Saturday, May 2, 2015
Statement Analysis: Floyd Mayweather's Statement On Domestic Violence
As people are preparing to pay $100 for a pay-per-view boxing match, lost, perhaps, is the element of Domestic Violence and its impact upon women.
Floyd Mayweather has been arrested or cited for Domestic Violence at least 7 times, for assaults against 5 different women.
These are what are known, publicly.
What Domestic Violence advocates report is something very different.
What one finally results in a conviction or citation is often just window dressing for what goes on behind the scenes where women are often too afraid, too ashamed, or have too little support to take legal or even just practical action.
Floyd Mayweather is a serial batterer of women.
Last year, he was asked about the high number of arrests. He said, "No pictures. Just hearsay and allegations."
The problem with this statement is not just that it is unreliable. He could not bring himself to say "I did not strike my wife" or "I did not hit any woman" or anything close. In fact, with 7 arrests/citations, it would be difficult for him to make a denial because he would have to speak to a specify one to be reliable. This large number could only be met with the unreliable, "never" in response.
D/V victims are sometimes in positions where they are on the receiving end of anger...from women.
D/V victims have found themselves in vulnerable positions. They fear not being believed. They fear retaliation.
They fear being blamed.
Mayweather is a star in a media driving world. This means, like Michael Jackson and initially Lance Armstrong, defenders can be rabid in attacking the victims. Women have been accused of "betraying" the abuser, "ruining his career", being a "gold digger, anyway" and other such unjust claims.
Some may have medial issues and will lose benefits for following through with the legal complaint. Others simply cannot afford to get free financially.
The impact is not just for the life of the victim, but is generational as children are raised in an environment where:
Growing boys see how to control women through violence at first, and the threat of violence afterwards. They sing rap songs that routinely use derogatory terms for women. The arbitrary gender taught in school teaches them that there is no discernible difference between male and females, anyway. Since there is no difference, the old teaching that masculinity sacrifices its strength, rather than use it to exploit, is not applicable. To physically harm one who is weaker is distinctly un-masculine behavior.
Girls who grow up in domestic violence also feel a sense of 'normalcy' in violence and are desensitized towards it in general. Note the violent "ratchet girl" videos where "world star, world star!" is yelled by males watching females violent assault one another for the entertainment of the men. The "world star!" refers to the fact that the video will be posted for the public. The videos are shockingly violent, and the lack of revulsion, itself, is frightening. We now regularly read of violent crimes by females in manners we have not always seen. It is a culture of violence and its impact is generational.
This too, is cemented in culturally in music. Remember, music is a powerful influence particularly upon minds that are in a state of heightened development. As a reader here, you know that words matter, and the violent lyrics, especially towards women, have impact.
For those who uphold Mayweather as a hero, a woman who suffers violence at his hands must consider facing the rage of fans as it is "her fault" and she should have "kept it private." Some victims have even found their own families blaming them. How much more so when the abuser is a celebrity?
"No pictures. Just hearsay and allegations."
Lots of hearsay and lots of allegations. That he said, "No pictures" indicates that there is no evidence of what he did, rather than deny the action. It is a public insult, given to the media, against the women that have been abused by him.
I grew up with seven sisters. I have two daughters. As a boy I learned that it was distinctly unmanly to ever put a hand upon a woman in anger. It was wrong and why it was wrong was explained in easy to understand terms.
The public is not only willing to fork over a lot of money for a match, but to do so means to ignore his misogyny and crimes which spread over years and show consistent disrespect to women, no different than the steady diet of rap music that employs insulting terms towards women.
In 2001, he punched one of the mothers of his children, repeatedly in the face, and then slammed her face into a car door. He pled guilty. The six month jail sentence that might have caused him to fear returning to jail was suspended and he was given a small fine, community service and "house arrest." How's that for protecting women?
With no tangible punishment, a year later he attacked two women at a nightclub in Las Vegas. Having been found guilty, he was, again, sentenced to 6 months in prison, but again, it was suspended. This time the fine was even lower.
Another attack and against yet another mother of his children resulted in more of his highly skilled and powerful punches to the face of a woman, and had their son call 911 for help. Another plea bargain and another reduction of sentencing: 3 months incarcerated reduced to 2.
May weather is a misogynist and serial abuser of women. This was not a one day fight that broke out between him and his wife in which he expressed repentance and sought to rehabilitate his life, his marriage and his name.
This is a thug who cowardly has used his strength to harm those women in his life, without regard to the impact upon them, the children, nor even the public who adores him.
His abuse of women is honored by the legion of fans paying for the fight. It is not just his culture of abuse exampled, but the culture that ignores what he has done to women.
"No pictures. Just hearsay and allegations." This is to avoid denying the violence, but to affirm the truth of the allegations admitting only that pictures of what he has done do not exist.
If our culture had the respect for women that it claims to, there would not be enough money in the supply and demand to support this fight.
It would have been helpful to have the president of the United States comment on this extreme example of serial women abuse, even as he has commented on lots of sports and some criminal cases since taking office. He has been silent particularly when he could have used this to highlight the disgust our nation should feel over the statistics of violence against women.
May weather: "I had a chance to sit down with Obama before he got nominated. Barack Obama is truly a great guy. A great guy. The coolest president that I ever met. He's got swag."
Floyd Mayweather is a serial abuser of women, with his fists. He makes millions of dollars with his fists and he more adept at using them than most anyone else. The same fists he has made millions on, he has used to strike the faces of women. MGM, Las Vegas, all the sponsors, CBS (owner of Showtime), should be ashamed of themselves. It is reportedly the richest fight in the history of boxing...a man who has consistently physically abused women and there should be ashamed of themselves.
The CDC says that every year 4.7 million women experience violence of a physical nature at the hands of a male partner. From advocates and investigators, just as from family and friends, we know it is a dramatically under-reported crime, even while 1 of every 4 women has experienced it. The collective indifference is astounding.
While making thoughts a crime, America is celebrating a chronic, serial abuser of women.
Something is very wrong.
No boycotts. No presidential comment. No online protests. Nothing from politicians who usually fall over each other when an opportunity presents itself. Nothing from the networks.
What is it about this fight that has a serial brutalizer of women, setting an example for young Americans about violence, that is met with no protests, but millions of dollars?
"No pictures. Just hearsay and allegations."