Saturday, March 19, 2016
The Arrest of Tammy and Sidney Moorer
Police arrested Tammy and Sidney Moorer and in doing so, rolled the dice with a particular hope in mind:
Sidney, now separated from Tammy, would not only confess to the murder, but would allow the Elvis family to give Heather the Christian burial she deserves, and allow the family to begin to grieve by yielding the location of the remains.
It is easy to criticize the police (DA) for this gamble, but it was an accurate read of the characters, with, perhaps, one mistake made, yet one that might have been outside their control.
Tammy's aggression and Sidney's submission set the stage that should they learn where the duo disposed of Heather's remains, the only chance would be in getting Sidney away from Tammy's domination, and leave him somewhat 'free' from her control.
This was a roll of the dice that was well played, statistically, yet in hindsight, the shadow Tammy cast over him was larger than predicted and it may have been the legal machinations were just enough to allow the shadow to impact Sidney, month after month.
This, too, reflects back to the control the much more powerful personality had upon Sidney. This may be one of the rare domestic violence relationships in which it is the man under the control of the female, due to the threat of violence, departure, or even the withholding of the maternal coddling Sidney craves, that brought him under submission.
Tammy's language stood in agreement with body language analysts who said she 'wore the pants' (from another era) in the relationship. Yet, this phrase does not do justice to the power and control that she had, and has, over Sidney.
Tammy and Sidney: law enforcement gambled hoping to get a confession, and I think the risk was worth taking. Not every stat works out in a single instance, but this was a good call and one that should be defended. They know that both killed Heather and had a better profile of Tammy given to them, they might have seen how difficult it is to crack her.
No body, tough case.
With Sidney separated from Tammy, it would have taken stronger isolation to break the hellish bond she has over him, in hindsight, but even now, this is yet another insight into the rage poured upon the victim.
We saw that originally Tammy attacked, boldly, the victim which statistically is something we do not see overtly. What did this overt attack tell us?
Tammy raged against the victim, unconcerned on how much attention it would bring upon her.
Tammy did not rage, as did the recent author of an article on Terri Horman, in order to manipulate readers; specifically women who have been cheated on by their husbands. She showed no intent for propaganda nor emotional black mail.
Her rage targeted the teenaged victim; not the adult male, further showing her dominance and view of Sidney. He is a child to be scolded, yes, but the victim was someone who would feel Tammy's rage.
How much rage?
Consider the following:
The isolation of Sidney from Tammy was not strong enough to break the submission. Whether it was letters or the short encounters in court, Tammy get the powerful hold over the emasculated Sidney. The petulant child remained confident he would be nourished by his 'mommie' figure, and, sure enough, Tammy was right: they were released.
The power of this bond is such that it further highlights the fury that Heather met and suffered under. It gives us even more insight into the cruelty and likely deliberate expansion of suffering and terror that Heather experienced under Tammy. If the Facebook post did not show enough rage, the silence of Sidney further shows how only death, itself, could mitigate the suffering that the victim underwent.
This control is everything to Tammy. For her, it is her life and breath and she would sacrifice anyone, and anything, to keep her life. The ultimate in narcissism, even children are neglected so she could fulfill her needs of child fantasy at Disney, in which Sidney is one of her subordinate childhood characters.
The single most important detail:
That Sidney would overcome this twisted maternal control, overthrow her authority and heighten the insult with a younger, and beautiful girl was to break at Tammy's very existence; her fantastical Disney fantasy world where she is always the front and center character, and there is always a happy ending, was shattered, not by Tammy's unattractive demeanor or appearance, nor even by Heather's youth and beauty:
This was, itself, bad enough, but it was not the chief source of Tammy's rage.
Sidney shattered the magical fantasy in his exploitation of the teenaged victim.
Sidney was, for a very short window of time, the one thing that Tammy could not abide:
Sidney was a man.
This is something utterly destructive to the fantasy life, embedded in all things Disney where children are wisdom personified and men do not exist except in the form of darkness who must be repelled by the innocence of children.
By seeking after the young Heather sexually, Sidney gave all the usual insults to the older woman, but as bad as this is, it was the destruction of fantasy and her control that caused Tammy to be incapable, at that time, of holding back her public rage, no matter how much suspicion it brought upon her. Men have no place in the fantastical yarn, except for sinister roles.
When she had control over the victim, it was a regaining of control over the fantasy, and the ultimate dispatching of the evil step mother, the wicked dragon, and all the monsters in the closet.
The story had to be played out.
The story needed time and this is, for me, the most frightening element of what they did to Heather Elvis.
The death would have to be lengthened and the torture complete to quench the burning appetite, not just for revenge for infidelity, but for destruction of the dream, the fantasy, the "happily ever after" promised within the classics.
Sidney knows all of this but it is his self preservation and yielding to his superior that keeps him silent. He did what he knew he had to: obey and be silent. He could do no more than yield his obedience to her, and, as she likely promised, he would be, like the supporting roles basking in the main character's glory, safe and sound in the end.
Thus is so appears yet there is something else about the death of the victim that I believe, based upon the raging language still coming from Tammy.
The victim's death is the only thing that stopped the torture.
Tammy is not satiated with the blood of Heather. Something interrupted the episode, the grand finale must prior to completion and this may have been that Heather had the temerity to die before Tammy said her peace and did what the script demanded.
Two of the most vile criminal figures we have the misfortune of reading about, Statement Analysis told us all we needed to know early on, yet the rage continues only giving us possible insight, using the words within the rage, into what the innocent victim underwent and why Tammy, and those close to her, must continue to attack the victim's father:
They cannot sleep thinking that he and his may be healing.
This also tells me that the star, the director and the producer, did not complete the story and remains less than satisfied with the pain she inflicted. Life for a life, she may ponder, with her Disney fantasy life destroyed, not by Sidney, but by the victim, who escaped the fullness of wrath in her death, so she must now continue, raging against prosecutors and police, yes, but more so, against the father who dared to stand up for his daughter and point the finger precisely where it belonged.
That Sidney became, for a few weeks or so, a "man", triggered deep resentment, formed in early childhood against men in general, and could not be abided. Her post showed that she blamed the victim, yet must castrate the villainous little male child, publicly, so that he gets, at least, some form of punishment.
No, the emasculated Sidney remained faithful to his fears, allowing the fantasy to continue, but the resentment of Terry Elvis is the resentment of a man.
A man who struggled in trying to keep his teenaged daughter from growing up too quickly, knowing that there were lesser men out there who would prey upon the young, using the age and financial disparity to exploit. Yet she wanted her own place and she wanted the adult world; the world that Terry knew was fraught with all sorts of dangers; the dangers fathers of beloved daughters, know of and do what they can to protect.
This act of protection, itself, enrages Tammy who cannot stop, herself or working through others, from attacking Terry, because Terry is a man who sought to do that which no man had afforded Tammy; protection.
I expect the attacks to continue with no one able to talk Tammy Moorer out of her attacks, including attorneys. It is who she is and she has shown how far she will go to protect her Disney fantasy life.
It was a calculated gamble by law enforcement and one where critics can have their field day, but they tried, where others allow the case to go cold to pad their own win-loss records.
I respect the attempt and separating the two was the only chance of gaining the revelation of Heather's remains.
They did it for Heather.
They did it for justice.
They did it for Terry, which Tammy well knows, which fuels her incessant rage.
The fantasy is as real as photoshopped pictures.