Friday, October 17, 2014
Generational Liars and Violence.
In my new book, I give some behind the scenes information regarding some of the popular cases we have covered the past few years on the blog, including those of "Generational Liars", those of whom lessons began early on how to deceive, often mother and daughter tandem sets of deceivers, and what damage they can accomplish together. Think Casey Anthony and Cindy.
We see the genesis of such in Juvenile Liars...children who lie, particularly when their is no cause to lie.
This is the single most frightening element of lying: adult or child, when one lies when there is no need. It is a strong signal of trouble to come.
We see the result of liars in society; they have as a common denominator the need to put himself or herself first, and foremost, above others. To think that they might hold others in a higher esteem, hence, produce humility, is not likely. The language will reveal as much.
Juvenile liars are those of whom the school teachers generally tag as 'hopeless' to some degree. It is anathema to a school teacher to "give up" on any child, but in spite of what teachers say in official meetings, what they say "off record" is something entirely different.
For the teacher, the combative parent will increase the stress and tension upon the teacher, even grade after grade, until 'word' gets out: it is not worth the stress. The child's parents will make certain no correction comes its way and the blaming of the school has no end.
When the child is called "liar" by peers, violence breaks out.
Incredibly, the parent encourages and even praises the violence.
The teacher has pegged this child as an "untouchable" child.
With the notion of "no child left behind", there are, quite unfortunately, children that are left behind, deliberately, and it is not the fault of the teacher, school administrator, or school board. It is the parent.
The parent lies, even when there is no cause; and the child learns the lesson well.
This juvenile form of lying can show itself in the adult parent of a juvenile liar.
Why is the child "untouchable"?
It is because the lying parent has made it so. The school cannot pay the teacher enough money to get screamed at each time the parent meets the teacher, and blamed for the student's cheating at homework, when it is the parent orchestrating it in the first place.
The deceptive parent has bullied, argued, "advocated" and fought for her child's rights, deceptively, on and on and on until...the teacher has had enough. To save herself, the teacher must stop caring and disassociate from the nasty parent.
The underpaid teacher soon learns the price she must pay for trying to teach the Liar's daughter: Mother, large of stature and volume, standing very close, threatening, forever threatening, until the anxiety of the teacher goes through the roof and she feels she can bare little more. When she shares this information with a co worker, she is told, "Everyone knows the mother. She's vicious and she loves to fight. Seriously. She gets charged up and wild eyed when someone threatens her daughter. Stay clear!
Mother likes to fight as much as daughter.
She has a personality disorder that thrives on adrenaline and lives for the fight, feigning to call her "team of lawyers" (whom she has never met nor called) but then openly wonders why her own daughter lies. Remember wild eyed Cindy Anthony with a shovel?
The culture of which she lives isn't like anything I have ever encountered before, whereas once this form of violence was found mostly in males, and soundly condemned at that. Today, one might add to the list of troubles caused by the liar: violence.
If violence satisfies the liar's need to feel that her self esteem is above that of others, then violence it is. For parents who have raised their children according to standards of ladies and gentlemen, it is difficult to explain how a parent might not only support such egregious behavior, but to applaud it.
The thinking is singular: me above the next guy.
The teacher soon learns, (sadly, some learn at a very early age) to give up on a child because the parent will not allow the child to receive knowledge; particularly knowledge that corrects errant behavior.
Since those that live by the sword often perish by it too, tragedy awaits them.
Liars put their own interests first and sometimes when violence follows deception, it is because deception puts the subject above all others, and violence seeks to maintain that status.
Watching two women beat each other on television is barbaric, but when it is cheered by society, even the mothers of the combatents, we cannot expect cultural excrement to be cleaned away anytime soon.
I cannot help but wonder when it is when teachers will finally say "no mas!" to the rise of violence in society today.