tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post9053026341296540183..comments2024-03-18T04:20:15.987-04:00Comments on Statement Analysis ®: Understanding Sexual Abuse: One Man's Story Statement Analysis Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13607372649929274491noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-91353075015135136472013-09-25T16:12:35.179-04:002013-09-25T16:12:35.179-04:00No one could understand how hard it is to suffer f...No one could understand how hard it is to suffer from sexual abuse unless one has experienced it. That is why most victims spend the rest of their lives in silence, in fear that no one might understand them. The case tore his life apart. However, it shouldn't be bottled up for that long. Every victim should learn how to confront it so that they would be able to move on with their lives.<br /><br /><a href="http://zalkin.com/what-we-do/personal-injury-cases/overview/" rel="nofollow">Vesta @Zalkin.com</a> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01082130031462496863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-71635057078969802292013-06-14T10:16:23.439-04:002013-06-14T10:16:23.439-04:00In response to Anne,
Thanks for your post. I used ...In response to Anne,<br />Thanks for your post. I used your idea of having a code and told my son to call anytime he feels uncomfortable. No matter where he is, I will immeiately come get him.shminoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-76041239383785440532013-06-13T01:34:55.355-04:002013-06-13T01:34:55.355-04:00I agree with Skeptical. I do think many young acto...I agree with Skeptical. I do think many young actors were abused by casting directors and producers and older actors.katydidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-61612650341944471492013-06-12T20:48:27.588-04:002013-06-12T20:48:27.588-04:00Since my daughter got abus## my life has been shit...Since my daughter got abus## my life has been shite im a "father"and wish i was dead.id give my life to remove her ordeal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-64722616794874753612013-06-11T19:12:58.085-04:002013-06-11T19:12:58.085-04:00By George Bennett
Palm Beach Post Staff Writer
A w...By George Bennett<br />Palm Beach Post Staff Writer<br />A woman who worked for U.S. Rep. Alcee Hastings, D-Miramar, on an international commission claims in a lawsuit that he subjected her to "unwelcome sexual advances," crude comments and unwanted hugging over a two-year period and retaliated against her when she complained.<br />Hastings denied the "ludicrous allegations" in the lawsuit filed Monday by attorneys from the conservative group Judicial Watch on behalf of plaintiff Winsome Packer.<br />Packer's lawsuit, filed in U.S. District Court in Washington, names Hastings as a defendant along with the U.S. Commission on Security and Cooperation in Europe and the commission's former staff director, Fred Turner.<br />"I have never sexually harassed anyone," Hastings said in a statement. "In fact, I am insulted that these ludicrous allegations are being made against me. When all the facts are known in this case, the prevailing sentiment will be, 'How bizarre!' "Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-56867279184250708742013-06-11T13:13:35.177-04:002013-06-11T13:13:35.177-04:00I meant unlawful Conduct, not content. Sorry. An...I meant unlawful Conduct, not content. Sorry. Anon-JAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-67688486271553713382013-06-10T21:40:43.140-04:002013-06-10T21:40:43.140-04:00APA = American Psychological AssociationAPA = American Psychological AssociationHorrifiednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-74258859595844544682013-06-10T21:38:23.709-04:002013-06-10T21:38:23.709-04:00Our laws are going in the wrong direction! Snippet...Our laws are going in the wrong direction! Snippets from articles. See links to read them in full.<br /><br />http://www.greeleygazette.com/press/?p=11517<br /><br />"Pedophiles want same rights as homosexuals"<br />"Claim unfair to be stigmatized for sexual orientation"<br /><br />"In 1998 The APA issued a report claiming “that the ‘negative potential’ of adult sex with children was ‘overstated’ and that ‘the vast majority of both men and women reported no negative sexual effects from childhood sexual abuse experiences.”<br /><br />"Pedophilia has already been granted protected status by the Federal Government. The Matthew Shephard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act lists “sexual orientation” as a protected class; however, it does not define the term."<br /><br />------------------------<br /><br />"Pedophilia Is A Sexual Orientation Under CA Bill[?]"<br /><br />"California Congresswoman, Rep. Jackie Speier CA (D), wants to federalize a state law to prohibit counseling to change a person’s sexual orientation. That doesn’t sound that extreme, but pedophilia is a sexual orientation according to this bill as well."<br /><br />"Recently, a United States District Court Judge, William Shubb, sided with Pacific Justice Institute (PJI) by granting their plaintiffs a preliminary injunction against the legislation, which is known as California SB 1172."<br /><br />"Republicans attempted to add an amendment specifying that, “pedophilia is not covered as an orientation.” However, the Democrats defeated the amendment. Rep. Alcee Hastings (D-FL) stated that all alternative sexual lifestyles should be protected under the law, and accordingly decided that pedophilia is a sexual orientation that should be equally as embraced as homosexuality."Horrifiednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-45902810227201612942013-06-10T18:52:27.839-04:002013-06-10T18:52:27.839-04:00Peter: OT
This interview with missing child mom se...Peter: OT<br />This interview with missing child mom seems very disturbing. What do you think?<br /><br /><br />Angela Steinfurth - Interview Transcript 6/4<br />Posted: Jun 07, 2013 8:17 PM GST Updated: Jun 07, 2013 8:42 PM GST<br />By WTOL Staff - email<br /> <br />(Toledo News Now) -<br /><br />Toledo News Now: What have you been going through the last three days?<br /><br />Angela Steinfurth, mother of missing girl: A nervous wreck. I just want her home in one piece, I wanna know that she's okay. It's very hard not having her around. My other daughter's going insane without her sister. They need to be together.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Toledo News Now: When you see the outpour of support, does that help at all?<br /><br />Angela: It does, but it still doesn't bring her home. It doesn't bring her home at all. I appreciate the support of everybody being here but it does not bring her back at all.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Toledo News Now: What can you hope that tonight's vigil will do?<br /><br />Angela: Put an end to this so she can come home. I'm hoping someone just gives up and brings her back to me and her father where she needs to be. She has problems, and me and him are the only ones that can handle those problems for her.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Toledo News Now: What is she like? Tell me about her.<br /><br />Angela: She's shy, she's quiet, she's a momma's girl over a thousand percent….She does like men, but she'll see you for a couple minutes if you're a guy, but overall it's ‘mommy mommy mommy.' That's the way she's been since she was born. She's a perfect little angel, I wouldn't ask her to be any other way.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Toledo News Now: I can't even imagine what this has all been like for you, a nightmare?<br /><br />Angela: Yeah, I've been like this for 3 days, shaking. It's hard. It is very hard. I just want her home.<br /><br /> <br /><br />Toledo News Now: Is there anything else you wanna add?<br /><br />Angela: Just whoever has her, to bring her home. She needs to be home with her parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-84473889935249347212013-06-10T17:08:15.591-04:002013-06-10T17:08:15.591-04:00In response to Anon at 2:18,
I think once you are...In response to Anon at 2:18,<br /><br />I think once you are aware and have experienced certain situations you have an awareness/caution/fear and need to prevent sexual abuse from happening to someone else especially your children and others.<br />I overheared a parent snapping at her kid because she changed her mind and didn't want to spend the night at a friends house. <br />It is a bad idea to ever do this to a child. It makes me so mad when people tell children "if something doesn't feel right tell me" then get mad when a child feels uncomfortable or wants to come home.<br />I had a "you will never be in trouble for that rule" I think sometimes kids do feel uncomfortable but don't have the skills/knowledge to know why. I would immediately pick up my kids from anywhere if they called. I also had a phrase, if for any reason they felt they couldn't talk freely, they were to ask me to feed the hamster (we didn't have one) or similar options. I had a deal I would either come and get them or they could say I needed them home. I also gave them permission to say I needed them home anytime.<br />There just isn't anyway to completely protect them, all we can do is try.<br />I found out recently one of my cousins abused his sister, when she was young. There was a day he had access to my children, it scares me where literally it can be a close call. Even though I didn't leave my kids with him, my kids were too close to danger. <br />Sexual abuse can happen in a moment sometimes in view, for example an adult hugging a child from behind, and the mom can't see where the hands are.<br />These perpetrators are conniving, manipulative, grooming, sociopaths. They don't care about the harm they cause to the child or the family for generations. <br />This country needs to start with prioritizing the child, lock the offenders up. <br />Sadly sometimes it is the opposite and the mother who was abused as a child doesn't protect her kids, she brings the abuser into her home. <br />I'm more into the DNT - do not trust, just wait till your kids are older. Don't risk it.Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-34716676334016802212013-06-10T14:22:42.419-04:002013-06-10T14:22:42.419-04:00I was anon 2:18. I meant to add, "the mind m...I was anon 2:18. I meant to add, "the mind may not remember but the body does" is known by some as a traumaversary or physical memory. I'm a firm believer.<br /><br />Peter, you have seen many different situations through your career. I only have my personal experience and what I've learned by others to go by, is there anything else you would suggest I discuss with my kids, especially since we will be living in an apartment. AnonyMousenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-8493348123231088312013-06-10T14:18:20.552-04:002013-06-10T14:18:20.552-04:00Anne, I so relate to your post. I try not to pass...Anne, I so relate to your post. I try not to pass on my fears and issues to my children, but I am cautious too. I don't allow my kids to be in rooms with closed doors unless they are alone. I don't allow them to spend the night with friends, but we have their friends at our house instead. When my daughter has her friends stay the night, they sleep on cots in the living room while I stay awake and keep watch. I only go to bed after they are asleep and make sure I'm the first one awake in the morning.<br /><br />We are getting ready to move into an apartment complex. I have told my daughter she may not go into any other apartment for any reason. I've told her that if an adult claims to need assistance, whether it be a lost pet, alleged injury, etc... they do not need that assistance from a child and they only appropriate thing for her to do is get me. I've told her that she is not going to play outside without me, ever, and to not bother asking. We know people that live there that are "free range" parents and let their kids run all over without supervision. I don't want my daughter to ever have the idea that it is ok. My son is almost 17 and much more cautious by nature but I've also told him he is not allowed to go into apartments for any reason. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-11531574678491331162013-06-10T12:04:09.718-04:002013-06-10T12:04:09.718-04:00I forgot to say that I agree with Peter's arti...I forgot to say that I agree with Peter's article and I am so glad he is speaking out regarding this issue and all the horrible effects sexual abuse has on the victim and all the people surrounding the victim for generations.<br />This topic is so personal and upsetting to me, if there were one thing in the world I could change, I would make our children safe.<br /><br />Just getting people to believe it happens so often and not just in the news is a start.Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-12394028655319395092013-06-10T11:55:50.749-04:002013-06-10T11:55:50.749-04:00It is hard to explain to some people that sexual a...It is hard to explain to some people that sexual abuse can happen in a busy living room filled with other people. A hug with a slip of the hand brushing the breasts. A hug in the hallway with hands grabbing. <br />I was in a position to know confidential information when my children were young. When I see a child sitting at the same table as my child and I know this child is troubled and has acted out it almost makes you freeze in fear.<br />When you hear of the many sexual assaults on the playground what do you do? Some people don't even want to believe it ever even happens! The child on child sexual assaults are happening more often than most people even realize.<br /><br />At my house I kept an open door policy when kids were visiting. <br />I watched carefully over interactions with my children and family as I knew molestation could happen when someone leaves the room long enough to get a glass of water.<br />I hate playgrounds with tunnels and such where there isn't a clear view. (Many bad things happen on playgrounds)<br />I ended up volunteering at the school. (this is another issue, I saw children displaying behavior that needed addressed but wasn't, the teacher asked me "Do you want me to take care of that and spend all day on it or do you want me to try and teach the other 24 kids in here?")<br /><br />I don't know what the answer is, I do know sexual abuse has left it's own mark on me. Personally I feel awareness of what is out there and the understanding of how quick things can happen helps. <br /><br />Children are our future, and I think we as a country do a poor job of protecting them legally. More money and help to the perps (who by the way almost always reoffend) than help or money for the victims.<br /><br />Another issue: Sometimes it is available access vs preference. By this I mean: If adult male were to take young girls fishing all day out in the woods people might notice, not so much when taking a group of boys. I am not saying women don't offend just that it can come down to the perp offending where he/she can. I have had more trouble having people I talk this issue over with believing or even thinking about young boys being abused than the same type of offenses happening with girls.<br /><br /> <br />____________<br />Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-46611102287136881182013-06-10T08:03:00.878-04:002013-06-10T08:03:00.878-04:00"The mind may not remember, but the body does..."The mind may not remember, but the body does"<br /><br />I went to extremes trying to put the memories of my sexual abuse somewhere where I couldn't remember them.<br /><br />It was the only way that I could escape the shame and pain. My body reacted in ways that I couldn't ignore until I sought therapy and recovery.<br /><br />Triggernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-74336440135582253912013-06-10T07:41:20.569-04:002013-06-10T07:41:20.569-04:00"She literally holds herself responsible for ..."She literally holds herself responsible for being sexually abused"<br /><br />She has adults and family members who hold her responsible for being sexually abused also, and point the finger at her, even though she screamed for help, begged her abuser to stop, and was left in a state of shock afer the abuse, but was too small to fight off the abuser.Triggernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-85254298007792644172013-06-10T07:38:11.319-04:002013-06-10T07:38:11.319-04:00Take a look at the child stars of Hollywood. In an...Take a look at the child stars of Hollywood. In an interview several years ago, Corey Feldman indicated that it is populated with pedophiles who say who will be in a movie and who won't depending upon the compliance of the child. He intimated that he, Cory Haim and McCauley Culkin had all paid the price of sexual abuse for their careers. Considering the trajectory their lives have taken, I believe him.Skepticalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-41625716601009363592013-06-10T06:56:53.013-04:002013-06-10T06:56:53.013-04:00I wish I'd put a warning in the above post. I&...I wish I'd put a warning in the above post. I'm sorry. <br />**Possible trigger above**Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-86582411758633634292013-06-10T06:55:27.044-04:002013-06-10T06:55:27.044-04:00I had a friend around 1990 who told me that she ha...I had a friend around 1990 who told me that she had been assaulted by a male caretaker when she was 6 months of age, that her little body was bruised from her ankles to her pelvis. I was so horrified, I'd never heard of such a thing :(<br />I never understood how she remembered it, but I believed her that she did. I don't think her parents ever told her. But, maybe they did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-53324043640676901002013-06-10T06:52:58.381-04:002013-06-10T06:52:58.381-04:00I understand "The mind may not remember, but ...I understand "The mind may not remember, but the body does", but I don't know why I do. Is it another way to say that these are unconscious memories?<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com