tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post3783696447271688182..comments2024-03-18T04:20:15.987-04:00Comments on Statement Analysis ®: The Reactions of Billie Dunn 2012-2013Statement Analysis Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13607372649929274491noreply@blogger.comBlogger56125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-90719411733312352442013-05-16T11:31:20.378-04:002013-05-16T11:31:20.378-04:00Before, it was riddled with accuracy problems. Aim...Before, it was riddled with accuracy problems. Aim to make your title more specific and <br />zero in on a more specific topic such as traveling on a budget.<br />So doing real organic spamdexing can be affordable and the results obtained.<br />I screamed as the monstrous presence snaked toward me on the big bass of the day at 3 pounds, 14.<br />If you have your list, you'll want to follow too. 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I had been brainwashed as a kid to believe I was inherently defective; other people deserved to be treated well, but not me. So when a man would start abusing me, I had such a strong shame base, that I did not understand that I didnt deserve it! Did I enjoy it? Did I CHOOSE it? NO!!!!! Abuse in childhood teaches you that you always "fall short" of whatever standards would prove you're "good enough" to not be abused.<br />Rhianna is what? 23? I would have probably run back to Chris Brown myself at her age. It is a deep sense of unworthiness combined with a trauma bond. It took me decades to finally understand, truly, I am a good person, I deserve kindness, I deserve safety, I deserve love, as I am, imperfect and human. Rhianna will get there in her own time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-80477369678107503312013-04-03T13:54:07.292-04:002013-04-03T13:54:07.292-04:00Anon @&;28; Rhi Rhi is NOT a child. Rhi Rhi i...Anon @&;28; Rhi Rhi is NOT a child. Rhi Rhi is NOT at the mercy of Chris Brown. She is free to come and go at will, has her own fame, money and notoriety; Rhi Rhi CHOOSES to be with Chris Brown. Her abuser was prosecuted for abusing her, we all saw it and the photos. What does this bimbo do? Goes right back for more!<br /><br />There's a whole world of difference between what you went through with your father while growing up and what Rhi Rhi does with her life of her OWN volition. You had no choice, she does. Don't you realize that if she WANTED to leave she would? She is not being held in chains, you know! She could leave anytime she wants too. Again, HER choice to bed down with an animal. <br /><br />BTW, why do you continue to go around your father, the man who battered and abused you? OR your mother who apparently lives in la la land? WHY do you subject yourself to this humiliation ad mental abuse, KNOWING this evil man abused you?! How can you even stomach looking at him? Yuck! <br /><br />YES, Anon @ 12:42, Rhi Rhi IS NOT in a "normal" abusive relationship in that she chooses to STAY in it. She went back knowing she was subjecting herself to more abuse. If she WERE in a trap of mental and physical abuse, and was not getting some sort of fulfillment that makes it worth her twisted relationship, she would LEAVE the ba'stard! <br /><br />YES, by staying with this low-life POS she is CHOOSING to allow him to abuse her; and you may be assured, whether she wants to believe it or not, HE WILL. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-69731568781059593122013-04-03T13:32:22.592-04:002013-04-03T13:32:22.592-04:00Anon @ 7:28--I am very disturbed by you claiming t...Anon @ 7:28--I am very disturbed by you claiming that because Rhianna is not in the exact same relationship setup you were in when you left your abuse, that she is not in a "normal" abusive relationship. <br />Your mentality towards Rhianna reinforces the thinking of an abuser.<br />My Dad physically and mentally abused me as a kid. I went to school with black eyes. Well, he claims because I still talk to him (I can't easily talk to or see my mother without talking to/seeing him) that he could not have been that bad to me. He also claims that I made up the abuse--that I "love to rewrite history). My point is, any contact I have with him or my mother is used agsinst me to prove that the abuse wasn't that bad and to belittle any anger or upset I have about being abused, sometimes quite brutally. As someone who did have my face battered as a child, I can tell you it is devasting self-esteem wise that someone would attack you in that way going for your face. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-27744196405233975192013-04-03T12:42:10.644-04:002013-04-03T12:42:10.644-04:00Anon who is saying Rhianna is being abused by CHOI...Anon who is saying Rhianna is being abused by CHOICE. Really? Would YOU choose that? What gives you the right to say Rhianna CHOOSES abuse? What a degrading thing to say about another human being! What gives you the right to diagnose Rhianna with sex addiction (to Chris Brown)? Is that. a diagnosis in the DSM (sex addiction to Chris Brown)? How do you know the sex is even any good? Who are you to claim Rhianna is a masochist who chooses abuse? What are your credentials? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-27068055924018386482013-04-03T09:59:50.756-04:002013-04-03T09:59:50.756-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.John Mc Gowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00430624388902099338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-15007600723380169542013-04-03T07:28:39.354-04:002013-04-03T07:28:39.354-04:00Anon @3:09 a.m., I am so sorry for what you went t...Anon @3:09 a.m., I am so sorry for what you went through with your sick abusive husband. THIS is what I meant when I referred to Rhi Rhi's relationship with Chris Brown as not being one in the normal sense of abuse. Yours was. Rhi Rhi is not married to this man, she has nothing at stake with him other than sex and her choice to be there. There could be no other reason that she stays other than sex. What else is there? She can leave anytime she wants too but chooses to stay. <br /><br />I can totally relate to what you are describing Anon @3:09. I have not been abused in the same way you have but I easily could have been had I not left my husband earlier on. He had every sign of being an abuser, cheating on me, blowing the money and leaving me and the baby with nothing for days at the time, flying into rages, denying his cheating while hanging out in bars and while his women were calling me all the time, in a rant breaking things and cursing at me. I was so scared, I knew it would be me he would be hitting next. I left with my baby (flat broke) as fast as I could. <br /><br />No, this was not a sexual addiction as by the time I could leave I wanted nothing from him except AWAY. I've had a sexual addiction too, and NO, Sus, it was NOT with multiple partners as you stated above, it was with one man. He too was a player who had me in a very weak position, so emotionally involved that it took every ounce of strength I could muster up to get away from him and stay away from him. <br /><br />I DO know the difference Sus; Rhi Rhi stays by choice and will continue too until she (if she ever does) gets so tired of this animals' abuse that she finally decides the sex isn't worth it. In the meantime, she is a very bad influence on younger women following in her footsteps; as is Chris Brown in influencing other men that it's okay to beat on your woman, get control of her; she'll come crawling back for more. This is what Rhi Rhi has done and will continue too until she can't take anymore; of her OWN free will. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-82821315993479271732013-04-03T03:21:19.630-04:002013-04-03T03:21:19.630-04:00Here's a free tip @anon 8:03: Why not stop try...Here's a free tip @anon 8:03: Why not stop trying to control the internet contents, specifically websites & blogs you didn't write. Here's a bonus free tip: why don't *you* learn all there is to know about statement analysis & pick a spot on the web & start your very own blog so you can control its contents. <br /><br />You're welcome. Anytime ; )Marynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-19097667592352087682013-04-03T03:09:18.746-04:002013-04-03T03:09:18.746-04:00As a survivor of spousal abuse, I must respond to ...As a survivor of spousal abuse, I must respond to [Anon10:25]. <br /><br />No one chooses abuse in the "free will" sense. The MO of an abuser is to remove free will, either before or during the ongoing abuse. This is part of the game they play, in which they have full access to control another person and feed their selfishness with the power of making someone stick around for the abuse, without having to force it. To some abusers (the few who feel real remorse after each incident, but who act out of raw anger in the heat of a moment), the circumstances that make up Stockholm Syndrome cause them to justify, thinking, "If it were really THAT bad, she/he wouldn't stay with me." For the majority of abusers, the breaking down of their victim's self-worth is all a part of the recipe of total control.<br /><br />For example, my ex-husband would curse at me, hit my head into walls, throw things at me, rip hair out of my head, choke me, scream at me with his fist over my face...you get the picture. After each and every instance of abuse, I would cry and question why he [insert applicable form of abuse here]. He would look me straight in the eyes and say, "I didn't do that." As in, just minutes after hitting my head into a wall, he would look at me as if I were crazy and deny laying a hand on me at all. At the counselor's office, he would look directly at the counselor and tell her he never did any of those things. Now, I knew he did, and he knew he did. But, after a certain amount of time, I began to doubt in my own mind the veracity of actual abuse I'd recorded in my abuse log. I began to question things I'd recorded within minutes of enduring them. After a certain point, I began to disbelieve the abuse AS IT WAS OCCURRING. Everyone believed him to be such a wonderful, Godly, sincere man; I found myself wondering if I were the one who was out-of-control. I asked our counselor if I was making mountains out of molehills, or even actually causing the abuse. <br /><br />Let me drive this home:<br />This man would pick me up and throw me into the wall. As soon as I could get back to my feet and demand that he not touch me again, he would say, "I didn't to anything to you." I would tell him, "You JUST threw me into the wall!" <br />"No, I didn't." <br />"Look, my whole arm is red from where you just threw me against the wall!" <br />"No, it's not. It looks normal."<br />"Don't you see it? There's a bruise coming up." <br />"No, there's not. I didn't even touch you." (said while looking directly at my red, bruised shoulder)<br />"How can you say that? You're looking at it! You see it! You JUST did that to me!"<br />"I didn't do anything. You don't know what you're talking about."<br /><br />I dare you to tell me that this sort of behavior wouldn't make a woman (or man, or child) absolutely crazy. Abusers are skilled and talented people, usually. They have the whole world believing they are awesomeness in a foolproof case, while leaving their victims not knowing which way is up. They are masters at skewing reality, and while the victim is being abused, she/he often cannot leave of her own volition, whether out of actual fear for her life (or the safety of her children - judges have a habit of awarding regular visitation to abusers because the abuser can easily cause his victim to appear emotionally disturbed and unstable and desperate to just "make him look bad in front of a judge"), or because she's been told every day that she's delusional, and she believes that if she speaks out, others will simply believe him over her, because of his skillful deception.<br /><br />Women (and men, also) cannot break out of abusive relationships because their support in society is so weak...because of people who say, "SHE LIKES IT."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-23309240089717036802013-04-03T00:41:17.689-04:002013-04-03T00:41:17.689-04:00Anon,
First, a person with a sex addiction is not ...Anon,<br />First, a person with a sex addiction is not addicted to sex with a certain person, but is addicted to sex. They will become more and more perverse in their sexual needs, and have many partners. A sex addiction almost always involves pornography. <br /><br />Maybe you know something I don't about Rhianna and can cite it here. But you said she was addicted to sex with Chris Brown...one person.<br /><br />Which brings me to the second point...I can agree with you on Rhianna feeling addicted to her abuser. It's not about sex, though. It's a bond built through abuse and control. <br /><br />Sure, she wants to be with him...just like I want this next cigarette. It's our norm. No contact is strongly recommended for someone in recovery from abuse till they reach a new norm. If I quit smoking, I can never have nicotine. It would immediately put me back in the smoking norm.Susnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-12512131833956193322013-04-03T00:12:53.671-04:002013-04-03T00:12:53.671-04:00Anne, your passive aggressiveness is showing. Tim...Anne, your passive aggressiveness is showing. Time to take a break and step away from the keyboard for awhile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-13635720066831034422013-04-02T23:35:40.859-04:002013-04-02T23:35:40.859-04:00Sus, my mistake. All this time I've given you...Sus, my mistake. All this time I've given you credit for being sharper than you sound like in your above post. <br /><br />You don't think some women CHOOSE their abuse because they LIKE the relationship they are in when it comes to their sexual addiction? They LOVE holding onto their man at any cost all for sex with him. How very naive. <br /><br />No ma'am, Rhi Rhi's relationship with Chris is NOT based on one of a typically abused woman like some of those described above. Hers' is by CHOICE. Rhi Rhi is not trapped, she is not broke, she does not have babies by this animal, she is in no way encumbered to Chris Brown except through SEX. <br /><br />Apparently you don't know how addicting and binding a sexual addiction with a man can become, even to the extent of allowing him to walk all over you, still you come back for more. HER choice. People do what they want to do and they don't do what they don't want to do. <br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-58540553872365929022013-04-02T23:07:10.955-04:002013-04-02T23:07:10.955-04:00"abused woman in the normal sense of the word..."abused woman in the normal sense of the word." <br />There is a normal way to abuse? Some way that makes sense to you? All abuse is senseless.<br /><br />"She CHOSES (sic) her abuse."<br />This is exactly what abusers wish for their victim to believe, and the mind-set which keeps women from leaving. Thank you for helping to perpetuate the cycle of abuse.<br /><br />"Most abused women are trapped in their relationship."<br />Well, what do you think they are trapped by? It is called traumatic bonding. It's a psychological affect.<br /><br />"This is what she wants."<br />Yes, because she feels trapped, or bonded to her abuser...as you just argued.Susnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-36531495952471807312013-04-02T22:58:17.068-04:002013-04-02T22:58:17.068-04:00Amen to anon 9:13Amen to anon 9:13~mjnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-70745659635602637262013-04-02T22:45:34.368-04:002013-04-02T22:45:34.368-04:00((((Anon)))) <---Hugz!
@ 8:55
Please reread wh...((((Anon)))) <---Hugz!<br />@ 8:55<br />Please reread what I said. The club is one of <i>recovery</i> which I do choose to be in.<br /><br />I didn't say there was no blame. I said how does focusing on placing blame help correct the problem? I'm not interested in blame anymore. Blame keeps both the victim and victimizer stuck. Every minute I spend focused on placing blame is a minute I've lost. It's freely giving control to an abuser and letting them rob me of even more of my life. It's time I could spend on taking responsibility for me and changing the mindset that you so rightly and eloquently spelled out earlier.<br /><br />It's very easy to see and know how wrong my abusers were. It's not so easy to override that and take responsibilty for changing the thinking, <i>that was imposed on me in childhood</i>, which later placed me in that same victim position as an adult. Slice it and dice it as much as you need to, I sure have. I've just come to accept that my well-being boils down to changing <i>my</i> habits of thought. Focusing on <i>my</i> healing rather than on the victimizers guilt/blaming. I can do nothing to change another's wrong. I can do everything to free myself from the resentment and anger that keeps me chained to the wrongdoer.~ABChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959300899624763795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-86311378476630201262013-04-02T22:40:04.533-04:002013-04-02T22:40:04.533-04:00@ Nana Frances there is still a $15,000 reward thr...@ Nana Frances there is still a $15,000 reward through the FBI there is no reward through C-City any longer<br /><br />WOJ AdminAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-69745572940534975792013-04-02T22:25:08.912-04:002013-04-02T22:25:08.912-04:00Oh Good Lord. Some of you read so much into Rhi R...Oh Good Lord. Some of you read so much into Rhi Rhi's and Cris Browns' relationship that it borders on the absurd.<br /><br />These fossils don't have sense enough to have as much depth as some of you give them credit for. Don't you get it? This is a sexual relationsip addiction, more so on Rhi Rhi's part than it is on Chris' part. He's a brutal beast, of course, but she LOVES it. <br /><br />HobNob is entirely correct. How dumb can it get. Rhi Rhi LOVES the sex with Chris and he has her towing the line. He cheated on her right in front of her face the night the 'other woman' called that he had also been bedding, he's sitting there in the car with Rhi Rhi talking to this woman over the phone, not giving two hoots how much this upset Rhi Rhi. She began to ask questions and make accusations and that's when he beat her in the face. She thought he was true to her? She IS dumb. <br /><br />Folks, that's what the fight was all about in the first place. Chris beat her to teach her a lesson; that being, he'll sleep with whomever he damn well pleases and she can like it or lump it, just stay out of his face. He most assuredly will do it again. <br /><br />I don't feel sorry for Rhi Rhi for one minute. She CHOSE to go back to him, she is dumber than a rock; there's sex everywhere, but no, she like many other women, WANT to be owned and controlled by their man. They think this is sexy. Oookay, sweetie pie, you'll pay the price in beatings and hot used dirty sex for your stupidness and your sexual addiction with Chris Brown.. <br /><br />She's not an abused woman in the normal sense of the word. She CHOSES her abuse. Most abused women are trapped in their relationship and would dearly love to be able to get out. Not Rhi Rhi. This is what she WANTS. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-59718134063812128132013-04-02T21:13:36.239-04:002013-04-02T21:13:36.239-04:00One thing I will add: We as a society encourage a...One thing I will add: We as a society encourage abuser behavior when we buy Chris Brown's albums. Chris Brown has suffered minimal consequences for his behavior. Soon he will make millions of dollars for his latest album.<br />If Rhianna is dumb, well let me just say we as a society are very dumb, so much dumber than Rhianna, when we as a society bought Eminem's album in massive quantities which then received a grammy only several years back. This album by Eminem had a song on it called "Kim"--this song "Kim" was sung by Eminem and the song was about how Eminem in the song kills his wife "Kim" and also his 2 year old son. He was awarded a grammy for this!!! What message does this send to abusers? What message does this send to women being abused? I say before we are so quick to judge Rhianna, let's look at our society and the fact that it condones, and even rewards, domestic violence. If anyone questions this, just look at the fact that Eminem received a grammy for his album which contains the song "Kim" on it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-31455681224275745092013-04-02T20:55:03.712-04:002013-04-02T20:55:03.712-04:00ABC--
I'm not sure who you think I'm blam...ABC--<br /><br />I'm not sure who you think I'm blaming except Chris Brown.<br /><br />I am not fighting to preserve a victimized mindset. There is nothing to "encourage" as far as victimhood: Rhianna was a victim of Chris Brown. Please refer to photos of her face if there is any question of this. <br />Calling Rhianna dumb is not going to assist her in leaving Chris Brown.<br />I am sorry that you feel that my writing about traumatic bonding is encouraging "victimhood".<br />And, also, I was abused as a child and didn't realize it was a club. It's not club I signed up for, so I am not part of any club.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-79261294641085402892013-04-02T20:02:45.113-04:002013-04-02T20:02:45.113-04:00Me and Her?...
Geez, I hate when people can't...Me and Her?...<br /><br />Geez, I hate when people can't talk good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-56086532174679355762013-04-02T18:53:57.775-04:002013-04-02T18:53:57.775-04:00Anon at 6:39
That's okay. :)
You don't ha...Anon at 6:39<br /><br />That's okay. :)<br />You don't have to see inaccurate thinking and dumb as the same. My dictionary thinks it's pretty simple and clear cut.<br /><br />How does blaming correct the problem? Why do people, maybe unwittingly, fight to preserve a victimized mindset rather than believing people can <br />learn something new that will empower them to change their life? Why encourage it? Why not help people understand they do not have to spend the rest of their lives chained to the evil deeds of another?<br /><br />With love and respect, <br />A recovering victim of the child and domestic abuse club.~ABChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959300899624763795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-41876898756700442812013-04-02T18:39:09.388-04:002013-04-02T18:39:09.388-04:00ABC--
Sorry to be a stickler, but I do not feel th...<br />ABC--<br />Sorry to be a stickler, but I do not feel that "inaccurate thinking" and "dumb" are the same thing. But, disregarding this for the time being, traumatic bonding is a powerful psychological force. It is possible for someone to be traumatically bonded to another and, at the same time, to accurately perceive the person (to understand this person is bad in many ways and also bad for them). Traumatic bonding is basically where a person becomes grateful for the kindness this bad person shows them precisely because they have been treated so badly (by this very person) and are eager for someone <br />to treat them kindly.<br />I think of it as a potent psychological force rather than someone whose thinking is skewed.<br />The massive media coverage of Rhianna's beaten face must have been humiliating and dehumanizing for her to experience. This may have also affected her self-perception quite negatively. Primarily, Chris Brown's brutality was very damaging to her emotionally I would assume.<br />Any and all blame rests squarely, in my mind, on Chris Brown's shoulders.<br />Rhianna, I have compassion for, and it is a shame the cycle of abuse in her life seems to have kept her bonded to Chris Brown, who seems to be an extremely destructive man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-80521360360104367702013-04-02T18:08:26.375-04:002013-04-02T18:08:26.375-04:00Haha what a goof! What I meant previous post was t...Haha what a goof! What I meant previous post was that while I have seen one abuser change the rest I've encountered through the years have not changed (even though some have tried). Thanks:)Red Rydernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-56665974408725822942013-04-02T17:53:35.443-04:002013-04-02T17:53:35.443-04:00Hobs said "Once an abuser, always an abuser.....Hobs said "Once an abuser, always an abuser...the attitude is there"<br />Sadly, yes. It takes a seismic shift, a renovation and restoration of the abuser's being to the core to change. I have seen it happen-once....and seen it not happen more than once. <br />All the money in the world has not helped this woman from getting hooked into a cycle of violence. Love, respect and self-respect are free, this is why while money can buy comfort, ease, and pleasure, it cannot buy true happiness~ that is to say the peace and joy that comes from loving and being loved. JMORed Rydernoreply@blogger.com