parent doesn't know anything else.
"I've done everything possible" indicates that there is nothing else to be done, so just stop.
"I've searched everywhere"; therefore, let's stop searching because there are no places left to search.
On the contrary, the innocent parent loses sleep in an attempt to replay, as it were, any and every detail that can be recalled, in order to remember even the smallest detail that might help police. Police often find that the innocent parent will 'pester' them with any and every minute detail that comes to mind.
Mark Redwine has reacted, from the beginning, in a consistent manner. He has consistently sought to control, reduce, and hinder the flow of information that would be useful in locating Dylan. Baby Myra Lewis was more than 4 hours missing before police were called. She was only 2.
Mark Redwine did not report Dylan missing for hours; and even then only did so because of Elaine. Then, he quickly scrambled to cover himself.
He did not assist search efforts.
He did not make appearances.
He did not call out for Dylan, instead choosing to nap, stay inside, and when challenged, give only weak answers which only showed his contempt for Elaine. Alone, he has consistently used plural pronouns. Christopher Dillingham's research shows what parents of teens know: the need to share guilt.
He stood alone:
“There are too many people sitting at the computer trying to play Nancy Drew and Nancy Grace,” he said. “It’s not bringing us closer to finding Dylan.”
On public television, he said he would take the polygraph.
"We're going to take the polygraph."
Those of us listening said, "No, he won't." When he failed to say "I", it showed the weakness. He was bluffing. There was no way he was going to take the polygraph for Dr. Phil. He had too much to lose and he did not posses the bravado to think he could beat it.
When challenged, he found a way to dig at Elaine's emotions, further indicating what conflict it was that befell Dylan at his hands.
From the Durango Herald: "The senior Redwine said there is a “history” with Cory, but he said he thinks his son’s anger toward him is reflective of his mother’s hatred toward Mark."
The constant hatred for Elaine is as consistent as Mark Redwine's deliberate hindering of information.
Innocent parents pass polygraphs. Guilty parents "smoke" it.
Some people do not like media and cameras make them nervous, but as Cory Redwine, all of 21 years said, you do whatever it takes to get your son back, in reference to the lack of effort by Mark Redwine.
Family friend Denise Hess said, "I hate public speaking, and I hate cameras, but I want to bring Dylan home."
She cares not for her own personal comfort level because Dylan is missing. The word "but" refutes what came before it: she uses the stronger pronoun, "I", than Dylan's own father.
Mark Redwine's behavior is what brought suspicion upon him initially, but when he did finally speak out, we knew why it was he had avoided the camera. Statement Analysis shows that he is deceptively withholding information about what happened to Dylan. Even in late November, Mark Redwine refused to speak out for Dylan, even when challenged by Elaine. He finally did speak out, however, and by going on the nationally televised "Dr. Phil Show", he allowed the nation to see what a deceptive man sounds like, as he was consistent in avoiding answering questions, much to the frustration of Dr. Phil, the polygrapher, and the audience. The polygrapher finally said that Redwine avoids answering questions, instead choosing to answer questions not asked. This is a clever technique, one of "control abusers"; those who will not suffer 'defeat' in a debate. They are like the smug schoolboy who says "I know you are but what am I?" repeatedly, smirking as if he has just bested his opponent.
This video shows deception in his statements and in his body language.
Dillingham's research echoes that of the SCAN technique where we carefully follow pronouns and note when the expected singular is absent in exchange for plural. Do you recall the case of the missing child in Maine where Dennis Dechaine (in prison for the murder of Sarah Cherry) claimed to have been alone but slipped out, "I was sitting down among the trees. We were losing daylight..."? The prosecutor did not miss its usage. Pronouns are some of the most common words we use, and we use them from childhood. They are reliable and trustworthy in analysis. A guilty party likes the feeling of sharing guilt, even as a child does when he says, "but we were all doing it. Everyone was doing it" as if this alleviates guilt. It is, Dillingham explained, a desire to spread around guilt, in order to lessen its impact. Mark Redwine uses the plural so frequently, he reminds me of listening to Deborah Bradley avoiding using Lisa's name. (see analysis of Baby Lisa case)
Q. What's it been like?
Mark Redwine: "Well, you know, it's been a tough time for all of us...we're doing everything we can to try to find Dylan and we want to keep the focus on finding Dylan.
Note the needless emphasis of "all" added.
Note that if "we're doing everything..." there's nothing else to be done.
Note that "everything we can" limits what "can" be done. Innocent parents do not use these words until they have come to the point of utter exhaustion and acceptance; the final grieving step in the process that many of us go through.
Then he attempted to make himself sound as if he was in cooperation with law enforcement. Note that he repeats this, indicating its sensitivity.
Note that he does not say "everything we can to find Dylan" but gives even further distance by inserting the word "try" to find Dylan. This changes the focus from finding Dylan to the attempt, itself, of finding Dylan. It distances the effort and changes the end. It is not about finding Dylan, but instead, it is about the attempts being made. He is more concerned about how the search goes, rather than finding Dylan.
"I'm doing everything I know how to. "
When asked about accusation:
"Well, you know, he, it was, he was last seen at my house..."
Here he self-edited, making it important.
Was he about to say "it was at my house that Dylan..."?
I believe "it" did, with "it" being a dispute, first about friends, then about where to eat, then about friends again, and then, finally, Mark Redwine blamed Dylan's mother (as he did on Dr. Phil when claiming Cory was disrespectful) and Dylan received the full wrath of Mark Redwine, on the couch, unable to be revived.
I don't believe the death was intended, that is, premeditated, but came, as Dr. Phil suggested, at a moment of temper being lost. Redwine has a history of it. He has a history of perversion, which may indicate shame and rage. At a single moment, Dylan paid the ultimate price for Mark Redwine's hatred of Elaine.
"One of the things we're trying to do is unite together..." The key word "together" is unnecessary for the sentence; making it 'doubly important' to us.
Interviewer: Do you have anything you want to say to Dylan?"
This was a good question as it allowed the parent to remind the child that he will be found. Instead, Mark Redwine gave us information, just a week after Dylan went 'missing':
"Dylan, my prayers are with you and I love you very much. He was the light of my life and he meant everything to me." This said, as he shook his head in the negative, right to left.
"I want him home, just like everybody else does."
As if there could be anyone who does not want him home??
"I don't want the focus to be on me."
How long until Mark Redwine is arrested in the death of Dylan Redwine? This question has come and gone, and frustrations have given way to despair. Yet, the case is not closed.
"Dylan, my prayers are with you and I love you very much. He was the light of my life and he meant everything to me."
We know that at this time, police gave no indication that Dylan was dead. We know at this time a natural denial exists within parents, as hope springs eternal.
"He was the light of my life" but is no longer.
"He meant everything to me" but no longer.
This is a perfect example of a guilty use of the past tense reference of a parent of a missing child, similar to Susan Smith, Casey Anthony, Billie Jean Dunn and others. It is an indication that Mark Redwine knows or believes that the child is dead. If police or circumstances have not indicated death, it is a strong indication of guilty knowledge.
In this case, by speaking out, Mark Redwine, on this date, told the nation, including the police, that he knows Dylan is dead.