Monday, May 18, 2015
Missing or Decased Children and Psychics
If you were in law enforcement and you were desperate to solve a case, would you use a tool that has only a 50% chance of success?
Would you try a technique to get answers that had only a 25% chance of success?
Would you invest time and money into a technique, for example, that had less than 1% chance of success?
If desperate, you might. If you had limited resources, including time and money, you would likely choose the best means available to you that provided the best possibilities for success.
Would you invest your time, money and emotion into something that, over the course being test through many years, gave odds of success that were ZERO?
What are the odds that a person claiming to have "psychic" or "intuitive" ability, that is, to gain knowledge outside the boundaries of human senses, finding a missing person?
Psychics have never solved a missing persons case.
In fact, it is of better odds to play and win the Powerball lottery than it is to have a "psychic" guess where a missing child is. You'd more likely win the Powerball this week, next week and the week after, than to have a 'psychic' guess where the missing person is.
What of the "visions", or the "intuitive communication" or the "remote seeing" that goes on?
When a child goes missing, the parent faces more than any of us are able to articulate fairly. In fact, in interviewing parents of missing children, no one parent seems to be able to fully share their suffering.
I can only use my imagination, as a father and now a grandfather, to what it must be like.
When my little girl was born, I held her as she needed holding.
I fed her when she was hungry.
I changed her when she was messy.
I bathed her when she needed cleaning.
I put a band aid on her knee when she fell, and with hugs and kisses, I made it all better.
When she was afraid of the dark, I held her and taught her to pray and to trust.
When she was learning to write, I helped her spelling, and I helped her math and her reading.
In fact, I met her needs, sometimes hour by hour, minute by minute, so much the less to say, day after day, month after month, year after year.
Had she gone "missing", I would have suffered in ways I do not know if humans can fully express.
I know that having always been able to "fix" anything and everything she faced, I can only imagine what the utter helplessness and frustration must be like.
If I have been frightened many times by her climbing on a ladder at the playground, or running, or skating, or the other 1001 ways in which children frighten us,
what kind of fear would I face if I did not know:
Who has her?
What is she doing?
Who is meeting her needs?
Is she okay?
Does she have her blankie?
Who prays with her at night?
Who knows her most secret fears like I do?
Is she suffering?
Does she think I have betrayed her?
Does she think I am not "dad" anymore, and I can "fix" this?
Does she think I am not looking for her?
In other words, there is no end to my questioning, and there is no one on earth, not her mother, not the police, not the district attorney...not anyone, who can answer a single one of my questions.
I am not simply facing the unknown, which is scary enough:
I am facing my missing child who is facing the unknown.
I am utterly impotent, without strength, ability, understanding, and cannot do what I have always done: fix it.
Psychics claim to answer the questions I have posed above; questions that no human can answer.
I would gladly give my life to have my daughter no longer missing, but home safe. Gladly and without hesitation.
It is here, at the most vulnerable and lowest point in life that "psychics" swoop down and prey upon the lost broken hearted parent.
There are several things you should know about "psychics."
1. There is no such thing as a "psychic."
They do not possess "inside" knowledge. They do not know where your child is. They do not communicate with your child, or with your dead aunt Polly. There is no evidence to even hint that they communicate with anyone outside the scientifically understood means of our senses. There is no skill that they posses that allows them to supersede, or counter the limitation of human sensory understanding. Modern day "gnostics", they make claims that are no different than those who claim that the law of gravity is not enforceable upon them. Let them jump if they will, they will fall to the ground. So it is that the laws of nature are not suspended nor negated because one claims them to be so and that they can obtain information outside of the carefully and marvelously designed human senses.
2. Their language does not proceed from experiential memory.
This means that they are liars.
Liars destroy. Liars tear apart. Liars seek their own benefit above all others, all the time, under all circumstances. Even when they feign to do something that appears to be generous, it is a red herring and an attempt to close the deal with you. "I usually charge quite a lot. Police love my work, but for you, I will volunteer..." This is to show how magnanimous and "above suspicion" they are.
True enough, some investigators may be desperate enough to "bring in a psychic" but should be reminded that the missing child and time are two elements that cannot be excluded from each other: and one has a better statistic going for them on winning the Powerball than from a liar's best guess work. Don't be taken in at the offer of "no charge", or the reference to "police." If you need more, ask, "which officer, which department and which case" and make the call.
When an attorney has the nerve to charge several hundred dollars an hour, and people pay it, it very well may be that he or she is that good.
Statement Analysis will conclude 100% of the time that the psychic is either using passivity ("She is dark, afraid, I see water...water and scared...") or they will use language that will come from a movie, book, song, etc, but not from the missing person.
They are liars.
3. They are narcissists.
They consider themselves "special" and "different" than others and have a desperate need to prove this to others. Like snake oil salesmen, they peddle their lies to anyone who will listen (and pay) but in this case, they have the claim of being "the only one" (until they join Facebook and they see thousands of other "only ones" to join with them), and they will say and do anything to input themselves into a case that just might make the press.
Their personality is set from childhood and it will not change. They have a driving need for their own selves and will fill it at the expense of anyone and everyone.
You may think they are caring, especially if they cry for your child, but ultimately, they are speaking to you to fleece you, emotionally, financially, or simply for the potential for fame, or for another reason;
The desperate need to be relevant.
The narcissist has a need to be seen as special, and great, and marvelous, and unique...and on and on.
There is no "psychic school" where people are "taught" how to access information outside of the human senses.
Even if you have been convinced they are "on my side", recognize that their claim to access information outside of the human senses, itself, is a lie. Whether they are self-deceived or not, makes little difference to the broken-hearted parent who has more vulnerability to suggestion than anyone of us can possible understand.
The language of "psychics", that is, those who claim such "powers" does not proceed from experiential memory.
They are liars who, like all liars, live for their own selves, and will bring harm and heartache to you.
Statement Analysis of the words of psychics show deception or passivity; but do not show what they claim. One might think that with all the thousands who claim to have such amazing ability would, with all the missing person cases and all the guesses that could be made, to have been credited with at least one find.
Yet, they are on "reality" TV shows and they still prey upon the vulnerable loved ones of missing or deceased persons, desperate for any connection.
I do not blame the loved ones. I have never been so utterly vulnerable in my life, and I hope I never am.
The ones who have tagged "healings" to their deception prey upon another group who are vulnerable: chronic pain patients.
Sometimes they supplant trained therapists, as well, claiming to "heal the spirit" of the hurting person. They prey upon the vulnerable.
I do blame the deceptive charlatans who cannot find another means to find self worth other than at the expense of their victims.
On the flip side of things: While seeking to protect vulnerable families from "psychics", I do want to recognize that those who make such wild claims as to be able to obtain information suspending the laws of nature do, themselves, be in a position where professional intervention is needed.
However, it is, first and foremost, a call for them to leave hurting families alone.
A woman once said to me, upon the death of her grown son,
"I never thought I would out-live one of my children. I don't wish it upon anyone."
She, too, needed protection from those who claimed to be able to communicate with her son. Her urge to hear from him was overwhelming.
A young widow who lost her husband faced the same thing. The memory of his words was such a powerful force to her that she felt as if he was "in the room" talking to her.
Soberly, she was able to recognize the power of his love and the memory of him, and not fall prey to "Give me $100 and I will have your husband communicate with you" in her most acutely vulnerable state.
Those who have such personality issues do face a particular issue:
When confronted, they often bite back.
This is similar to the pattern of liars that is used in the interview and interrogation: the challenge.
The liar, or in this case, the psychic, believing himself or herself "immensely special" will become angry when challenged and often strike back in vicious ways, to protect herself from being seen for what she is: one in desperate need to feel important in this life.
The liar has gotten away with it for years; since childhood, thereby, holding the audience (us) in contempt, as not smart enough to catch them.
The 'psychic' is the same way.
The 'psychic' can come unglued when her words are analyzed and found to be deceptive.
If there is anyone in this world who is not up for the task of self protection from such anger, it is the loved ones of missing or deceased loved ones.
Recall how heartbreaking it was for Terry Elvis to process his own personal hell, while still protecting his family from attacks upon Heather?
It was unbearable.
The supporters of Heather's killers, along with anyone with a computer who felt the need to be recognized, opened fire upon this good man, and even his young daughter, to project their own inadequacies upon him, adding suffering to his suffering.
Disagreeing with a narcissistic type is akin to breaking their mirror.
It crushes their 'god', that is, their principle passion in life.
Their entire world comes unglued and they can even become a threat to others. This, too, is similar to the pattern of what a liar can do to a business, family, organization, or society, itself. No one knows how far they will go.
Many thought Lance Armstrong had cleaned himself out in his mea culpa with Oprah. Statement Analysis showed he was still deceptive.
Recently, he was being pulled over and pushed his girlfriend under the wheels of the bus, lying as if she was the driver.
There is no bottom for him.
The psychic is lying about his or her words, visions, dreams, communications, etc. This means the psychic holds you and I "in contempt", that is, she expects us to believe her, and to challenge her is not to challenge her words, but to challenge her reason to live, her very existence and purpose in life.
This is not taken well, and often leads to hostility. Where this hostility exhausts itself is anyone's guess. It can become dangerous, however, including stalking, cyber-stalking, seeking to damage one's reputation, and so on.
Rare is the case where the 'psychic ' says, "we disagree and part as such" without further animosity.
If someone does not like this article, they will openly say so. If someone disagrees with analysis from a specific case, they will say so and often cite where they believe I am off. If someone disagrees with a political view in the article, that, too, comes out. But these are disagreements with ideas and thoughts expressed, and even words employed.
They are not wholesale condemnation of me, or of any person.
For the 'psychic', the rejection is deep, powerful and very personal.
In this article, I am claiming that not only do the statistics of 0 out of everything, prove my point, but that the very analysis of words of psychics show that they are not speaking from experiential memory: that is, they are not telling the truth.
This is to challenge their very existence and purpose for living.
They, too, need help.
How many former cult leaders say, "Gee, I was wrong."?
Instead, they crash and burn, or go off and spend their money elsewhere. To say, "You misled people, you twisted sound religious doctrine, you..." is to attack who they believe they are, as a person. It is not, "You're a good enough fellow, but you were wrong about this or that..." but to waive this person's entire existence into the one thing that humans cannot bear:
being of no consequence.
Therefore, be protective of the vulnerable, but know the element of which you are dealing with, should your loved one fall prey to one of these, online, or in person.
Every town seems to have at least one open for business.
Only one study of the words of a "psychic" ever showed truth, in a training:
He had volunteered his information because he had "dreams" of the murder. At one point, there is a change in language and he is truthful.
It was because he was the killer.
When it is a deceased child, the 'psychic' re-victimizes the loved ones, over and over, by interrupting the grieving process.
For long-term readers, this is not the first time you've read about psychics here, and for seminar attendees, you've been given more detail as well.
The analysis applied to all statements is done in the same manner, using the same principle. When it is applied to the statements made by 'psychics', it is "deception indicated" and sometimes even the genesis of the wording becomes evident, including movie quotes or lines, or popular books. It is form of deception, but one in which the intended target is most open to harm.