Saturday, May 30, 2015

Cyber Bullying: Real or Fake?

This is a post from a woman who claims she has been cyber-bullied and police are doing nothing about it.  

Some say she is deceptive and seeking publicity as this is her career course.   Her blog has gone viral.  One reporter spoke to police who declined to directly answer due to confidentiality but may have hinted that something was amiss. 

What sayest you?

Some guidelines:

1.  To measure the form of the statement, begin where the story, itself, begins and conclude it with the "post event" portion.  Do not necessarily think the entire article is "what happened", as was the case with Amanda Vining's account.  

2.  Note the connection between pronouns and verb tenses for reliability. 

3. Do not conclude deception by a single indicator. 

4.  Note additional "unnecessary" words as very important to the analysis. "Needless" information is included in this.  What appears unnecessary to us, is "doubly important" to the analysis.  

5.  Note that most deception is from missing information; that is, withheld, or even suppressed information, rather than direct lying.  Many deceptive statements are 100% technically truthful, sentence by sentence.  

6.  Note the inclusion of emotions and the passage of time between the writing of the statement and the event.  

7.  Note any change of language as indicative of a change of reality, which should be justified in change of context. 

8.  Remember, this is not reality, but the subject (writer's) verbalized perception of reality. 

9.  Ask yourself what you would say if this happened to you, as the "expected" and then see if it follows suit. 

10.  What do the words employed tell you about the subject's experiences, background, priorities, and personality?  

11. Remember that priority and even motive can be self serving, even when an event is truthful. 

When you post your conclusion, you must explain what brought you to this point.  If it is only your "feelings", state so.  

The only emphasis I have added to aid you is underlining.  The underlining can be a point of sensitivity, or it could be a point of consistency in language.  It should be noted with care.  

We do not use a "microscope" to uncover deception.  If you need a microscopic view to be able to discern deception, it is likely that you are not looking at deception. 

If "inconclusive" is your result, also post your reasons why.  

CYBER BULLYING – MY STORY

Many things in this world you just can’t explain. You can’t explain why sometimes when sitting down you tend to shake your leg. You can’t explain why sometimes you have a tendency to bite your nails. Sometimes you can’t explain why some people in this world have so much time on their hands, to want to try to sabotage your life through cyber bullying.
According to Statistics Canada, in 2012 aside from cyber property violations, cyber threats and sex crimes were next in line (Waugh, 2014).
“The results, which span a population of 27.5 million people for the year 2012 (the latest year for which data is available), show that cybercrime is far from being anonymous and victimless. Cybercrime affects large numbers of people in a serious way (a total of 9,084 crimes were serious enough to be reported to police, or 33 cybercrimes per 100,000 population) (Waugh, 2014).
The numbers are shocking and heart breaking, because the top cybercrime towards individuals was child pornography and the accused were ages 25 – 34 (Waugh, 2014). In 2012, police reported 1,441 incidents of cybercrime relating to sexual violation – and charges were brought in a quarter of those cases (Waugh, 2014).
Until two years ago, I would have never imagined myself to be a victim of cyber bullying. Nor did I think I would be the one speaking up about it. It has been a week since I received a call from my boyfriend during work and I falling to the floor praying it would stop and that this “someone” would leave me alone.

This is my story…

May 14, 2013 – “Someone” took a photo I had posted on one of my Facebook photo albums from 2010 named “SCHOOL DANCE” and decided it would be fun to Photoshop a pair of naked breasts onto my picture to make it seem as if I was taking a naked photo of myself. This person proceeded to create a Facebook account under my name and added multiple friends and family. This person changed their name about three times, and did not stop adding people. I didn’t know what to do next other than reporting them over and over again on Facebook and hoping their account would get removed immediately.
(The topless picture above I have blurred because I am afraid it might be used against me by the police for posting child pornography)

That day I decided to call the police and file a report in hopes of them being able to help me find the person behind this. Especially since the recent tragedy of the Amanda Todd incident and her unfortunate battle against cyber bullying. I had high hopes that my local police department would take my case seriously and help me stop whoever it is that is trying to sabotage me. However, it was much to my dismay that the police didn’t even attempt to look for the person behind these pictures; the police had arrived at my house, asked what had happened, and that was it. No action was taken, -“nothing could be done” they had said, over and over again.
May 21, 2013 – The Facebook page the “Someone” created was finally taken down.


I was so relieved when it was finally all over. The fact that the police were useless did not bother me as much as I thought it would, because the Facebook account was taken down. My friends and I knew the photo was fake, and that was all that mattered to me. What I thought was a one time thing did not end there.

February 1, 2015 – I had received a message from my friend who said he needed to talk to me right away on the phone. He told me what happened, that exact same photo was posted on Tumblr, but had no attachment to my name. For anyone who saw the photo who didn’t know me would have thought it was any topless Asian girl.
He was unsure if it was real, but he knew me well enough to know I would never do something like that. He sent me the link and I was beyond upset that not only because the photo was posted up on Tumblr, but the fact that their were over 1000+ reblogs of that photo on that particular Tumblr page.
I was unsure if the owner of the Tumblr blog posted that photo themselves or if the photo was submitted to them, but the photo was uploaded in November 2014.
By the time I saw and reported the photo to Tumblr it had already been reblogged on other peoples pages over and over again.
Thankfully, Tumblr removed the photo from the original page it was posted on.
This time I did not contact the police, since they were no help the first time. As much as it hurt hearing my friend ask me if this photo was real I was glad he knew I would never take naked selfies and post them online. I could only imagine the damage this would’ve caused onto my reputation if a photo like this was leaked to a future employer or anyone who didn’t know me personally.
Once again, I was relieved it was over.
Now fast forwarding to what happened last week.
April 19, 2015 – I get a call from my boyfriend during work. He mentions a “naked photo” and I immediately bursted into tears. He told me someone created a Twitter account and tweeted that exact same photo out.
My boyfriend is first of all not a social media maven. He did not understand the importance of social media and the role it played in my life, since I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media.
I looked into this persons Twitter page that was under the name, “@Jasonchan911” and profile name “Jacob Black”. This Jacob Black posted two tweets with the naked photo attached and also tagged me in the two posts. Not only that they followed my friends, classmates, and companies I had sent internship applications to for the summer.
April 22, 2015 – I contacted the police and an officer arrived at my house later that night. I explained my story and had high expectations that they would do something about the situation, since it was an on going thing. The officer first told me there is nothing she can do or will do. She went on with her assumptions, saying she felt the person who was doing this to me was not from Vancouver. Although, I told her I had a strong feeling it was someone from Vancouver, and to be more specific I told her I had a strong feeling it was someone I knew. She proceeded to tell me it was okay as long as the accounts have been suspended and deleted, and to update her if anything else happens.
I then asked her.. “What about Amanda Todd, the police were able to track her harasser all the way to Europe.
The police officer said, “Well, I have confidence that you would not harm yourself because of this situation, and unless this situation becomes more serious I will then put more resources towards this case.”
It was unfortunate the police were useless to me once again.
April 23, 2015 – The twitter account was finally suspended.
At this point I am happy the account is suspended, and it hurts to know that the people who’s job it is to protect you are of absolutely no help. I am upset about being cyber bullied. However, there are many young individuals out there that may not have as thick of a skin as I do, and its sad and ironic to see Canada offer $3.3M to combat cybercrime in Central America, Caribbean (Canadian Press, 2015). When the RCMP aren’t even willing to combat cybercrime that is taking place right in their backyard.
To everyone who is reading this, the only thing I can say really is be smart about using social media. The photo this person stole from my Facebook account was of me getting ready for a High school dance with my friends when I was 16 years old. Social media is a love/ hate relationship, and I would have never thought I would be a victim of cyber bullying.

24 comments:

Anonymous said...

This young lady, being in the public relations position she claims she is in, should know that the only way to create an internet cyber bullying investigation is by contacting and filing a complaint with the U.S. Justice Department who assigns investigators after they determine the complaint to be valid.

There are multiple forms that have to be completed and proof presented as to how this bullying has affected your life, both physically, medically, mentally and financially; and where police reports have been made of possible threats, copies of those too. It is all outlined on the U.S. Justice Department websites, where the forms and instructions can be downloaded.

Police departments do not have the wherewithal to make these types of investigations, anymore than they investigate lewd phone calls unless violent threats of bodily harm are made, which are otherwise handled by telephone servers in cooperation with others.

Why savvy persons and parents trying to protect their children do not realize this, I do not know, other than they have not been informed. Police departments and LE should be able at the least to advise others as to the steps they need to take.

Peter Hyatt said...

re-read the intro...I added info

Peter Hyatt said...

Anonymous, excellent post. Choose a name

tania cadogan said...

Cyber bullying can be a problem, one though that is easily solved.

I come across it in my line of work and my advice and that of my staff is the same thing each and every time.
make use of the features we offer which includes an ignore button. it means that not only can the member not see anything the problem member says in the room, more importantly it blocks the problem member from contacting the member. They see nothing the problem members wears or says.
There is also the X.
The problem member is dealt with appropriately.

Most if not all social media have an ignore/block option.
FB has options also to restrict access to ones account and options to create lists allowing certain lists to see only certain parts of ones profile.
They also have a block feature which blocks any contact from the problem member.

No one seems to be telling anyone this bit of useful information, especially teens.

it is very hard to be a problem if the victim sees nothing you say or do, it is however rather boring talking trash to oneself and getting no response ( in our chat only the member knows who is ignored, the problem member gets no message saying they are blocked and only find out if the member announces in the room an ignoree has entered obs or the room (something i actively discourage since it alerts the problem member and they create a new name)
I do pint out that if the problem member changes name, it can take them up to 10 mins to get a new name( if the one they want is not available) change the password get a new avatar/id etc and it takes the member less than a second to click ignore. Who is going to get bored first? grin emoticon

I do know though many won't use ignore because they love the chance to take offense/ love the drama/ love the attention/ are scared they might miss something that will cause one of the previous.

I keep asking for a staff issue ignore button so we can force an ignore when the member refuses and only we can lift it. It would save so much drama (and paperwork)

if all else fails click X and leave the situation.

Do not react or respond the to the problem member as all you are doing is giving them the attention and power they crave.
You are the one in control not them.
You have the power to ignore and block them from your online life.
I wish we had the same in real life, life would be so much easier.
They only have access to your online life as long as you give it them,
they cannot bully you online if they can't get access to your account/profile>

The same for emails, you have an option to delete and block emails from certain accounts or certain domains or both.

Make use of the features the provider offers.

Peter Hyatt said...

Well said, Tania.

This is most appropriate for adults. Teens, however, have some disadvantages in applying the sound advice.

I will post shortly, based on your advice!

thanks,

Peter

tania cadogan said...

You are welcome Peter and please excuse my typos, insufficient coffee :D

Anonymous said...

I would choose a name Peter; I am aware that you asked me yesterday to choose a name, just as you have done several times previously; but there have been a few posters here who have accused me of being dishonest a couple of times in some of my posts when I wasn't being dishonest; I was being truthful.

You even asked me once if I am an attorney, and although I do have a law background in certain civil matters, I am not an attorney, per se, and told you that I'm not.

I have been reading and posting here off and on for years and do admire your work for the most part; there have only been a couple of times when I felt (knew) you were drifting slightly off in a couple of your analytical subjects; however, knowing who I am might only bring more hostility down on myself. I'm sorry. I don't wish to be mysterious, I just wish to state my opinions sometimes without repercussions. Thank you...

tania cadogan said...

Hi Anonymous.
You can choose a disposable name, one that has no identifying link to you such as john/jane doe if you wish to indicate a gender although you could used a gender specific name which is not your gender ( it adds to the intrigue :) ) or a word that does not even do that, such as jello or pickle, cloudburst or whatever.
it also means you can change names according to your mood or boredom level or something that caught your eye as amusing/appropriate or droll.

It makes it easier when we respond if we have a 'name' to show who we are responding to rather than a generic anonymous which could be almost anyone.

Welcome aboard and thank you for your contributions.


John mcgowan said...

Part one. I'm taking a break my brain hurts. I'll post later lol.

This is my story…

May 14, 2013 –

This is my story…

Where someone begins a statement is often the reason for writing and is always important.

She begins by saying "This is my story" "This" is close "that" is distant" she places herself close to the "story". The words "my story" are not words we expect to hear from a traumatising event.

“Someone” took a photo I had posted on one of my Facebook photo albums from 2010 named “SCHOOL DANCE” and decided it would be fun to Photoshop a pair of naked breasts onto my picture to make it seem as if I was taking a naked photo of myself.

"Someone" is passive, gender neutral and is often user to conceal identity.


"My Facebook" her she ties herself to her "Facebook" with the pronoun "My"

"Decided it would be fun to Photoshop a pair of naked breasts onto my picture to make it seem as if I was taking a naked photo of myself."

"Decided" does not mean they followed through. Recall the "3" Frogs sitting on the log and one decides to jump into the water. How many are left?

"Fun" How is she aware the alleged poster thought it would be "fun"

"My picture" She also takes ownership of her "picture"

"I was taking a naked photo of myself."

Give that she is telling her "story" if this is in the "Free Editing Process" (FEP) I would strongly believe this is an embedded admission that she "Was taking naked photo of" herself.

This person proceeded to create a Facebook account under my name and added multiple friends and family."

""This person"

"This" is close. She places herself close to the "person" who allegedly created an FB account.

"This person changed their name about three times, and did not stop adding people. I didn’t know what to do next other than reporting them over and over again on Facebook and hoping their account would get removed immediately"

Note again she place's herself "close" to the Person.

This person changed their name three times"

"Changed their name"

If the person is unknown to her how does she know this.

"changed their name about three times"

Given she is unsure that the "person" has changed their name "about three times" The entrance of the number "three" strongly suggest we have something amiss at this point.

"I didn’t know what to do next other than reporting them over and over again on Facebook and hoping their account would get removed immediately."

Anything in the negative we note as sensitive.

"That day I decided to call the police and file a report in hopes of them being able to help me find the person behind this."

"That day i decided"

"That" is distant. Why would she want to distant herself from "deciding" to call the police?

"Decided" explained above however, this may suggest she was struggling with whether or not to call the police?

"I didn’t know what to do next other than reporting them over and over again on Facebook and hoping their account would get removed immediately."

""I didn’t know what to do next"

Yet she tells us what she done next.

"reporting them over and over again"

Any repetition is noted as sensitive. Is this a need to be believed?

"Them"

Oh dear. "Someone" has gone to "This person" and has now become "Them" . Who are Them"

Jen Ow said...

I think she is running a hoax for several reasons.

- She starts out citing statistics, rather than stating what took place. This should be personal to her, and she should need no 'back up' information to make her complaints seem more valid.

- Throughout the article she fails to call the person she claims to be doing this a 'cyber-stalker', or 'stalker', etc. Despite claiming she was 'cyber-stalked', she only refers to the perpetrator as, a 'person' or 'someone', and never as anything harsh.

- She refers to what has taken place as 'my story', and relays it in story telling form, telling us what she was thinking, and what she was feeling, along with a lot of explaining 'why, since, because', rather than just relaying what took place.

- She states that SHE is worried about being charged with a crime due to this picture. She believes that she could face child pornography charges. If this picture was indeed falsely created by another party, then analysis of the image would reveal that. (Was she warned by L.E. that she could face charges due to this image?)

Quotes:

"He was unsure if it was real, but he knew me well enough to know I would never do something like that."

- Obviously not. This statement contradicts itself. It is also unnecessary.

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"As much as it hurt hearing my friend ask me if this photo was real I was glad he knew I would never take naked selfies and post them online."

- She confirms that her friend did NOT know that she "would never take 'naked selfies' and post them online". He was "unsure", and asked her if the photo was real.

- SHE REFERS TO THE PHOTO AS A 'SELFIE'!

This is a change in language from 'photo', which she has called it throughout the article. This is a big slip up. Referring to the photo as a "selfie" suggests that the photo was taken by her, and is not doctored as she claimed.

-This entire anecdote is unnecessary. All she needed to relay was the fact that a friend called her attention to the Tumbler post. She seems to have included these details of what he supposedly knew about her, (twice repeated) so that she can imply that she, "would never take naked selfies, and post them online". Unreliable.

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"I get a call from my boyfriend during work. He mentions a “naked photo” and I immediately bursted into tears. He told me someone created a Twitter account and tweeted that exact same photo out."

- Her description of the getting the call from her boyfriend is present tense, and passive.

- He only 'mentions' the picture, which is soft and not expected.

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"My boyfriend is first of all not a social media maven. He did not understand the importance of social media and the role it played in my life, since I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media. I looked into this persons Twitter page that was under the name, “@Jasonchan911” and profile name “Jacob Black”. 


-She just stated that her boyfriend called to tell her that someone had created a Twitter account, and tweeted the photo. But then she immediately says that her boyfriend "is not a social media maven".

-Her assertion about the importance of social media in her life, seems like an attempt to persuade that this picture is more damaging to her, than an average person.

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"It was unfortunate the police were useless to me once again."

-She earlier stated that the police were "useless", and now states the police were "useless to me once again". This suggests she has an agenda. She didn't say the police were, "unable to help me", or even "incompetent", (as she portrays them to have been).

-By saying, "useless to me", she acknowledges that she was "using" the police.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for the invite and the info, Tania; however, I would never use a gender name that is not of my own gender, when I am a woman. This would be dishonest, deceitful and misleading; therefore, a lie. Likewise, I would not continuously change my fake name(s) according to my moods and whims if I had any, which I don't. Again, this too would be a lie and is called trolling.

But thank you anywayz for making me feel welcome. I appreciate it.

tania cadogan said...

I Understand anonymous. I suggested it in that it puts an extra layer between yourself and your name that, should anyone decide to be obnoxious and seek to cause drama, your privacy is protected.

Changing names is fine especially if a name is being bothered by an obnoxious attention seeker.
Many people i work with or have contact with in my line of work change names more often than i have hot dinners.
Some do it because of some new thing they support or like the sound of, some do it if there is a theme for a room for the night, some do it because they are troublemakers and find it hard to chat in one name if it has been gagged (they can see what is said but cannot talk in the room or in im's until the penalty expires)or penalised as in kicked, suspended or banned, some have different names for different rooms or for when they are dj'ing or hosting an event or just to make a room look busier than it is.
Some do it for more nefarious reasons such as having multiple id's and yes even genders in order to have online relationships with others, though the really sad one have relationships with themselves, which is always funny as heck when they want attention and start a fight with themselves(unbeknownst to the others since they don't have the information i have) and claim threats etc.

I have several names i use for work, for play names, for my blog and for comments although i use my real name for my blog and when commenting in here and facebook though i still get referred to as Hobs or Hobnob by the regular commentators (hence i keep my original Avatar to save confusion)

It is not trolling, trolling is when you deliberately post a comment designed to get a vigorous reaction from other commentators, often used by people trying to derail a topic or simply to get attention and provoke drama (flaming)

Donath provides a concise overview of identity deception games which trade on the confusion between physical and epistemic community:

Trolling is a game about identity deception, albeit one that is played without the consent of most of the players. The troll attempts to pass as a legitimate participant, sharing the group's common interests and concerns; the newsgroups members, if they are cognizant of trolls and other identity deceptions, attempt to both distinguish real from trolling postings, and upon judging a poster a troll, make the offending poster leave the group. Their success at the former depends on how well they – and the troll – understand identity cues; their success at the latter depends on whether the troll's enjoyment is sufficiently diminished or outweighed by the costs imposed by the group.

If you choose a name, it makes it easier for responses since there is no which anonymous are you referring to confusion, it allows us to impart a virtual personality to you gleaned from your writing style (after a while you can learn to identify people by their typing style even if they change names)

I do keep my play name private when working simply because it means i am anonymous to the members , it lets me do my job impartially, i don't have to worry about damaging friendships if i have to penalise a friend for being naughty (though it tickles me when they im my play name and claim how they were unfairly penalised by the 'power hungry tool crazed' member of staff.
It also means i cannot be used to threaten others as in "my friend is a member of staff and they will ban you if i ask them to" or the ever popular " they won't touch me cos i am their friend"
Only a select few of my staff know who i am in client and in real life, the ones that do i have known for many years, they are trusted and all but 2 i have met in real life (1 of them is because she lives down under)

Enjoy the blog, don't be afraid to ask questions, post comments or go off topic, most of all have fun and you will be amazed what you will learn.

Hugs xx

Sara said...

I was cyber bullied by a total psychopath. He is the paramour of my fiance's ex-wife, another psychopath. He owns about 20+ websites and wrote about me on all of them. At one time my name linked to his sites and occupied 7 out of the first 10 Google results. He also put my children's names in his rants, as well as my ex husbands. Thankfully his rankings have dropped and I am only #4 in Google, the rest being ranked over 200. I considered many possible responses to his antics, including hiring a hacker to ddos his sites. I decided to do nothing, however. He's a real nut job and I was afraid to make it worse. I wish so bad I could tell you all who he is and other bad things he's done. You would be flabbergasted!! But, I can't risk being found by him or inflaming his anger again. He has moved on to other targets. Someday he's going to mess with the wrong person and then.....I can only hope.

John mcgowan said...

OT:

IMPD: Infant's disappearance 'not a random act'
Janna Rivera reported missing Friday morning


INDIANAPOLIS -- The search for a missing 3-month-old continued Saturday, with Indianapolis police detectives saying they didn't believe her disappearance was a random act.

Police suspended their search Friday afternoon for a missing 3-month-old girl, but neighbors said forensics investigators stayed on the scene at the baby's home until 4 a.m. Saturday.

Janna Rivera was reported missing Friday morning from a home at 4151 Candy Apple Blvd., on the far-east side of Indianapolis.

Get breaking news updates in the palm of your hand with the free RTV6 app.

IMPD Sgt. Kendale Adams said the baby's mother called police around 9 a.m. Friday morning and said her baby was dead.

Adams said the mother later called back and recanted and instead said her boyfriend took the child Thursday night and she didn't know where they were.

Police deployed bloodhounds Friday to search for the baby in a wooded area near the home, and searched the contents of a garbage truck as well.

After completing a search of a pond by boat, Indianapolis Fire Department divers began searching the water.

Police helicopters also performed grid searches in the area.

Police worked with search dogs to check inside the family's home and vehicles after obtaining a warrant.

IMPD Lt. Richard Riddle said Saturday that detectives were following up on all leads developed in the case and continued conducting searches.

Investigators said the mother's boyfriend is a person of interest in the case, but he was not cooperative during questioning.

Neighbors told police the family had just moved in to the home about a week ago.

A man who lives next door told RTV6 he saw two women and a man crying outside the home Thursday night.

"They were crying. They were very upset," he said. "One lady was going out with what appeared to be a paper bag. The other lady ran into the house. She was crying. It's just very disturbing knowing it had something to do with a 3-month-old baby."

Two other school-age children live in the home, but police said they are both safe and accounted for.

Editor's Note: A previous version of this story identified the mother's boyfriend as the baby's father, which is incorrect.

http://www.theindychannel.com/news/local-news/police-searching-pond-for-missing-baby

tania cadogan said...

Oh dear John, this is not going to have a good ending.

Given the mother's original call i wonder about domestic violence and that from her boyfriend causing her to change her story.

Since the boyfriend is not the baby's father and is not cooperating i suspect he wasn't happy about another man's child being around.

How long had they been togeather?

What is the mom's involvement?

Wendy said...


I have to agree with John, this story really makes your brain hurt. I've taken a few breaks and kept going back to re-edit.

The person Photoshopped a picture, thought it was fun. At that time, did she think it was funny? Did she post it on her FB page or send it to her friends? Something happened between her and this person and there is a lot of information that she omits and gives information that is unnecessary.

This person started a FB accounts under her name, changed their name three times. 3 is the liar’s number and the picture she posts shows 2 different names -Robert Lyn and Bee Cee Dee. According to the dates she lists, this all happened within 7 days. The way it's written, one would have thought this was going on for months. To her dismay, Police didn’t look for the person behind these pictures—when did this become plural? She tries to use the Amanda Todd incident in her favor but it didn’t work.
She is angry with the police for not doing anything about this crime and there are no threats.

In 2/1/15 the photo resurfaces—there is a large amount of time unaccounted for. The information she omitted may have been useful.
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He was unsure if it was real, but he knew me well enough to know I would never do something like that.

He didn’t know if it was real, are there others? She would never do something like that-is an unreliable denial. She’s not committing to a firm “NO,” and we don’t know if she would in the future.
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As much as it hurt hearing my friend ask me if this photo was real I was glad he knew I would never take naked selfies and post them online.
He knew she took naked selfies, but knows she wouldn’t put the naked ones online.
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She argues with the police, wanting them to take action—and discounts them when they don’t go above and beyond. Her boyfriend calls and ‘mentions’ her photo being on Twitter. This is unexpected; he would be upset, assuming he knew what kind of ordeal she's had. He’s not into social media so how did he know the account was fake? She may have done that for publicity.
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She isn’t worried about her reputation; she’s gone public with her story and continues to use that photo. She is trying to sensationalize her story by being a victim. Celebrities deal with negative publicity all the time, unfortunately, the internet is huge and there are a lot of sick people out there. Andrea isn’t a celebrity but she is trying to get her name out there. Negative publicity is still publicity. To make her story interesting, she adds some fluff to it.

I believe someone did Photoshop her picture and set up fake accounts. I think she knows who it is, I don’t think it was her. She omitted a lot of information that might have been useful and could have shed some light on her story.

Her constant us of “I would never…,” shows deception and it’s hard to trust what she is saying and if she is believable. She should have added a disclaimer to her story.

Stuart said...

+1 on John mcgowan's first post. There were a few things that stuck out, but the biggest was that she kept referring to "my story"

I was reminded of Tiffany Hartley and her use of "my story"

+1 on Jen Ow too. "Was she warned by L.E. that she could face charges due to this image?"
That's a very good question.

On a personal note, one of my wife's best friends got a call from the police a few years ago. They told her that they found pictures of her daughter on the computer of a man who worked at a summer camp she attended. Her daughter was 10 or 11 at the time. Her daughter had no idea that anyone was taking pictures of her. The most revealing picture was of her in a swimsuit. The man was being investigated for child pornography and that was the context of the call.
Her dad was absolutely livid. The daughter was confused. The mom was extremely upset. It was a very traumatic time for the whole family.
The daughter had to answer questions related to a child pornography investigation... She had to hear that she couldn't go to her favorite summer camp anymore.
Her mom had to explain to her what was going on and why the daughter had to talk to the police.
I can't imagine what it was like getting that phone call. I also can't imagine the thought of pictures of one of my daughters being circulated online to strangers.
I will never know what it's like to be a teenage girl, but I know that there is something very wrong with "her story". Perhaps the facts are all more or less there, but there is an emotional aspect to it that is completely missing. It's like her reaction comes and goes at different points and even though the story is deeply personal it doesn't feel personal at all. Does that make sense?

Jen Ow quoted this part in her comment: "My boyfriend is first of all not a social media maven"

Of all the words in this story, the word "maven" jumps out the most to me. The amateur statement analyst part of my brain tells me that since it is in the negative it is doubly important so being a social media maven is important to her. But it's not just that it is stated in the negative, it is the word itself. It has a very specific meaning. She could have communicated his lack of social media expertise in an infinite number of ways, but she chose the word "maven"
I'll include its definition on the off chance that some don't know it. From Wikipedia:

"A maven (also mavin) is a trusted expert in a particular field, who seeks to pass knowledge on to others. The word maven comes from Hebrew, meaning "one who understands", based on an accumulation of knowledge."

I don't know why it bugs me so much, but when I read it, it felt the same as if someone stopped to sneeze while giving a passionate speech. That's what I mean by the emotion coming and going. I kept waiting for the kind of emotion I felt from my wife's friend, but instead I got "not a social media maven" and poof! it didn't feel authentic.

John mcgowan said...

Hi Wendy,

I've struggled to find out the way to underline without using "full stops", which puts space's between each one, could you explain how you do it.

Thanks.

John mcgowan said...

Part two:

(The topless picture above I have blurred because I am afraid it might be used against me by the police for posting child pornography)

Here we have a change in language from "naked photo to "topless picture"

She introduces "Child Pornography" this is something i would pursue further given it is her who mentions it.

my friend

This is an incomplete social introduction and is passive. Although she uses the pronoun "My" and not his full name this maybe at the time of the statement they were not as close as they were, or that she wants to conceal his name?

Talk to me right away on the phone

When phones are mentioned in a statement it often ties the person/persons to the crime. That she says "right away" is unnecessary. We would expect this to be unsaid. Is this a need for people to know the importance of the call.

For anyone who saw the photo who didn’t know me would have thought it was any topless Asian girl.

"Asian girl.

Why bring race into the factor. This also is unnecessary , making it doubly important to her. We seek to wonder why she mentions this?

He was unsure if it was real, but he knew me well enough to know I would never do something like that"

"I would never do something like that"

This is not a reliable denial. Never should not be accepted as did not/didn't. That is unless the question was "have you ever"

"like that"

That is distant. Where there is a "that" there is a "this". Did you pull little jaynes hair in the play ground? No mummy i didn't do "That" i did "this".

"He sent me the link and I was beyond upset"

"beyond upset"

This is a need to pursued how "upset" she was by using the word "beyond". What is her definition of "beyond upset"? The emotion is placed in the correct part of her statement, which is also used to pursued us of her feelings. Emotions take time to process and usually come at the end of an event.

"This time I did not contact the police, since they were no help the first time"

Anything in the negative is sensitive. We see this in her need to explain "Since"

"As much as it hurt hearing my friend ask me if this photo was real I was glad he knew I would never take naked selfies and post them online."

Never doesn't mean did not/didn't and is unreliable. It's not to say it is not true, but statistically it is unreliable.

Change in language "naked photo" "topless" and now it becomes "naked selfie" I do not see a reason for the change in language.

"he knew I would never take naked selfies and post them online."

Does she take "naked selfies" and post them somewhere else, ie to phones etc. Has "he" or someone else received a "naked selfie" via a phone?

"April 19, 2015 – I get a call from my boyfriend during work. He mentions a “naked photo” and I immediately bursted into tears".

"I get" "Mentions" "Bursted"

All said in the present tense.

"during work"

This is again unnecessary information making it important to her. Why does she feel the need to inform us she was at work?

John mcgowan said...

Part Three. ~~Needs coffee~~ lol

"during work"

Who was at work? Her or her "boyfriend?

"My boyfriend is first of all not a social media maven. He did not understand the importance of social media and the role it played in my life, since I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media."

"My boyfriend"

Incomplete social introduction.

"first of all"

Note there is not a "second" following the "first of all" There is missing information here.

"He did not understand the importance of social media and the role it played in my life, since I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media."

"He did not understand the importance of social media"

This is in the negative too. She says "He did not understand" in the past tense. This i find hard to believe given most people are aware of the "social media" and the upset it can cause. Does understand "social media now?.

"and the role it played in my life, since I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media."


"and the role it played in my life"

Past tense. Does she still use "social media? what role does it "play in her "life"

"since I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media."

A need to explain making it very sensitive.

"I am in public relations and half my life revolves around social media."

Note this is passive and is to conceal.
What public relations is She part of?

What constitutes the other "half" or her "life"?

"April 22, 2015 – I contacted the police and an officer arrived at my house later that night. I explained my story and had high expectations that they would do something about the situation, since it was an on going thing."

"My story"

This is unexpected. As explained above.

"that they would do something about the situation"

Note "the situation" and not "my situation" She does not take ownership of "the situation" with the pronoun "My", but uses the article "the" which is distancing language.

Wendy said...

Hi John,
I was trying to figure out a way to separate my analysis and my opinion so it wouldn't be confusing. I tapped the Enter key to start the next line, then I tapped the Underline key @ 10 times, and then I tapped Enter. (You can tap enter twice after you underline to make it look even.)
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It's funny you mentioned that---I was trying to figure out how you got the bold print!
*I agree with you about your brain hurting......

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Hi Wendy,


Place the letter "b" between these these two symbol's <> then write your message making sure it is right next to the symbols. Then you want to close it. To do that, put /b between the symbols above making sure it is right next to the end of you word or sentence. To use "italics follow the same instructions replacing the "b" with "i".