Saturday, January 20, 2018

Shirley M. Collado Statement On Sexual Abuse



Ithaca College President Shirley M.  Collado was accused of sexually abusing a female patient while working as a psychologist in Washington, D.C., in 2000 and was convicted of sexual abuse in 2001. 
Prosecutors argued Collado took advantage of a vulnerable, sexual-abuse survivor with mental illness by entering into a monthslong sexual relationship that started when Collado was the patient’s therapist. Collado denies having any sexual contact with the patient.
Collado admitted moving the patient into her home, which is not only against the licensing ethics, but her employment contract. 
The issue has been raised again and she has issued this statement.  
Is she telling the truth?
What do her words tell us about her:
a.  Background
b.  Experiences 
c.  Priorities
d.  Personality Traits 

For formal training for Deception Detection, go to Hyatt Analysis Services. 

Here is her statement:  

Recently, I learned that an anonymous source has been circulating misleading information to other colleges and universities and their news outlets about a traumatic time in my life that took place almost 20 years ago. Seeing how profoundly the facts and my character are being misrepresented and being forced to relive the pain of that time have left me feeling upset, perplexed, and targeted. I do not know who is disseminating this information or how widely it is being shared.
I have been candid about this very trying chapter of my life, and how it has influenced the way I approach my work and my personal path. I have discussed it over the years with confidantes and with leaders I’ve worked for. I discussed it with the Ithaca College Board of Trustees and the presidential search committee during my candidacy for president. While trying to maintain a degree of privacy and confidentiality for myself and other individuals, I shared the broad details of this story in an interviewpublished by the college as part of my introduction to the campus community last spring.
Because the story is personal, it’s very hard to describe the details more publicly than I have in the past, with a campus community who is still getting to know me. However, after intensive reflection, I have decided that I must follow my commitment to owning our full stories with humanity and insight.
In 2000, less than a year after finishing my Ph.D., I was in training as a trauma therapist in a mental health center in a hospital in Washington, D.C., working with patients suffering from very severe psychiatric disorders that limited their ability to function independently. A short time after I began this work, my husband of three years killed himself in our home. He was my best friend and my rock, and I could not understand why he did this to himself and to us. I was devastated, and took a leave of absence to try to work through my overwhelming grief.
During my leave of absence, a former patient sought me out for help when she was in crisis and had no place to stay. Worried for her safety, I invited her into the home I shared with my roommate, but after a brief period I realized that I could not provide the support she was looking for while I myself was trying to heal. So, I let her know that she could no longer stay with us and helped her move out.
Shortly thereafter, I received the news that she was making allegations about me to the staff at the hospital. I suddenly found myself fighting a misdemeanor sexual abuse charge for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center.
I fought the charge to the best of my ability, but my fighting spirit was limited by so many things. I was in my twenties, had very little money and resources, and was grieving a profound personal loss.
And so, I juggled two very strong and opposing instincts: to defend myself aggressively against a painful, false accusation or to devote my energy to healing from my loss. My lawyer recommended pleading no contest to the misdemeanor charge so that I could just end the matter quickly and move on. After a lot of soul searching, I took his advice. I pled no contest, or nolo contendre, to the misdemeanor, ending the matter, and moved back to New York to be with my family, where I completed probation and community service.
In light of the resurfacing of this legal action, I want to unequivocally state now, as I did then, that the accusations in the court documents are simply not true. If I had had more resources and was not dealing with my significant loss, I probably would have fought the charge. But I did what I felt was in my best interest at that time and followed my lawyer’s advice.
I could have let this terrible episode discourage me from advocating for people with mental illness and limited resources, but there are so many people like my former patient who have experienced great trauma and illness and face extraordinary challenges related to health care, housing, employment, education, safety, and more. I actively continued teaching in the areas of trauma and the intersections of trauma, mental health, race, culture, and gender. And, I devoted a great deal of effort to improving services, support, policies, processes, education, training, and prevention related to sexual misconduct and gender-based violence during my tenure at both Middlebury College and Rutgers University–Newark.
I believe that the experience helped sharpen a sense of humanity and empathy that has been with me throughout my career in education. I have always worked to ensure that people’s full humanity is respected and understood, without reducing them only to their most visible labels, diagnoses, or social markers. When I work with students, staff, and faculty dealing with hardships, difficult decisions, big mistakes, losses, or trauma, I have a personal lens that is informed by my own experience and the amazing resilience that I know we all have within us.
I am deeply grateful for the unwavering support and compassion I have received from the board and from all those with whom I’ve discussed this difficult story. And I want to thank you, now, for giving me the time to share this deeply personal and painful part of my life.
Sincerely,
Shirley M. Collado

68 comments:

General P. Malaise said...


to quote Collad:

"If I had had more resources and was not dealing with my significant loss, I probably would have fought the charge. But I did what I felt was in my best interest at that time and followed my lawyer’s advice."

the best resource you had, if innocent would be the truth. yet instead of standing on truth, your defence is that of being a victim and you lay it at the feet of the lawyer. as a President of Ithaca College I would expect a level of responsibility that you have not shown.

Bobcat said...

OT: Turpin journals

"The children’s parents, David and Louise Turpin, now face life in prison for multiple counts of torture, child abuse and false imprisonment that lasted for years. While describing the case Thursday, prosecutors revealed the Turpin children’s only freedom was writing in journals.

Authorities have recovered hundreds of them.

Riverside County law enforcement officials now are combing through those journals. District Attorney Mike Hestrin said he believes they will be very significant to the coming court case and will provide “strong evidence of what occurred in that home.”

The diaries also have sparked the interest of academics who research trauma and language. Writing in the journals was, quite possibly, what allowed the children to survive a life of fear, hunger and torture, said James Pennebaker, a renowned expert on using writing to heal from traumatic experiences.

“There is a good chance that being able to write may have kept them sane,” Pennebaker said. “In an interesting way, this may have helped them come to terms with the bizarre world they lived in.”

Pennebaker, a University of Texas-Austin psychology professor who has been following the Perris case from afar, described the child torture as the “most horrific story imaginable.” In an interview Friday, he wondered aloud why the Turpins would have allowed their children to chronicle their captivity and still kept the journals in the house, basically stockpiling evidence of their crimes.

But the unlikely existence of these journals creates a unique research tool that may allow academics to design therapies to help victims of torture, maltreatment and prolonged captivity, Pennbaker said.

The children’s stunted language skills might make the journals hard to decipher, he said. But this challenge also would be valuable in the study of communications barriers and the evolution of language."

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2018/01/19/turpin-torture-diaries/1049928001/

General P. Malaise said...

"An Important Message from President Shirley M. Collado"


the title here maybe considered part of Collado's priority (the opening sentence often lays out the author's priority)

It tells us Collado, is giving us an "important message". it builds on that importance by telling us it is from "President" Collado. it is about her. it is not for the students and faculty or public at large. it is about her and for her.

It then goes on to say,

" Recently, I learned that an anonymous source has been circulating misleading information to other colleges and universities and their news outlets about a traumatic time in my life that took place almost 20 years ago. "

1) immediately we see that it does not start with the pronoun "I". When a subject begins with the pronoun "I" we can expect reliable information to exist within the text. and conversely less or not reliable information when it does not.

2) it begins with "recently" bringing the element of time to the forefront of the statement.

3) "I learned" this is used by people to make it appear that happenstance brought this information to her. it is like saying "suddenly" or "I noticed" or "I read it in the newspaper". it is distancing language. it is used to minimise the event. with the pronoun "I" Collado has brought herself into the statement early so we hope to find reliable information.

4) "that an anonymous source has been circulating... " here the author is using passive language which is often used to conceal identity or responsibility.

5) "circulating" why the word "circulating"? has this topic been circling Collado since it occurred? is it making her a target? does she feel she is the target? it seems an unexpected term.

6) "circulating misleading information" here we see the weazel word "misleading" not "false" not "incorrect" but the passive "misleading information". how it is misleading is not said.

7) "to other colleges and universities and their news outlets .." again passive language. the others are not identified.

8) "about a traumatic time in my life that took place almost 20 years ago. " building the narrative of excuse and not a narrative of taking responsibility. the sentence starts with an element of time and ends with an element of time, "almost 20 years ago." this is to say it was a long time ago, move along and besides I was traumatised so not my fault.

General P. Malaise said...

continued: 2nd sentence.

"Seeing how profoundly the facts and my character are being misrepresented and being forced to relive the pain of that time have left me feeling upset, perplexed, and targeted. I do not know who is disseminating this information or how widely it is being shared."

1) "Seeing how profoundly the facts and my character are being misrepresented .." Collado tells us she is "seeing" how. what is she seeing? she gives a visual reference but what is that connected to?

2) "how profoundly the facts and my character are being misrepresented .." the law of economy dictates that the shortest way to answer is the best way. here we have unnecessary words and qualifiers which diminish/weaken her claim. "profoundly", "the facts", "my character". we are not told what is meant by "profoundly" "the facts" are being misrepresented. we are not told how her "character" is being misrepresented.

3) "and being forced to relive the pain of that time have left me feeling upset, perplexed, and targeted." again we see in the narrative she is building on her own victimhood. she is not presenting detail or defence, she is not saying that anything untrue has been said. "being forced" but not be who or how she is "forced"

4) " to relive the pain of that time" "of that time" distancing and again bringing in the element of time.

5) "have left me feeling upset, perplexed, and targeted." this is about her feelings and emotions.

6) "I do not know who is disseminating this information or how widely it is being shared."
the author uses passive language here repeating what she stated in the first sentence. this repetition tells us it is very sensitive to her and the passivity is often used to conceal identity. she may know very well who is doing this.

7) "..this information or how widely it is being shared." "this" indicate that it is close to her "this information".

8) "..or how widely it is being shared." this is unexpected in the statement. unexpected alerts us to what is mentioned especially as in this case it seems unnecessary wording.
we ask ourselves why say this? what difference would it make how widely "circulated" it is? if it is untrue give us a reliable denial. to have mentioned it means it is important to the subject. this is an open statement and will only "circulate" the story further. who does she not want to know this is what comes to mind.

SO ENDS THE FIRST PARAGRAPH: no mention, no empathy for the victim (the one that precipitated the criminal complaint). we still don't know what this about. the priority has been to make a case for victimhood.

Anonymous said...

How did the husband kill himself?

Anonymous said...

https://www.ithaca.edu/president/news/incoming-president-shirley-m.-collado-shares-her-story-part-1-43846/

Bobcat said...

The allegation:

"I suddenly found myself fighting a misdemeanor sexual abuse charge for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center."

Is there a reliable denial?
"I fought the charge to the best of my ability, but my fighting spirit was limited by so many things. I was in my twenties, had very little money and resources, and was grieving a profound personal loss. And so, I juggled two very strong and opposing instincts: to defend myself aggressively against a painful, false accusation or to devote my energy to healing from my loss."

She was unable to deny the allegation THEN because she was:
1) in her twenties
2) had limited resources
3) was grieving a personal loss

"My lawyer recommended pleading no contest to the misdemeanor charge so that I could just end the matter quickly and move on. After a lot of soul searching, I took his advice.
I pled no contest, or nolo contendre, to the misdemeanor, ending the matter, and moved back to New York to be with my family, where I completed probation and community service."


no contest https://dictionary.law.com/Default.aspx?selected=1327
n. in criminal law, a defendant's plea in court that he/she will not contest the charge of a particular crime, also called nolo contendere. While technically not an admission of guilt for commission of the crime, the judge will treat a plea of "no contest" as such an admission and proceed to find the defendant guilty as charged. A "no contest" plea is often made in cases in which there is also a possible lawsuit for damages by a person injured by the criminal conduct, because it cannot be used in the civil lawsuit as an admission of fault. "No contest" is also used where there has been a "plea bargain" in which the defendant does not want to say he/she is guilty but accepts the sentence recommended by the prosecutor in exchange for not contesting the charge (which is often reduced to a lesser crime). It is standard practice for the judge to ask either the attorneys or the defendant, "Is there a factual basis for the plea?" before accepting it and finding the defendant guilty.

Was the "no contest" plea part of an agreement to reduce criminal charges to a misdemeanor?

"In light of the resurfacing of this legal action, I want to unequivocally state now, as I did then, that the accusations in the court documents are simply not true. If I had had more resources and was not dealing with my significant loss, I probably would have fought the charge."

Now, because the legal action has resurfaced, does she offer a reliable denial? No.
She contradicts herself about fighting the charge.

She is deceptive.

ima.grandma said...

"I do not know who is disseminating this information or how widely it is being shared."
The need to silence is the indicator of weakness.  

"I have been candid about this very trying chapter of my life, and how it has influenced the way I approach my work and my personal path. I have discussed it over the years with confidantes and with leaders I’ve worked for. I discussed (it) (with) the Ithaca College Board of Trustees and the presidential search committee during my candidacy for president. "

Mentioning Board is an attempt to persuade audience of positive “rubber stamp” of approval as to her character and past actions.This further shows her need to persuade the vetting procedure of “presidential search committee." This leaves open what must be accomplished "vetting" before the search committee approves and selects a candidate.

While trying to maintain a degree of privacy and confidentiality for myself (order) and other individuals, I shared the broad details of this story in an interviewpublished by the college as part of my introduction to the campus community last spring (when?)

Because the story is personal, it’s very hard to describe the details more publicly than I have in the past, with a campus community who is still getting to know me. 

Transitional word showing contrast: (However), after intensive reflection, I have decided that I must follow my commitment to owning (our) 
Principle:  when she  uses the pronoun "our" and is not speaking for "us" or "we" (as in a joint interview with the College) it is a signal that the she may have discussed this statement with a representative from the college.
(full) stories with humanity and insight.

In 2000, less than a year after finishing my Ph.D., I was in training as a trauma therapist in a mental health center in a hospital in Washington, D.C., working with patients suffering from very severe psychiatric disorders that limited their ability to function independently. 

A short time after I began this work, my husband of three years killed himself  (Collado said she was working in the trauma unit at The Center when her first husband committed suicide on July 9, 2000) in our home. He was my best friend and my rock, and I could not understand why he did this to himself and to us. I was devastated, and took a leave of absence to try to work through my overwhelming grief.

During my leave of absence, a former patient sought me out for help when she was in crisis and had no place to stay. Worried for her safety, I invited her into (the) home I shared with my roommate, 
Principle:“ But” refutes what comes before it.  
(but) after a brief period I realized that I could not provide the support she was looking for while I myself was trying to heal. 

Principle: Text Bridges signal missing information. Text Bridges, serve as markers to locate withheld information; however, withheld information does not always indicate deception.Text Bridges used at critical times during interviews or conversations may signal deception. If the missing information is deemed valuable, additional inquiries should be made to reveal the intentionally or unintentionally withheld information. 
(So), I let her know that she could no longer stay "with" "us" and helped her move out.

But I am a robot! said...

How often do reputable attorneys recommend a paying client (not public defender) plead guilty or nolo contendre "to save the legal hassle, expense, embarrassment, etc.," when that client maintains innocence and the attorney believes it?

I'm actually asking if it happens for real. Obviously many people and companies settle out of court for sometimes obscene amounts of money, but pleading guilty to a crime seems a much deeper issue.

ima.grandma said...

Shortly (thereafter) , I received the news that she was making allegations about me to the staff at the hospital. I suddenly found myself fighting a (misdemeanor sexual abuse charge) for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at (the) center.

I fought the charge to the best of my ability, 
Principle:“ But” refutes what comes before it.  
(but) my fighting spirit was limited by so many things. I was in my twenties, had very little money and resources, and was grieving a profound personal loss.

(And) (so), I juggled two very strong and opposing instincts: 
(1) to defend myself aggressively against a painful, false accusation or 
(2to devote my energy to healing from my loss. 

This is given instead of a denial:
"My lawyer recommended pleading no contest to the (misdemeanor) charge (so) that I could (just) end (the) matter quickly and move on. 
After a lot of soul searching, I took his advice. I pled no contest, or nolo contendre, to the misdemeanor, ending the matter,
Instead of denying claim, she passes off responsibility to lawyer.

...and moved back to New York to be with my family, where I completed probation and community service."
This accusation is so strong that it has caused her to “retreat” (she has specific need to not be left alone with this allegation" and “surrounds herself” with others.  

In light of the resurfacing of this legal action, I want to unequivocally state now, as I did then, that the accusations in the court documents are simply not true. (unreliable denial)

If I had had more resources and was not dealing with my significant loss, I probably would have fought the charge. 
Principle:“ But” refutes what comes before it.  
(But) I did what I felt was in my best interest at that time and followed my lawyer’s advice.
This statement allows her to bring forth a thought without personal responsibility. 

ima.grandma said...

She now transitions into abstract language: the essential tool of persuasion: it's also the essential tool of deception. it flowers into poetry and song, celebrates messages of harmony and unity.Such arguments are at times pure sophistry: ways of twisting logic to gain consent.

I could have let this terrible episode discourage me from advocating for people with mental illness and limited resources, 
(but) there are so many people like my former patient who have experienced great trauma and illness and face extraordinary challenges related to health care, housing, employment, education, safety, and more. I actively continued teaching in the areas of trauma and the intersections of trauma, mental health, race, culture, and gender.

( And), I devoted a great deal of effort to improving services, support, policies, processes, education, training, and prevention related to sexual misconduct and gender-based violence during my tenure at both Middlebury College and Rutgers University–Newark.

I believe that the experience helped sharpen a sense of humanity and empathy that has been with me throughout my career in education. I have always worked to ensure that people’s full humanity is respected and understood, without reducing them only to their most visible labels, diagnoses, or social markers. 

When I work with students, staff, and faculty dealing with hardships, difficult decisions, big mistakes, losses, or trauma, I have a personal lens that is informed by my own experience and the amazing resilience that I know we all have within us.

I am deeply grateful for the unwavering support and compassion I have received from the board and from all those with whom I’ve discussed this difficult story. And I want to thank you, now, for giving me the time to share this deeply personal and painful part of my life.

Principle: Content  is vital. 
Text (logical) analytics shows what is being written about most, which topics are trending, 

Principle: Context is vital. 
Sentiment (emotional) analysis to that same content, tells you if the topics are being addressed positively or negatively, which ideas are commonly linked in the text. Abstract language is the essential tool of persuasion: it's also the essential tool of deception. it flowers into poetry and song, celebrates messages of harmony and unity.Such arguments are at times pure sophistry: ways of twisting logic to gain consent.

Simply put, text analytics gives you the meaning. Sentiment analysis gives you insight into the emotion behind the words.

Collado's predisposition “for using others for her purposes,”  is shown by how she emotionally manipulates her language to affect her audience.

Who is her audience? With emphasis on education and professional career experience, should we consider if Collado has a strong need to exclude noneducated people from this discussion. Why and what is the "end game?"

But I am a robot! said...

Wait, she described this painful, embarrassing, criminal behavior (she pled to a criminal charge in a court of law) in her published introductory article/interview announcing her leadership role at the college?

She has a lot of minimizing language, as if she's trying to portray herself as a helpless victim.
"less than a year after" earning Ph.D.; "while training," a "short time after"

ima.grandma said...

Thanks Robot. I carelessly missed the link. Hmmm...more to read, more to consider. Perhaps, it will allow me to gain more insight to properly answer this lesson's specific questions.

But I am a robot! said...

Quoting Collado's statement:
. I suddenly found myself fighting a (misdemeanor sexual abuse charge) for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at (the) center.
~~~

If I were accused of a sexual offense, especially by a vulnerable patient in my charge, I don't think I'd care how seemingly "minor" the details; all I'd hear, think and want to scream is "They're accusing me of sexually assaulting my patient!!!"

Not

"She did say it was just once, and over her clothing, and at least it isn't a felony."

She also still has not denied it; she told us what she'd like to say that she said back then.

But I am a robot! said...

ima.grandma, I didn't see a link to her interview; she mentioned it when telling how forthright and transparent she was when getting hired.

Anonymous said...

Did her husband kill himself after he realized she was feeling up women (not men) at work?

This woman preys on the weak, and weak-minded.

What does that tell you about the people in academia who have hired her over the years?

General P. Malaise said...

"Shortly thereafter, I received the news that she was making allegations about me to the staff at the hospital. I suddenly found myself fighting a misdemeanor sexual abuse charge for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center.

1) "Shortly thereafter, I received the news " element of time. passive language. here she does not say she "received news", she tells us she "received THE news" the article "the" tells us it is specific and known to her. in other words it wasn't a surprise and the element of time makes sense as she tries to distance herself from what she had done.

2) ".. that she was making allegations about me to the staff at the hospital." "making allegations" this is often used to distance oneself from actually stating the crime they are accused of. no denial from her. she also does not say the allegations were not true.

3) "I suddenly found myself fighting a misdemeanor sexual abuse charge for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center." this is a long sentence and does not follow the rule of economy due to its length and unnecessary words. if she wanted to say she was charged "with sexual misconduct/assault then more than half the sentence would disappear. she does not do that and I will dissect it in pieces.

4) "I suddenly .." this is unnecessary. it is a need to persuade (NTP) that happenstance occurred. from the previous sentence and the article "the" we see that this is familiar territory and the allegations were neither sudden and possible that she had reason to anticipate them coming.

5) "found myself fighting a misdemeanor sexual abuse charge" she is "fighting", is she trying to portray herself as an underdog? she was facing a sexual abuse charge. she is not denying a "sexual abuse charge" she is "fighting one.

6) ".. a misdemeanor sexual abuse charge" "misdemeanor charge" this is an attempt to minimize what she had done, at this point we do not know what the original charge was since she is telling us.

General P. Malaise said...

continued

7) ".. for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center." "for allegedly" again distancing language to omit the actual charge. when someone is charged they are charge with a crime. period. they are only innocent until proven guilty, they are not charge with allegedly doing something.

8) "... having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center." this is also distancing and possibly a lie depending on how she intended it. "touched her once" does she want us to believe it may have been brushing against her and a misunderstanding, because she doesn't say that but it almost sounds like that. I doubt she would be charged under such circumstances as the burden of proof would not be easily met for the prosecutor.

9) "...above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center." "above her clothing". this is an unexpected word "above". what to make of it? was she dominating her?

10) "... having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at the center." here we see a knife cutting both ways. ".. while she was under my treatment at the center." "she was under my treatment" trying to imply she was doing this to help her. maybe unorthodox but she was under "my treatment". this is one edge of the knife, the other edge is "treatment at the center". the victim was a vulnerable person under her care, the need for Codallo to err on the side of good judgement is high.

in this short section we see Codallo misdirect/minimise the charges to allegations, but not deny them. she still shows no empathy towards the victim. she does blame the victim. we see Codallo try to show happenstance which is often an indicator that it is anything but. she continues in her effort to look the victim herself.

mom2many said...

"I suddenly found myself fighting a (misdemeanor sexual abuse charge) for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at (the) center."

She is minimizing rather than denying the allegation.

Mizzmarple said...

"... the people in academia ..."

Mizzmarple said...

Yes - Penn State Univ, Sandusky, and Paterno and Academia knew about Sandusky molesting young boys.
Univ of Michigan - Larry - the USA Olympic Gymnastic Team doctor - the Univ knew AND the USA reps KNEW what Dr Larry was do8ng and they looked the other way


ima.grandma said...

"Seeing how profoundly the facts and my character are being misrepresented and being forced to relive the pain of that time have left me feeling upset, perplexed, and targeted. I do not know who is disseminating this information or how widely it is being shared."

By making anyone who has a valid disagreement look evil due to freely admitting (1) her personal suffering and limitations talked about in her story and (2) all the good  that has come from her boundary indiscretion; she's able to cure the world's "trauma." She shows a lack of remorse for her mistakes and wrongdoings. She is willing to exploit or hurt people to get what she wants. Collado lacks the ability to process shame i.e. has difficulty apologizing when found guilty.
Thought process:
So, if I can get you to believe that you made a rash or unfair judgment of me or my actions, I can easily get you to back off or back down in your confrontation.  I might even get you to question your assessment of me and make you think you’ve unfairly cast me as a villain.
Collado seeks favorable treatment. She believes that she deserve to have every good thing the world has.

Worried for her safety, I invited her into (the) home I shared (with) (my) roommate, (but) after a brief period I realized that I could not provide the support she was looking for while I myself was trying to heal. 
(So), (missing critical information)  I let her know that she could no longer stay "with" "us" and helped her move out."

Collado disengages from her "invited" relationship, using neglect and abandonment to punish her partner.


Collado is good at marketing herself. 

"I actively continued teaching in the areas of trauma and the intersections of trauma, mental health, race, culture, and gender. (And), I devoted a great deal of effort to improving services, support, policies, processes, education, training, and prevention related to sexual misconduct and  gender-based violence during my tenure at both Middlebury College and Rutgers University–Newark."

She’s convinced that the reason for her existence is to make the world complete, thus, sees no reason to reciprocate empathy to others. She lacks common courtesy. 
Over Humanization: this is an easy technique for manipulation when a propagandist tries to mask an issue (Deflection takes focus away from the accusation). 
 

Anonymous said...

She is telling the truth. She adds her age and lack of experience for making the mistake of letting the woman move in with her. She was grieving a loss and may not have wanted to feel responsible should that woman do the same.

She strives to overcome, perseveres, and still empathetic to others.

She practices psychology, or teaches it,and isn't immune to the human condition. With her, it's not 'One Strike and Your Out!'

I'd suspect some student looking to smear her started circulating the old news. It would be embarrassing, but I don't think if she did touch her she was looking for a sexual relationship. The trauma patient most likely sees many things as sexual.

General P. Malaise said...

what happened to her medical licence? did she get one?

General P. Malaise said...

Anonymous said...
She is telling the truth. She adds her age and lack of experience for making the mistake of letting the woman move in with her. She was grieving a loss and may not have wanted to feel responsible should that woman do the same.

She strives to overcome, perseveres, and still empathetic to others.

She practices psychology, or teaches it,and isn't immune to the human condition. With her, it's not 'One Strike and Your Out!'

I'd suspect some student looking to smear her started circulating the old news. It would be embarrassing, but I don't think if she did touch her she was looking for a sexual relationship. The trauma patient most likely sees many things as sexual.


SHE PLEAD NO CONTEST. that is equivalent of guilty. and it was most likely part of a plea deal. very few people are convicted of the original charges and are offered a reduced charge and sentence to avoid court time.

she is deceptive in her statement. she shows no contrition and no empathy for a vulnerable patient.

Hey Jude said...

Just comments - Her husband's suicide didn't seem to hve been a great priority - even in the context of the statement addressing alleged abuse, she took a long time to mention him. I think the reader wouldn't know she had been married before the point at which she said her husband had committed suicide. I am not sure it was his suicide which was the primary cause of her trauma, or if it was more because she was accused of sexual abuse. It may be the context - she's addressing the 'misleading information' which then becomes just 'information', rather than her husband's suicide. When she did mention her husband's suicide, it seemed as an aside, necessary as to why she was not in work. She didn't say she consulted with the roomate before moving in the former patient. Her consideration is very much of herself, and she gave no reliable denial. I wondered if she said, and if she believes, she is doing all that laudable sounding stuff, striving with her fighting spirit for people's full humanity to be respected and understood, as a means of redeeming the past, her disregard for the victim. As eighteen years has past, which she increases to twenty, and she still declines to give credibility to the former patient's claims, despite she pled no contest, I think I would not be convinced by her spiel. Where is her respect for the victim's 'full humanity'? She has reduced her victim to a label, and dismissed her as a mental case - yet she is sermonising about how she has 'always worked to ensure people's full humanity is respected and understood, without reducing them only to their most visible label labels, diagnoses, and social markers.' I bet that quote would be even more scary than it already sounds, if it was unpacked - 'without reducing them only'?

.'And I want to thank you, now, for giving me the time to share this deeply personal and painful part of my life.' - she phrases that as though it were a privilege rather than an embarrassing necessity. So much attempt at emotional manipulation, and sleight of hand by trying to steer the reader or listener away from thoughts of professional misconduct into sympathy for pain in her 'personal life'.

ima.grandma said...

GeneralP said so wisely:
It tells us Collado, is giving us an "important message". it builds on that importance by telling us it is from "President" Collado. it is about her. it is not for the students and faculty or public at large. it is about her and for her.

You are right. I asked earlier who? was her audience. She is talking from herself, for herself, about herself, and to herself.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder!

General P. Malaise said...

Blogger ima.grandma said...
GeneralP said so wisely:

you took it further than I did. kudos.

ima.grandma said...

Spoiler Alert: Don't read if you are trying to keep analysis strictly limited to Peter's post. I tried to keep my investigator's hat in the closet, damn thing wouldn't stay in there. Sordid details...
https://theithacan.org/news/ithaca-college-president-shirley-collado-has-2001-sexual-abuse-conviction/

Anonymous said...

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1207/s15327558ijbm0204_3

Anonymous said...

People who don't quit what they are doing are narcissistic PDs in the minds of many.

This tale reminds me of a time I went to a store and the owner quizzed me about going barhopping with an employee of his. First, I was taken aback as I'd never known him to joke around. Then he laid out the claims. I laughed. I asked him to ask another customer of his if that sounds like something I'd do.

When I left I was confused why he'd ask me such a thing. I came to the conclusion that he may have suspected his employee liked to lie and engage in tales that weren't conducive to business. I suspected his secretary tipped him off.

Trigger said...

She admitted to touching a patient in a sexual manner in the work place, then minimized what she did by adding the information about the clothing.

Her personal feelings, her loss, her grief, her qualifications, and her career are the most important things to her.

She wants us to believe that she cared so much for her patient's safety that she invited her patient to move in her home to deflect the appearance of the unethical expectation of a sexual relationship with her patient.

There is no reliable denial of the sexual abuse allegations.

Deception indicated





But I am a robot! said...

Thanks for the additional links, ima.grandma. The extensive article describes practiced grooming by this perverted woman.

If it isn't straying off the post topic, I'd love to see those two emails analyzed that she claims she did not write.
They read like she set out to recruit a third partner for sex at her boyfriend's request, then decided it had altered their relationship (ya think?), didn't like the results and kicked the victim to the curb.

ima.grandma said...

Ditto Robot. There are also additional quotes from Collado in the article.

But I am a robot! said...

To clarify, I don't care if people are gay, bisexual, into group sex, whatever -- what makes Collado a pervert and predator is the victim's obvious inability to give consent in the relationship, and the victim's well-known history of being sexually abused.

But I am a robot! said...

Her carrying on about figuring out the relationship wasn't healthy or safe for herself, without a single word about how much it could -- and did -- damage the already fragile victim was nauseating.

Anonymous said...

Off Topic: Peter, What do you think of the recent news story regarding the illegal immigrant who broke into a house in NJ & raped a 6 yr old girl? The father is reported to have walked in on the sexual assault at 1:30 am after "he noticed an upstairs light had been turned off". I find this concerning his use of the word "light" and "off".

Anonymous said...

Here is the link re: illegal immigrant child rapist w the fathers comment about light/off.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2017/10/07/illegal-immigrant-breaks-into-nj-home-rapes-6-year-old-girl-police-say.html

happyuk said...

Pretty much all of this left me scratching my head.

"And so, I juggled two very strong and opposing instincts: to defend myself aggressively against a painful, false accusation or to devote my energy to healing from my loss."

Why would these instincts opposing, mutually exclusive? Why can't these goals co-exist?

I would surmise that her background also includes a degree of emotional abuse, which she thinks she has overcome, but clearly hasn't, and which she perversely thinks that gives her an entitlement of those under her. This is evidenced by this statement which I do not think is referring to the sexual assault, but something that happened much earlier on:

"I have been candid about this very trying chapter of my life, and how it has influenced the way I approach my work and my personal path."

The overriding impression I get is that of self-pity, resentment and poverty-consciousness.

"I fought the charge to the best of my ability, but my fighting spirit was limited by so many things. I was in my twenties, had very little money and resources, and was grieving a profound personal loss."

If one is innocent, age, money, fighting spirit, resources, bereavements are of little consequence. Why should these factors matter? These have nothing to do with proving innocence. Resources and loss are mentioned on more than one occasion so these are important to her.

"the accusations in the court documents are simply not true"

A deceitful statement if I ever heard one! The reader has no clue as to what specific documents are be being referred to. "the court documents". This speaks volumes about the person who has yet to take ownership of her previous deeds.

"When I work with students, staff, and faculty dealing with hardships, difficult decisions, big mistakes, losses, or trauma, I have a personal lens that is informed by my own experience and the amazing resilience that I know we all have within us."

A "personal lens" is something I am struggling to get to grips with. Is she here meaning a value system? These "big mistakes" and "trauma" she talks of - are they of those she has previously victimised, the "resilience" perhaps interpreted as unwillingness or fear of her victims to speak out.

happyuk said...

""And so, I juggled two very strong and opposing instincts: to defend myself aggressively against a painful, false accusation or to devote my energy to healing from my loss."

I have some further thoughts on this. I was originally puzzled by why these two things should be in strong opposition. It kind of reveals the inner turmoil she is experiencing. To continue the false, phoney charade in calling out the victim, or pursue the avenue of healing, albeit from her loss and nobody else's. Both involve her, and not the victim. If she is truthful, these instincts would not be opposing. She is doing a great job of talking me out of her case, though still I need to ruminate on this further.

Anonymous said...

So, first of all she's a victim, hello? she was dealing with a significant loss, y'all! And she was very young at that time, it was just once! And the woman had her clothes on! Secondly, she is a really great person! She let the woman move in with her because she was worried about her! And you know what, she is a fighter! She did not let this matter bring her down! She carried on with her work, people, because she wanted to help others, that's why! And you know what? She has got a lot of empathy and a sharp sense of humanity all thanks to her work! Don't forget who she is, people! It's her Job to have empathy for others, how could she possibly be guilty?

Habundia Awareness said...

Her husband killed himself july 2000, then at some point after this (she doesn't say how long it was after he killed himself) she 'took a leave of absence', she then tells us that she invited the patient (victim) into (the) home she shared with a ROOMMATE?????
Did this roommate live in her home while her husband was still a live? Who's that roommate? When did this roommate got to live in that home, if he/she wasn't already living in with her and her husband? Was it the same home she lived in with her husband?
The person she lived with at that time was only a roommate. She doesn't tell us there was some kind of friendship or something, she doesn't give a proper introduction of this person (the roommate)

She can't understand why her husband did this to us? She didn't say 'to me', but says to us (while talking about the accusation she finds herself and her own life the most important thing, not what her patient went through, or still be going through, who she against all protocol took in her home, she shared with her roommate). At first it was 'I invited the client in the home, I share with my roommate.....but when the client had to move back out the roommate and she become 'us' (would this be the same 'us'?)

I have no clue why she had to 'juggle two very strong and opposing instincts', they are two seperate major things who 'easily' can exist together. (not that it would be easy but i mean that i don't see how it wouldn't be possible to do both at the same time)
If she isn't able to handle two seperate major things in her own life, how on earth would she be able to be a good trauma therapist? When she has to deal with multiple clients with many problems in their lives, who she's paid for to help. But she isn't able to handle 2 major things in your own life? Doesn't sound like someone who could be a good therapist for that type of client she dealt with (and still is). Is that why she 'continued teaching'? Or was it because she lost her medical licence and had to 'switch' carrier?

For her this experience is 'a story'
I am sure the victim isn't thinking of this experience as 'a story', even if it 'only happened once' and involved 'touching in a sexual manner above clothes' (minimizing her action). The victim wasn't naked, she wasn't undressed, she didn't go underneath her victims clothes, no it was 'above her clothing'

Anonymous But I am a robot! said...
Quoting Collado's statement:
. I suddenly found myself fighting a (misdemeanor sexual abuse charge) for allegedly having touched her once in a sexual manner above her clothing while she was under my treatment at (the) center.
~~~
Did she not say that she didn't fought?.......that she choose to 'take a leave of absence' to grieve about her personal loss. (the suicide of her husband); the second option she had to choose from. Instead of fighting in court against the allegation, because her attorney had advised her so.

'a sexual manner'......what was the 'sexual manner' the victim was touched? What does that mean to her?
Touching her breast? Touching between her legs? What had happened that was called 'sexual manner'?
Wonder what exactly was stated in the court documents, that is
Did this happen before or after the victim had moved in and back out again?

Anonymous said...

"Personal lens" = victim status, of which she claims many.

ima.grandma said...

happyuk, your thoughtful comment brought me back to this statement: 

"He was my best friend and my rock, and I could not understand why he did this to himself and to "us."

why "us"? Unless she was thinking back in time immediately before the suicide. Perhaps, she followed her patterns of thought and behavior by convincing herself  "she could (just) end (the) matter quickly and move on". In her mind, she thought whatever relationship dysfunction they were experiencing was resolved and "himself" became "us".

Habundia, I was just about to hit paste/publish and as I skimmed the page, I saw your relevant thoughts on the above. I came at it from a little bit of a different angle. I'm anxious to read the refreshed comment section and originating post to examine my perspective. Thanks for your input.

Anonymous said...

The next generation:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4957792/UC-Riverside-student-stole-MAGA-hat-charged.html

ima.grandma said...

Habundia,
"A short time after I began this work, my husband of three years killed himself in "our" home. He was my best friend and my rock, and I could not understand why he did this to himself and to "us."

I should've included the preceding sentence to show context as to my thought process. You make a good point in connecting the relation to the repeated use of "us" in separate time periods and traumatic events. 

Principle: Follow the pronouns.
Principle: Follow the patterns.

But I am a robot! said...

The emails that Collado xenies, as quoted from ima.grandma's link:

I have grown to be very attached to you and don’t want anything to hurt you in any way. The thought of losing you is overwhelming…When I told you that it scared me and that it made me less capable of being close/intimate with you…I realized that you need CLEAR boundaries with me. I realized that I just want to be your friend…I have tremendous love for you. I care about you deeply…I realize that this is a huge loss for you, but I don’t think that we can afford to do anything more. It has become too confusing and too sticky when the boundaries are loose… [Regarding (name redacted)], [h]e wants to be your friend. He has no regrets about being intimate with us or you being intimate with me, but he does not agree with any unclear stuff (i.e. you wanting to still be with me, etc.)… Please don’t hurt (name redacted) with details about “us” or how you feel about me. Just keep the promise of loving me unconditionally. I want to offer that to you. You have not lost me. You have lost an aspect of our relationship. I don’t regret it. It gave me tremendous gifts and insights…I am also going to stress that I am keeping this between us.”


The other email the patient alleged Collado sent her read:

“As for us, I must tell you that not a day goes by that I don’t regret mixing everything up, setting poor boundaries and misleading you/(name redacted)/etc. in any way…Anyway, all this is say that I am not good for you, [patient]…As far as (name redacted) is concerned, we are working on many things including what we gained and lost from being intimate with you, building trust between us, deciding what we can be open about at this point…”

They read like Collado's speaking/writing style, and like the rest of her words and thoughts are all about her.

Schmagoogity said...

OT Update: Aliayah Lunsford/Lena Lunsford

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4289948/amp/Mother-indicted-2011-killing-3-year-old-daughter.html

https://www.washingtonpost.com/amphtml/news/true-crime/wp/2016/11/06/a-mother-killed-her-3-year-old-daughter-then-hid-her-death-for-five-years-authorities-say/


Anonymous said...

If those emails are in fact true, perhaps the suicide of her husband should be looked at.

Her photos shown on other sites show one eye different than the other. That's something I've noticed in a lot of killers photos.

Other than that, it is a liberal arts college and she'd be about as liberal as they could hope to find.

No one cares about sex scandals involving the President of the USA, why should they care about a college president? No one cares about the sex life and drug use of musicians-rock stars and their groupies-why should they care about that of a music college president?

You'd expect to find a lot of that type of behavior in the field of psychology and psychiatry.Really smart people aren't immune from being morally depraved.

In addition, the patient had been diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder...in a nutshell-Sybil.

I'd approach this with dreaded heed considering it is a liberal arts college.

Mizzmarple said...

I searched for info on 1st husband, and the only reference I found was that he committed suicide in July 2000. This was in an article on syrcuse.com

The VanderbiltHustler stated per court documents they received, Collada began sexual relationship with the victim in MAY 2000

Interesting IMO.

The Vanderbilt Hustler article has good info from court documents and the victim.

rob said...

If this had been a male therapist, he'd have been hung out to dry and his career would have been over. Possibly have served time for it.
In the day of #MeToo, everyone has to be looked at the same for mis-behavior. You can't persecute some for making a pass at another, then let some off for engaging in illegal acts. She's playing the victim card, when she knows she was in the wrong.
I'm not a therapist, but I would have known better than move the patient in with me.

Habundia Awareness said...

About the OT article of Aliayah
"According to witnesses, Aliayah collapsed to the ground with an injury to her head."
What about this witness? If a witness saw the girl being hit in the head and was not taken to hospital after or got medical attention, was this witness brought to court too?
When people watch a child (or anyone for that matter) being brutally hit and left 'to die', aren't they as guilty as the one who did the actual hitting, or was this witness being 'excussed' because he/she came forward as a witness? Or was this witness one of her other kids? Then of course the child (witness) is excussed ( i just wondered who that witness was or better said who those witnesses were)

back to topic:
http://vanderbilthustler.com/featured/sexual-misdemeanor-charge-against-board-of-trust-member-surfaces.html

"we are working on many things including what we gained and lost from being intimate with you"
She used the word 'intimate'. Would one be using this word when their contact is only 'theraputic'?
I have had therapy a lot.........never have i used the word 'intimate' to discribe the relationship i had with my therapists

Words from the victim:
The victim claimed she was too emotional to write a formal letter to the court about the impact that these events had on her. However, she expressed her feelings over the phone with the following statement:

“It brings on such immense pain and it is very very intense feelings of confusion. I start hearing her calling her name, I start smelling her, I start remembering her telling me that it would be good for me to sleep with Steve, and I remember being raped, and I have blocked that all out and I’m afraid that it would kill me if I start dealing with it right now. She has hurt me beyond belief and it’s like so bad that I can hardly touch it because it hurts so bad. I have to take it really slow. I know that I feel a lot inside but I’m not really sure what all of those feelings are because I try really hard not to feel them but I know that they are painful as hell. I literally feel that I will fall apart every time i think I’ll deal with it. And it hurts too much. And I’m really angry that she slept with me and that she convinced me to sleep with her boyfriend and I feel that I was raped and that there is nothing I can do with it because I believe it isn’t against the law in D.C.”


“Although she may have flashbacks of prior abuse or may relive traumatic experiences, her therapists have stated that she does not fabricate or hallucinate things that simply did not happen,” the government memorandum said. “In other words, she has not experienced psychotic episodes and has never been diagnosed as psychotic.”

How would a therapist know if things did or did not happen? Does someone has to be diagnozed as 'psychotic' to make up stories of abuse? (lets be clear, iam not saying this client has made up stories of abuse)

Habundia Awareness said...

Collado:
“I can’t speculate why the therapists reported what they did,” she told The Ithacan. “What I can tell you, in a very general way, without disclosing her whole medical profile… this is someone who was treated multiple times — not just by me, by multiple hospitalizations and therapists — had a very serious psychiatric disorders that have lasted years upon years in a pretty serious profile when you look at dissociative disorders, psychotic disorders, things like that.”

So this client has been in therapy for multiple years but had naver gotten a diagnosis?
It's sounds exactly as my experience with therapists.........

They (the people from the center, Itheka and so on) keep telling she (Collado) back then denialed the accusations.............but she did not.
If a person settles a case by plea 'no contest' then there is NO DENIAL.
So i wonder are these people really that ignorant (while claiming to be so smart for the position and education they have had)..........since when is a plea to 'No Contest' a denial of accusations?

I also wonder what was in that 'appology' letter to the victim she had to write ordered by the judge.

They all claim her to be empathic.........i still have to see one statement of her to agree to that......i haven't seen one yet though.

This case is a perfect example of how sexual abuse cases are being wiped under the rug.....the victim was 'only a patient', she doesn't matter (she probably is mixing up past abuse with the current abuse).......it's more important to excuse the abuser for their abuse so everone else can have a good night sleep. It's this kind of responses of people that can make me furious, it's not only the abuser who is minimizing what had happened.......these people do exactly the same.

Anonymous said...

Michigan State University not UM

Peter Hyatt said...

rob said...
If this had been a male therapist, he'd have been hung out to dry and his career would have been over. Possibly have served time for it.
In the day of #MeToo, everyone has to be looked at the same for mis-behavior. You can't persecute some for making a pass at another, then let some off for engaging in illegal acts. She's playing the victim card, when she knows she was in the wrong.
I'm not a therapist, but I would have known better than move the patient in with me.
January 22, 2018 at 8:36 AM

To this assertion, the basic sentencing of sex offenders of children by school teachers, agrees. The males receive much more severe punishments than the females.



Peter

ima.grandma said...

I've held on to this as I didn't see a correlation. Revisiting...

https://tnuqq21kt870t8n1egkbrmbr-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/CI2017-21801-2.pdf

ima.grandma said...

https://theithacan.org/news/ithaca-college-names-shirley-m-collado-as-ninth-president/

Her parents both worked demanding jobs — her father was a full-time taxi driver for 30 years, and her mother worked in a clothing factory — placing her, as the eldest child, in a caretaker role in her family, on top of going to school, working at a pharmacy and being a translator for her parents.

“I was a parentified child,” Collado said.

I'm cheating and including a statement from Peter's most current post.

"She has now made not only a presentation of "Good Guy" for herself, but she has, in deeper analysis, given an indication of Neglect, within her psycho-linguistic profile.  

It is an indication; not conclusion."

But I am a robot! said...

Quoting Callado's alleged e-mail:
Please don’t hurt (name redacted) with details about “us” or how you feel about me. Just keep the promise of loving me unconditionally. I want to offer that to you
~~~

Please don't pester me with your petty feelings and needs. Just keep giving and giving to me, me, me with getting back absolutely zero.
I want to offer that to you.

This woman's narcissism is bone-chilling. Zero empathy, zero self awareness, zero conscience.

But I am a robot! said...

Thanks as always for your additional insight, ima.grandma.

If we're to apply her grossly distorted recollection and self-image to this part of her life, she probably babysat her siblings one hour a week; bought candy at a pharmacy; and one time, may or may not have helped Mom interpret somebody's messy penmanship on a Christmas card.

Mizzmarple said...

My apologies. Thanks for the correction.

Mizzmarple said...

I agree that it reads like the rest of Collado's style.

This is JMO but i believe that when her attorney read the e-mails - which is evidence if the victim's allegations against Collado - her attorney advised her that these emails were clear and convincing evidence that she had relations with the victim who was her patient.

And that is why Colllado's attorney recommended a plea of "nolo contendre" - which reduced the charges to no jail time, etc.

ursula said...

Her priority is to tell us that the allegation comes from an “anonymous source” and that is referring to something that happened a long time ago, “20 years ago” to make the accusation weaker. Rather than make a reliable denial she points, as a priority, to the passage of time. She is fishing for sympathy when she speaks about “a traumatic time of my life”and when she describes her feeling “upset, perplexed, and targeted”. Her husband social introduction is incomplete and she doesn’t say that he was the love of her life but her “best friend” and her “rock”, not a great relation between husband and wife. She has the need to explain why she accepted to plead no contest giving the responsibility to her lawyer: “My lawyer recommended pleading no contest to the misdemeanor charge”. She has a need to ingratiate herself into her audience and she has the need to represent herself as a good person thanks to that experience too, indicators of a manipulative personality. Her statement is a long sermon without a reliable denial, she is unable to deny the allegation, she states that "the accusations in the court documents are simply not true", not that she did touch her, she is unable to say: “I didn’t touch her in a sexual manner while she was under my treatment at the center” that could end the discussion, no "wall of truth".

ima.grandma said...

Re: Collado's alleged emails

Being an astute observer of human behavior, Collado is subtly testing the patient's (victim's) inner strengths, moral values, insecurities, and weaknesses. 
Agenda driven to assess anticipated response in order to find a better way to exploit or intimidate patient into submission; Collado emotionally manipulates with driving message:

I like who you are;
I am just like you;
Your secrets are safe with me;
Please keep mine.

ima.grandma said...

Aidan Quigley, Editor-in-Chief of The Ithacan, talks to WRFI’s Laura Rosbrow-Telem on ‘Your Morning’ about his ethical considerations in breaking the big story of the week.

On Tuesday, he published a piece about sexual abuse charges made against Ithaca College President Shirley Collado. These charges came from a psych patient 17 years ago when Collado was a psychologist in a psychiatric ward. Collado pleaded nolo contendere, or no contest: This means she did not admit guilt but accepted a conviction. Collado denies having any sexual contact with the patient.

Quigley got the scoop from an anonymous source, who also sent material to Vanderbilt, Collado’s alma mater. But the IC administration is defending Collado.

He answers a number of questions, including what have been some of IC students’ reactions to this almost two decades-old legal case, particularly in the #metoo moment.

The audio interview is here and the written transcript is underneath.

https://www.wrfi.org/2018/01/19/aidan-quigley-discusses-reporting-allegations-ic-president-shirley-collado-sexual-abuse-audio/

Anonymous said...

@3:18

Wow he writes shitty poems
They really suck
Did he use a crayon to write them
I am so scared

Anonymous said...

I wonder if the anonymous source was Michael Serino? Good digging on his part.

E said...

Summary: Collado’s statement ‘I have a personal lens’ tells us EVERYTHING about the way she constructs (or reconstructs) reality – why discuss her breach of ethical codes PLUS her sexual relationship with a CURRENT (not former) patient when her ‘personal lens’ places her as a poor, pained victim of her caring, concerned nature.

Collard is a Full blown narcissist on steroids/speed/magic mushies – NON STOP fabrication of reality to constantly put herself in a positive light. The victim? What about the victim? Who?

(ii) Failing to mention how her actions were a serious breach of therapist ethical code. Fabricates reality as the as victim was a CURRENT patient, not a ‘former patient’ (Collado was still employed by Center).

(iii) Collado infers the patient is to blame (she ‘sought me out for help’) but contradicts this by saying ‘I invited her into the home’. She invited a vulnerable patient to live with her and fails to mention how this is a serious ethicial breach.

(iv) She skips over the breach, instead of saying ‘I did a terrible thing’, she instead focuses on her positive personality traits of being ‘worried for her safety’.

Priorities
(i) Her image/reputation - she minimized the crime by continually seeing the matter through her personal ‘I have a personal lens’ – which always puts her as someone wanting to ‘help’ others etc

(ii) Shutting down anonymous source (see her first sentence)

(ii) Self Promotion/She is a victim despite her poor behavior

E said...

Experiences 
Most likely, Collado’s continual focus on her being a ‘victim’ suggests she perceives that she suffered some sort of trauma or abuse as a child or young adult (she says ‘in light’, ‘circulating’, ‘resurfacing’ legal action – a reference to water).

As a true liar/narcissist, she is incapable of portraying herself in a negative light. She could have said ‘I made a terrible error of judgement in breaching my professional ethical code’ – people understand others mistakes when they ‘own’ them. Instead she dresses up this breach as her being ‘worried’ about her ‘former’ patient. If she is on leave as she says, the patient is a current patient.