In Statement Analysis, we note that "tried" often indicates 'attempted but failed' in past tense, event statements.
"I tried to get to work on time on Friday..." is an indication that the subject did not arrive to work on time on Friday.
Last night, Daddy had a softball game. When he arrived home, his little girl said, "Daddy, did you hit a home run for me?"
"Honey, I tried to hit a home run for you..."
Doctor: "Your husband was brought in to the ER in critical condition. We tried our best to save his life. " You would not expect to hear, "And, we did."
The expected is: attempted, but failed.
President Clinton said, "I have tried to tell the truth..." in his sworn testimony. It is an indication that he failed to tell the truth in all topics. (see the additional word, "have"). When questioned about arms, we heard the same quote from Oliver North.
This is a basic principle in Statement Analysis to follow. Deceptive individuals will often use the word "tried" in an attempt to persuade. The hope is that the listener will interpret 'tried' as successfully completed, while the subject is still able to avoid the internal stress and conflict of a direct lie.
Yet, like most principle, there is exception.
In a recent article, I wrote that men are stronger than women, which is why masculine sacrifice is necessary to protect against Domestic Violence. Objections are raised, and somewhere, there is a woman who might be strong enough, physically, to play for the NFL. This is likely true.
Principle is not established on exception.
Here is an exception to the principle teaching on the word, "tried" in Statement Analysis.
When one is seeking affirmation, a subject might use the word "tried" in an attempt to elicit an empathetic response. We see this in Hollywood regularly, particularly when it comes to personal relationships.
"I have tried to be a good man my whole life."
"I have tried to be a good mother to you..."
"I have tried to be a loyal and dedicated employee..."
The seeking of affirmation is different than an event specific statement responding to an accusation.
When one says, "I have tried to be a good wife to you..." the subject is looking for her husband to say, "You have been a great wife to me, all of your life..."
There was a touching scene at the conclusion of "Saving Private Ryan" in which the lead character, now elderly, and visiting Normandy, France, implores his wife to tell him that he was a good man, as he recalled the words he heard heard 60 years prior to "earn" the chance in life to live, by the sacrifice of others, who had died in the attempt to preserve his life. (This was loosely based upon the famous Sullivan brothers who all died in the US Navy in WWII. Some Normady vets were quoted as saying that the invasion scene was as close to reality as anything they had seen from Hollywood. The language, as well, was far more realistic than movies made in the 40's. I don't know if anyone lay dying on the beach of Normady and said, "Gee, fellas, this is swell...")
When one is seeking affirmation and uses the word "tried", it should not be flagged necessarily as failure. Remember, language is the intent to communicate between human beings. SCAN is the scientific content analysis, that is, to learn what is within the content of words.
This subject is not affirming failure, but seeking to have affirmation of success, and/or consolation.
Whether it is two women kicking and punching each other in "Ultimate Fighting", or calls for Bob Dylan to win a Nobel Prize in literature comparing him to Shakespeare ("that big fat moon is gonna shine like a spoon..."), or The "Learning Channel" showing an impolite, overweight child, society moves in motions, and language shifts. There will always be exceptions to principles. (Mostly, with tongue firmly in cheek).
While we await the discrimination lawsuit against the National Football League on behalf of women football players who have been wrongfully excluded for many years by obvious sexist ownership, we continue to state:
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Principle is not established upon exception.