Friday, November 13, 2015

Statement of Pastor Finds Wife Murdered

A pastor came home from a gym to find his wife a victim of a home invasion murder.  Davey Blackburn said he was at the gym when he got home and found his wife, Amanda, shot in the head.  News report quoting police say "100%" not involved and the video at the gym shows his alibi.  

He released a public statement.  I am not working on this case and only use that which is in the public domain.  When I work with a case, I do not comment on the case.  

“It’s impossible to communicate all the emotions my heart has been forced to process. My wife was such a beautiful, gracious, loving woman of God. I have not only lost my ministry partner and support, but also my very best friend. There is no way to prepare yourself for circumstances like these. As deeply as I am hurting, I am hopeful and confident that good things will come of this. I rest in the truth of Romans 8:28 that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him and who are called according to His purpose.
“Amanda made it her life’s calling to love and serve everyone she knew. Even more, she has made it her life’s mission to see as many people as possible come to know Jesus as their personal Savior.”
“I know that in her death and legacy even more people will come to a saving faith in Christ. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt her desire for me would be to continue what we’ve started here in Indy. I hold firm to the belief that God is still good, that He takes our tragedy and turns it into triumph, and that the best truly is yet to come.”

I do not like this statement; this is not expected, nor is it natural. 

Please note:  there is nothing here of which I may conclude deception nor guilt and police have said he is not suspected.  

1.  Justice.

There is no call for justice for Amanda. 

2.  Social Introduction is incomplete.  

a.  How does he relate to Amanda;
b.  How does he relate Amanda to himself, and her children

3.  There is no concern for his neighbors at risk, nor himself.   

He does not express fear for his life, and if his belief system means only focusing upon others, there is no fear for the community at large with such danger abounding. 

There is no denial, but a quick acceptance of his wife's death.  This is very early in the process.  

There is no mention of her as a mother, which is very strange since they have a child and he is now without his mother. Perhaps the subject did not feel she was a good mother, or he had an issue that was acute, about her as mother. 

He does not use her name, initially, which is subtle distancing language, even though she is "my wife" and "woman,"  When he does use "Amanda" it is about her in relation to others, not to him, nor their child. "Amanda" serves everyone, but this does not include her own children.  

There is a good deal of focus upon himself, and not upon his child, and how they are to survive without her.  

There is no mention of the murder of the pre born child.  This is a dominant point in its absence.  To the excited father, pre born children are referenced, spoken to, have music played for, and other such to stimulate brain development.  The expectation is closeness and intimacy and this shows in language. 

I find the use of "I" to suggest narcissistic tendencies, including that he begins with his emotions being impossible to communicate,  and on to the mentioning of his ministry; he is not in despair to consider  at the time of this statement, leaving or suspending ministry.  This narcissistic tendency is consistent with feeling "called" to be "different", (unconventional) which is his claim to reach people that the church does not.  It sounds noble, or modernistic, but not when measured against his own reference point; it is contradictory,  just as his statement may sound inspirational, but not at this time, without human expected emotions.  

It is a statement in denial of natural affected human emotion.  

This is to negate or suspend natural emotion.  

I recognize that there is no allegation of wrong doing, and that he is expressing himself via faith, but the expectation is:

Deep sadness, denial, anger, etc, as well as a call for justice (which is absent) and protection for the community. 

Then, there is her as a "mother", which is conspicuously missing from his statement.  

It is too early for distancing language and the use of "your" is so strange given his child was present for the murder:  it does not get much more up close and personal than this.  

He closes with:

“My focus right now is to let The Lord minister to my heart as I continue to shepherd little Weston’s.  I’ll be taking this time to focus on being a great follower of Jesus, dad, family member, and pastor to our growing church.

His focus is on keeping his ministry and he being "great."

Please note that he is going to "let" The Lord, that is, the Omnipotent God, placing himself in control.  This is also consistent with narcissistic thinking.  This type of "front and center" within ministry becomes 'entertainment' styled:  I listened to the Marriage Q and A, he did with Amanda; it is the same style.  

I do not hear anything about her as a mother to her child, and this is concerning.  The child was present at the time of the murder and he has not expressed anything about the now childless mother.  This is an expected dominant theme:  a baby is motherless and he is now responsible.  This is to say:

As a mother, he distanced himself from Amanda.  

I recognize that people of faith may find this offensive, but there is a woman murdered and her husband has issued an unusual statement that does not sound to my ears to be of faith, but of false, emotional and unrealistic position, instead. 

If genuine faith is the ability to believe in the worst of circumstances, it is "in the worst" of circumstances, not "above" or "outside" them which his wording suggests.  This is an unrealistic stance.  

He appears to be outside or above all natural human connection to the murder, which may impress some, but is not consistent with the claim of that which he stands upon.  Since his standard is Scripture, raised by him, it should be seen in context:  It is not he, himself, laying down or sacrificing his life;  and even if he is above feeling her loss: 

The mother of his child has now been taken away.  There should be, in the least, some concern expressed for this child.  The child is young, incapable of self protection and vulnerable, but there is nothing in his released statement.  Instead, grandiose faith is acclaimed for himself, with no concern, even, for his neighbors who now have a brutal killer out there.  

This is of no concern to him, but his ministry is his concern.  

For those who feel that this is inaccurate, see  examples from Scripture including the mourning of David over Absolam, or the mourning of Christ over Jerusalem.   Both showed natural grief.   

The statement is concerning, and if he has no part in his wife's death, the concern moves towards his own refusal to face the reality of what happened.  


At this point, I would not rule him out as a suspect though the news says he is cleared by police.   Police reported that it may be related to other break ins within the area.  

It is an unrealistic statement and it is unexpected even in the realm of faith.  



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Statement Analysis Blog said...

my world,

read where?

links, please.

Before this, I have not heard of him.


Peter

Anonymous said...

It is a fact that no death can be pinpointed the EXACT time of death. I long thought he could have done it BEFORE he left for the gym. And why was their dog locked in a room?

My World said...

I just saw your message Peter. I'll look it up and get back to you.

Anonymous said...

From the moment I read this story one week ago, I immediately thought her husband had something to do with it. The entire situation is way too convenient, it happens just after he leaves for the gym, and he returns home at 8:30 to find her, there was no forced entry into the home, he wanted to make sure he was in a public place to be seen to secure an alibi. One of the first things the officers said about clearing Davey was they checked the surveillance cameras at the gym and saw him there. Okay I would never kill someone, but if I was going to I would make sure I was in a public place to be seen too. Also no forced entry I have to reiterate this, now I know not everyone is this way but you should be! My husband always locks the door when he leaves and likewise I always do when I leave.

Also today marks only ten days since this poor wife/mother was murdered meaning the interview was done in even less time since the murder, and he seems so together, its creepy. I am a wife/mother and the first thing that popped into my mind when I heard of this was OMG this poor baby has no mother now. I am sure a lot of parents can relate, now that I have a daughter almost 4, it scares me that something could happen to me like be stricken with cancer, or a car accident, not only based off not wanting to die, but the main focus is I do not want to die because I do not want my daughter left motherless that scares me so bad when I think about it. My point is why does he not convey his child being motherless? He conveys how I am going to do this alone, another selfish point, and he may be saying this so people are not so shocked when Amanda is replaced quickly..just speculation though.

At first I thought me feeling the husband was involved was my way of rationalizing that random horrible things like this just do not happen, I know they do, but it just seems like there is definitely more to it. If you want to see a difference in an upset significant other who lost their wife, view the video below of Collette Mireno, she was killed in a car accident in route to her bachelorette party leaving behind a 5 year old son (this was another mother lost that literally made me cry thinking of this baby not having his mom.) Watch the video of Collette's fiancé, he cannot even speak without crying and the time frame between when Collette died and he did the interview is the same time frame when Davey did the interview about Amanda, night and day difference in these widowers reactions. Collette's fiancé is really a grieving fiancé, Davey not so much. Tell me what you think.

http://www.ksdk.com/story/news/local/2014/06/23/colette-moreno-lake-of-ozarks-bachelorette-party/11278397/

BPatMan said...

What a bunch of crackpots! There was a reason that the police never suspected the husband - it was because he clearly did not fit the profile of a husband who kills his wife in any way. They, along with the FBI are very good at detecting such people.

Unknown said...

Jesus wept when he entered the tomb of Lazarus, even though Jesus knew he was going to raise him from the dead. Why? Because death is abhorrent to God He never intended that we should die. Death came as part of the initial curse when Adam sinned. Jesus saw everyone crying and He was moved with compassion.

Davey Blackburn also made an extremely bizarre comment to the congregation after Amanda's gruesome murder. I found his comment to be profoundly disturbing, delusional and genuinely deranged. Here it is: "I felt like the Lord spoke to my heart and said, 'Davey I want my church; I want my bride to come alive. And if I had asked you Davey before this, if you were willing to give up your bride, so that my bride could come alive, what would you have said?'" "And of course just like anybody, I would have said, 'absolutely not, there's no way, I'm good, I'm good with being married and having two little kids and pastoring a church of 120 for the rest of my life. I'm good with comfort. And the Lord said, "That's why I didn't ask you the question beforehand --Because sometimes when you say, 'I surrender all, you really mean I surrender some until you're put in a situation where you have to surrender all.'"

The Lord would NEVER, EVER make such a statement. This woman was also raped. RAPED. RAPED. Also, Davey is clearly a sexual deviate and a very controlling, domineering, dictatorial, weirdo. Furthermore he can be seen shooting off an air gun in church in a really bizarre manner, not long before her murder. How any pastor overseeing him could possibly allow Davey to speak these heresies before an impressionable congregation is mind boggling.

This kid is insane. But moreover, those following him and allowing him to portray Jesus as a homicidal, misogynistic, family annihilator with a penchant for rape.

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