Saturday, October 18, 2014

Deception: The Wrath of a Liar



Liars hold the world in contempt.  You've heard me say this (or write it) many times. 

One who will fabricate reality is one who thinks he can "get one past" just about anyone.  Those who have been "trained" and "instructed" in deception from childhood can do an array of damage, far more than most of us even care to understand.

Recently in a training, a woman approached me and said, "My boss is a liar."

I knew what she meant. I also knew what she did not mean.

She did not mean he lies about work hours, her hair, or to his wife on the phone.  The setting (short training) and her face (dead in earnest) spoke to her pain.  She knew.  She knew the damage a liar can do, particularly when he has authority over another's life, including ability to provide a living for her family.

Her boss held her life in his lying hands and she spotted one of the most dangerous of lies:

One who lies when there is nothing to gain from lying. 

This "unnecessary liar" cannot help himself; he lies like we breath:  instinctively.  

Another man approached me.  His boss had just graduated from speed to cocaine, and the drain on the business finance was getting harder and harder to account for.  

Addicts lie.  This is not in dispute.  Addicts lie with impunity and in reflex, as if everything inside of them is wired to protect their addiction.  

The results can be destructive to business and to personal lives.  

People are often surprised when a guilty looking suspect agrees to take a polygraph.  "Why would a guilty person take a polygraph?"

Sometimes, the guilty person is up against the wall of pride.

In the murder of Hailey Dunn, her mother, Billie Jean Dunn, and mother's boyfriend, Shawn Adkins, initially balked at taking a polygraph.  Eventually, Dunn convinced Adkins that they could beat it by drugging up, but when discovered and sent home, she was now in the state of "Challenge", something the deceptive person bristles at.

Call her immoral, call her promiscuous, call her perverted but do not call her a liar, as it brings out the tiger within.

What now?

She was sent home due to drug taking, and now she and Adkins have to decide to go through with the rescheduled polygraph.

If she does not show, she has backed down from the challenge.  If she shows, clean, she fears failure.

Pride, as it goes, seems to tip the scales to the fall.

They showed; they failed.

Liars hold the world in contempt, and this is even seen when caught.  They do not "own" their mistake, but will blame others, including the polygraph machine, the polygrapher, or anyone else in the way.

Richard Blumenthal.

We covered this back when he was seeking election.  

Those who dismiss analysis by saying "all politicians lie, so what about it?" are the same who will point the finger at others when the world they once knew and lived in, is damaged beyond repair. 

Broken promises are not lies unless there is intent to deceive.  

We live in a world very much changed before our eyes and we do not know what to expect tomorrow.  
Liars will do what is in their own best interest, and not in the best interest of others, including us. 

When caught, the liar will attack. 

Look at the wake of damaged lives caused by still-millionaire Lance Armstrong!  What does he care for his own disgrace, while his victims are left bereft of name and money due to his attacks and damage he inflicted upon them, while they were guilty of nothing but exposing the liar!

What of a man who's very position could mean the difference between life and death, freedom and prison?

Is it possible that a Harvard educated Attorney General could boast about his service in Vietnam even though he never went to Vietnam and secured 5 deferments just to avoid going there?

How can this be?

Answer:  Liars, that is, those who fabricate reality, hold the rest of us in contempt.

Instead of saying, "I am sorry.  I shamelessly sought to gain votes of veterans and I have insulted their intelligence", he had something else to say.


I'm reasonably sure that if I were to fly in a plane to a foreign country, particularly one in which a war was raging, I would remember being there.

Blumenthal talked about being in Viet Nam in order to garner support.  The problem?  He wasn't in Viet Nam.

When caught, who is the target of his apology?  His mea-culpa was a bit light on the "mea" and the "culpa" may be "misdirected."

"Misspoke" means lie.

"On a few occasions, I have misspoken about my service and I regret that. And I take full responsibility, but I will not allow anyone to take a few misplaced words and impugn my record of service to our country."

That is a comment by Connecticut Attorney General Richard Blumenthal regarding questions surrounding his past statements about his military service.

By now, you have learned to key in on the word "but" in Statement Analysis, to know the important information in a sentence follows this particular word.


"On a few occasions, I have misspoken about my service and I regret that. And I take full responsibility, but I will not allow anyone to take a few misplaced words and impugn my record of service to our country."


"On a few occasions" remember, the shortest sentence is best. Additional words give us additional information. If a sentence can work without a word, the added word should be noted.

"few" is an attempt to minimize.
"occasions" are instead of formal speeches. Attempt to minimize. What would you have said? Remember, the statements made were in front of not only live audiences, but cameras rolling. Maybe he meant that he said it, off handedly, at a picnic, or something. Would you forget that you didn't go to a country, thousands of miles away, while being shot at with weapons that could have ended your life?

This is why deceptive people, uncovered in Statement Analysis, get caught: they cannot change.

If you study statement analysis in an attempt to become a better liar, it will not help you. It is something ingrained within you at childhood; truth or fabrication, and it is habit forming. Even those who read that deceptive people often employ words like "swear, honest to God, swear to God, honestly" and so on, STILL employ these words, as the brain tells the mouth what words to use processing this information in less than a microsecond.

"I have misspoken about my service "

No, he said he was in Vietnam and research has showed that he worked hard at making sure he was not in Vietnam, but safely in Washington, D.C, running "Toys for Tots" in the reserves.

"misspoken" past tense is a word used to soften or minimize (neutralize) the word "lied". Misspoken conjures up thoughts of an innocent mistake, rather than an intention to deceive.

"and I regret that"

"that" means distance, "this" means closer.
"regret"is an emotion. He has not owned, nor asked for forgiveness. I think anyone who said that they were in another country only to be caught lying would likely regret being caught. I believe his regret is genuine, but it is not linked to deception, but rather to having been caught.

"And I take full responsibility"

at first glance, this sounds strong. But remember, the shortest sentence is best. "And I take responsibility" is shorter. "full" is the emphasis that he feels he needs to add, thus weakening the statement, however, this wasn't the end of the sentence. The word "but" now employs the most important part of his message:

"but"


"but I will not allow anyone to take a few misplaced words and impugn my record of service to our country."

he will "not allow"; forbid, control. How can he "not allow"
"anyone" (neutral gender)

This shows the arrogance of a liar. He now expresses himself in terms of divinity; controller over destiny, and over the minds and hearts of Americans who will hear these words. He will not "allow"; language that deludes himself and shows how far from reality he is.

When you read this you can now see why someone with his intellect and place in life can be so utterly void of common sense.

In your life, could you go to your job, or to your family, and simply announce that you were in, for instance, "war-torn Bosnia" during the height of conflict? You know, when they thought you were home, or at school, all that time, you were really dodging bullets in the streets of Bosnia. Your family might look at you and call the doctor.

It is equally absurd; showing how out of touch a deceptive person can become over the years. A young liar may be good, but a liar who reaches the age of a grandparent has a lifetime of practice at deception but ego overrides and causes them to look foolish.

Who is "anyone"?  The reporter that decided to check the facts?  Shoot the messenger?

I'm thinking...he, himself, doesn't seem to be the "anyone."  When something feels awkward to you, it is because, well, it is awkward and it should be.

"to take a few misplaced words"

Here we have a change in language, from misspoken to misplaced. A change of language represents a change in reality. When the girl kissed the man, the man fell in love with the woman. Notice the change? She was a girl, but once they kissed, she became a woman.

Where there is no justification for the change, it is likely deception.

"The car ran roughly. I ran out of gas. I left the vehicle on the side of the road."

It was a car when it went, but now that it cannot transport, it is a vehicle.

Here, we have a change. His words were "misspoken" but now, are not "
misspoken at all, but were "misplaced", meaning, put into the wrong place.

This means that he stands behind his lies and reveals what his regret is:

That he spoke his lies in the wrong settings. Had there been no cameras running, he could have used his "Vietnam" experiences to persuade vets to vote for him and if called on the carpet, he could easily deny.

But because the cameras were rolling, it is hard for him to watch and listen to the lies he told.

He takes "full responsibility", but he has provided service to his counrty. The use of the word but suggests that he doesn't take responsibility at all, because he feels that he has a record of service to his country after all.  "But" is often used to refute, or at least minimize that which preceded it.  It is used in comparison.

"I like steak but I love lobstah."  (Petey)

This politicians statement regarding the lies he told about his service in Vietnam reveal that he is a chronic, long term liar, who thought he was above being questioned, and is still in denial about his own mortality.

There is much talk about "pathological liars" who "can't even tell when they are lying."

Be careful with that one. The "pathological liars", when confronted, wiggle uncomfortably, and use lies in attempt to justifiy themselves. Guilt aside, we count on the internal stress that lies cause to flush out the language for us.


How is it that politicians can demand that we, the public, trust them, when those closet to them, their own families, can not trust them? (for another day)

The arrogance and deceptive nature of the statement issued by Blumenthal tells me that this is a man who has long lied without much consequence and that he has been a man of power, who has had much success in exerting authority over others.  I'd hate to be a defendant up against one who is not afraid to invent his own reality.  One can only imagine orders passed down from him that impacted the lives he was in contact with.

It is frightening.

Once called out as a liar, the wrath of the liar is unleashed, and will do whatever he or she can do, to "pay back" the "indignity" of being seen as a liar.

And, oh, by the way, do not be surprised when the liar smears you with lies.  It is the tool dearest to their hearts.

Imagine being an innocent man or woman, facing malicious prosecution, and finding this man, Blumenthal, standing up against you, accusing you?

What fright must one experience!

Those who would destroy exculpatory evidence, for example, or who will turn a blind ear to the testimony of one, such as Kevin Fox, father of Riley Fox, and drive a false confession out of him, are liars with hate, who's own career ambitions blind them to their own depravity.

I cover this, and more cases in my upcoming book.  Look for its release soon. If you would like to help with editorial costs:


 


We are hoping to take this route instead of crowd-sourcing.

12 comments:

tania cadogan said...

off topic

SANTA ANA, Calif. – An attorney was sentenced Friday to six months in jail after authorities said he tried to frame a school volunteer by planting pot and painkillers in her car because she slighted his 6-year-old young son.

Kent Easter, 40, was sentenced by Orange County Superior Court Judge Thomas Goethals after he was convicted by a jury last month of one felony count of false imprisonment by deceit.

Along with jail time, he was given three years of probation and required to perform 100 hours of community service. He also was ordered to stay away from victim Kelli Peters and her family.

His wife Jill, 41, pleaded guilty last year to false imprisonment in the scheme and was sentenced to four months in jail and 10 hours of community service. Her law license has since expired, according to the Orange County district attorney's office.

Defense attorney Thomas Bienert Jr. had argued that Kent Easter was feeling unwell and was in bed when his wife sneaked out of their home to plant the drugs during the early morning of Feb. 16, 2011.

Bienert said the sentence issued Friday was reasonable and fair given the guilty verdict. His motion for a new trial was denied Friday and he planned to appeal for a retrial.

Prosecutor Chris Duff said the crime was a result of miscommunication four years ago when Jill Easter went to pick up her son from school.

The volunteer was responsible for bringing students to the front of the school, and Easter believed her son was left behind. The prosecutor said Peters told Easter her son was "slow" and Easter believed the volunteer was insulting her son's mental capacities.

Authorities said the Easters disliked the volunteer because they felt she hadn't properly supervised their son, and they accused the volunteer of locking him outside during an afterschool program.

Over the next few months, the couple filed a lawsuit against Peters and the school, and sought a restraining order against Peters and asked that she be fired.

Duff said the couple later planted marijuana, a pipe, Vicodin and Percocet in her PT Cruiser. The defendants then called Irvine police and reported seeing Peters driving erratically and that she had drugs, he said.

Officers found drugs in her car and detained her. The Easters' DNA, however, came back on the drugs and Ken Easter's cellphone was found to have pinged next to the Peters' house early that morning when prosecutors believe the drugs were planted, Duff said.

"It was a small incident that appears to have grown and grown and grown, we still don't know what was so bad," Duff said. "They went after this woman who was the best volunteer the school had."

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2014/10/17/attorney-sentenced-to-jail-in-scheme-to-frame-california-school-volunteer-for/

tania cadogan said...

off topic



MARIETTA, Ga. – A Georgia man accused of intentionally leaving his toddler in a hot vehicle to die has pleaded not guilty to murder and other charges against him.

Staci Brinson, the staff attorney for Cobb County Superior Court Judge Mary Staley, said a lawyer for Justin Ross Harris on Friday waived formal arraignment for his client and entered a plea of not guilty.

Harris, who was 33 when arrested, has been in custody since June. He was indicted last month on multiple charges, including malice murder, felony murder and cruelty to children.

Police have said Harris left 22-month-old Cooper in an SUV for about seven hours on June 18, when temperatures reached at least into the high 80s in the Atlanta area.

Attorneys for Harris have said the child's death was a tragic accident.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2014/10/17/georgia-man-accused-leaving-son-in-hot-car-to-die-enters-not-guilty-plea-to/

Lemon said...

PH said:
"I'm reasonably sure that if I were to fly in a plane to a foreign country, particularly one in which a war was raging, I would remember being there."

You would think. The photo seems to bear some resemblance to the 'Obama chin' I believe :)

Anonymous said...

Attorneys are often at the end of trying to force others to do their bidding. Journalists and fake investigators often assist, er, I mean conduct research.

I just noticed a not so newsworthy story about a neighbor that kicked over a trash can and was "assaulted" by the other neighbor becasue of it. Then the "N" word came up. First thought: another extortion trap under the guise of journalism.

The "Spy on your Neighbor" (I need more funds for my fake charity) is about to run the gammet one last time.

When journalism is reduced to breaking and entering, postal fraud and theft, hacking, and theatening friends and family for a story it is no longer journalism nor investigation...it's terrorism.

Anonymous said...

So glad to see Hannah Graham's body has been found. Not happy she is dead but happy her family is no longer stuck in the unknown.

john said...

An expression of regret Lemon :)

Katprint said...

Off Topic: http://news.yahoo.com/cops-remains-may-those-missing-uva-student-220523062.html

"Further forensic tests are needed to confirm whether the remains are those of Hannah Graham, Charlottesville Police Chief Tim Longo told a news conference. The remains were found on an abandoned property in southern Albemarle County by a search team from the Chesterfield County Sheriff's Office, Longo said."

Apple said...

Katprint,
I just read the news. I check daiky in the progress of the hannah graham investigation.
Im not sure how SA analyizes this:
Horrible horrible horrible.
As i think in so many of these horrible cases; there but for the grace of God go i.
Im am so sad for Hannah's family.

Anonymous said...

I, too, read about Graham's discovery. It's all over Google! At least it wasn't on the backburner of the NG show which I viewed Harrington's murder (some 2 years after the fact) and the sensationalist musings on how her death could have occurred and how her body got to where it was eventually found. At least maybe the Grahams did not have to suffer through as much of that nonsense for ratings.

The police cheif did an excellent job and got the community involved as well. Maybe now they can press forward in letting the young people attending campuses across the nation that the party can and will end eventually. Some sooner than later. They are there to learn, not become another statistic.

Anonymous said...

I, too, read about Grahams' discovery. It's all over Google! At least it wasn't on the backburner of the NG show which I viewed Harrington's murder (some 2 years after the fact) and the sensationalist musings on how her death could have occurred and how her body got to where it was eventually found. At least maybe the Grahams did not have to suffer through as much of that nonsense for ratings.

The police cheif did an excellent job and got the community involved as well. Maybe now they can press forward in letting the young people attending campuses across the nation that the party can and will end eventually. Some sooner than later. They are there to learn, not become another statistic.

Anonymous said...

Blumenthal is a scumbags' scumbag. What a total lowlife. What I wouldn't give to have 60 seconds to skewer him in public, verbally of course. I'd gut him and his stinking career with the shaming I'd give him...

Anonymous said...

get one "passed"
or get one "past"
???