tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post6878637955871538518..comments2024-03-18T04:20:15.987-04:00Comments on Statement Analysis ®: The Verifier Liar Statement Analysis Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13607372649929274491noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-81877885043932885992014-04-14T18:13:21.057-04:002014-04-14T18:13:21.057-04:00Anonymous @ 8:39, I can't imagine how you feel...Anonymous @ 8:39, I can't imagine how you feel/deal with the conflicting emotion (mom-trust/intruder-fear). It's probably what she counts on. My impression is that she is jealous of you/your life. If you were single and footloose and fancy free I'd suggest you move away. :0) I hope it all works out for you. Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150573665283919209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-15456782893984632662014-04-14T18:12:47.168-04:002014-04-14T18:12:47.168-04:00Anonymous @ 8:39, I can't imagine how you feel...Anonymous @ 8:39, I can't imagine how you feel/deal with the conflicting emotion (mom-trust/intruder-fear). It's probably what she counts on. My impression is that she is jealous of you/your life. If you were single and footloose and fancy free I'd suggest you move away. :0) I hope it all works out for you. Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150573665283919209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-67635854608826770782014-04-13T17:27:19.327-04:002014-04-13T17:27:19.327-04:00"I'm not sure that it is terribly rewardi..."I'm not sure that it is terribly rewarding in a career to be hiding behind a bush and pulling people over for going 10 mph over the limit, endangering no one." - PH<br />__________<br /><br />Peter, did you get a speeding ticket recently? :)Lemonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15905461861488930140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-52289853183857819782014-04-13T13:01:58.719-04:002014-04-13T13:01:58.719-04:00swearing on people's lives, or graves, or a de...swearing on people's lives, or graves, or a deity is meant to imply they are being truthful, in fact it does the opposite and weakens their statement.Tania Cadoganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06511272355142175684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-53952574471864035972014-04-13T00:29:00.431-04:002014-04-13T00:29:00.431-04:00Thank you, I appreciate your response. :)Thank you, I appreciate your response. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-1829388123756107092014-04-12T23:15:54.107-04:002014-04-12T23:15:54.107-04:00OT I have a question. Why do some people swear on ...OT I have a question. Why do some people swear on people's lives or graves? I know a few people who do that, including my mother. :[ Every time I hear it I get creeped out. I don't understand why people go there. I guess it's supposed to prove someone's seriousness but I get a different vibe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-50461171484928255542014-04-12T20:39:30.014-04:002014-04-12T20:39:30.014-04:00Nic,
I really appreciate your advice. In the pas...Nic,<br /><br />I really appreciate your advice. In the past week I've changed the locks and given my son a key. I need to change code on the garage. I no longer pay any bills by paper. It is funny you mentioned installing a camera because one time I told her I had left my iphone camera running (probably cant do that but just wanted to see if it would get her to admit that episode of tampering) and said I had her on camera doing the tampering in the house. She turned white as a ghost and then quickly said "well, it must have been a different day (that she was in the house tampering?!). The problem is is that I get so worried about one thing and anticipating what she'll do next that I get frozen (instead of taking action to set boundaries, change locks etc). She is highly intelligent in a cold, calculating way and can always come up with something in her diabolical imagination to get around boundaries, so I mentally freeze unsure of what to do, but have recently begun setting boundaries by changing locks etc (fearing she somehow had a copy of the key). My father has told me he will not tell her to stop because it would not do any good because her behaviors show she is too crazy to change. I am just scratching the surface of her behaviors and I do very much appreciate your advice. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-8102941916687044112014-04-12T16:39:02.194-04:002014-04-12T16:39:02.194-04:00Just noticing the last part of what you wrote. Co...Just noticing the last part of what you wrote. Confused, are you saying that "adhering to guidelines and principles" is a lie or verifying a lie? I used it as an example of what I thought is intended in a situation like for example a math teacher telling her students to follow rules, use specific equations. She is telling them to follow guidelines or principles. There is nothing that could be interpreted as a lie within that.Amandanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-18946184611937220492014-04-12T16:31:29.373-04:002014-04-12T16:31:29.373-04:00Oh OK I get what you mean. I think I remember som...Oh OK I get what you mean. I think I remember someone saying that on the ither topic. Some of what they were saying I wasn't sure where it was coming from but I remember one thing they pointed out they had written a statement analysis rule with an example also. Amandanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-38966482002491151232014-04-12T14:07:36.139-04:002014-04-12T14:07:36.139-04:00Making a guess, then saying it is based on specifi...Making a guess, then saying it is based on specifically laid out rules of statement analysis or stating an opinion, then saying you used SA principals is verifying a lie. <br /><br />And "adhering to principles and guidelines" is another.<br />Susnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-76773559617746195872014-04-12T13:26:04.295-04:002014-04-12T13:26:04.295-04:00Sus,
Wouldn't your examples be more like tel...Sus, <br /><br />Wouldn't your examples be more like telling someone to follow the rules of something?<br />Like if a math teacher said "please use specific mathematical formulas to solve these problems". <br />I'm not sure this would be verifying the math problems.<br />In medical school, a student might be told to use specifically laid out guidelines for diagnosis of a patient's symptoms rather than guessing.<br />I'm not sure this would be "verification" in the sense Peter intended rather adhering to principles or guidelines. <br />Amandanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-65040249529420772402014-04-12T11:46:43.822-04:002014-04-12T11:46:43.822-04:00;-);-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02680510856590830567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-7981248785732467712014-04-12T10:55:32.626-04:002014-04-12T10:55:32.626-04:00"...specifically laid out rules of statement ..."...specifically laid out rules of statement analysis"<br /><br />"...use specific SA principles"<br /><br />Two examples of verifying. Yep, I said it. Susnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-18839504642118669522014-04-12T10:33:30.376-04:002014-04-12T10:33:30.376-04:00Something that I've learned about "innocu...Something that I've learned about "innocuous" liars is 1) there is no such thing as "innocuous"/white lie lying, and 2) you can't confide in them about anything personal/grievances you harbor about common acquaintances because they will go running to that person to tell them what you told "innocuous" liar about them. Or they will gossip about you/what you confided in them to people you would never share with. <br /><br />Shamelessly I used this revelation to my advantage by sending out a 'save the date' announcement for a milestone event, via bcc, which inadvertently slammed the door shut on two problematic "friendships" without having to confront them. I wanted to see if innocuous/nosy liar would canvass who got the invite/didn't because she couldn't "see" who it went out to. I haven't heard a peep from the trouble makers since. I was giving innocuous liar the benefit of the doubt, but sadly she proved my hypothesis correct. <br /><br />Note to self: There isn't much you can count on in life, but you can count on a liar. Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150573665283919209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-29945092918660878892014-04-12T10:29:28.606-04:002014-04-12T10:29:28.606-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150573665283919209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-1853443443235782392014-04-12T08:40:11.689-04:002014-04-12T08:40:11.689-04:00I have known two people who would frequently accus...I have known two people who would frequently accused me of lying. One I figured it was because I knew so many of her secrets that if I chose to spill the beans/share what I knew about her, she believed she had ruined my credibility and no one would believe me. The other one, I couldn't figure out. She just kept injecting herself into conversations to ask for "proof" or even "reply all" to inject herself into something I would share with "all". (Or challenge me that I included someone on the mail list that I shouldn't have because of whatever reason she deemed (fill in the blank) (can you say bcc?)) She would be especially gleeful if she could "verify" via snopes.com that what I was sharing was a "lie". <br /><br />Neither are in my life today. In fact, all the girls I went to school with/befriended around my early 20's are not in my life because they are liars. <br /><br />Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150573665283919209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-5077015321730555512014-04-12T08:23:10.066-04:002014-04-12T08:23:10.066-04:00Anonymous @ 11:41PM, lock your house and give your...Anonymous @ 11:41PM, lock your house and give your son a key. Additionally, set up a camera, inconspicuously, in your house to tape when you're not there. You can buy inexpensive ones at Source, etc. You can even buy security cameras that you can check via on-line when you want to. <br /><br />Set up all your acc'ts on-line and have your statements sent to you electronically. Not paying your bills affects your credit rating and what seems like a minor inconvenience right now, will come back to bite you in the behind when it's the most important to you.<br /><br />Sabotaging your home (comet on soap) when you're not there is really disturbing behavior. Leaving your son vulnerable is a whole other level.<br /><br />You know what your mom is capable of doing. You need to make it so she can't. Period. Not leave things alone to see what she will do next.<br /><br />"Mom" or not, you need to establish boundaries and state consequences. If she fights back, (verifiable lying) just say that she has nothing to worry about, then, and that you'll look forward to "seeing"/catching the culprit on video; and that once the evidence is in hand, turing it over to the police for their action. And if it is her, she is persona non grata.<br /><br />Wow.<br />Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150573665283919209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-59395427280567748892014-04-12T08:04:36.594-04:002014-04-12T08:04:36.594-04:00If one is in the presence of a person who always t...If one is in the presence of a person who always think you are lying, you will find yourself trying to justify your language with verification. <br /><br />I should have noted this. <br /><br />It comes out when cops pull someone over. Cops often think everyone is lying and the nerves fly and the subject thinks he must prove everything. <br /><br />I'm not sure that it is terribly rewarding in a career to be hiding behind a bush and pulling people over for going 10 mph over the limit, endangering no one. <br /><br />ugh.<br /><br />PeterStatement Analysis Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13607372649929274491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-7167581502438951792014-04-12T08:02:17.483-04:002014-04-12T08:02:17.483-04:00Anonymous said...
Peter every example you used you...Anonymous said...<br />Peter every example you used you said"she/her"lol do women "lie"more than men? ;)<br />April 11, 2014 at 8:40 PM <br /><br />I was wondering if anyone would ask if this was due to recent experience.<br /><br />:)<br /><br />Statement Analysis Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13607372649929274491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-43773920321975077842014-04-11T23:41:28.879-04:002014-04-11T23:41:28.879-04:00Here's a good example: my mother. Sociopath ...Here's a good example: my mother. Sociopath and liar. Recently she became angry my father had spoken to me on the phone about some extremely disturbing abuse she did to me when I was a child. (They are still together). Over the next couple weeks she came into my house on several occassions which I don't typically lock during the day (regardless she knows the garage code) tampered with things inside, on one occassion locked all the doors placing my son in jeopardy of being locked out (she had found out my garage was not opening from the outside because it was broken so I was leaving the front door unlocked for my son after school so he could get in, she stole my mail including bills out of my mailbox (months later she placed bills from several months in a row that I had ended up paying online all together on one day back into my mailbox, she, poured comet on my soap in my shower, etc. On 2 occassions I called her and confronted her (usually I attempt to ignore) and as soon as I would accuse her, she would immediately state that she had a time stamped ticket from a parking garage proving she could not have come to my house during the hours I was away from my house on the two days I confronted her. Her work is 15 miles away from any parking garage and does not go anywhere requiring parking in a parking garage but miraculously would have visited one each time after she came in my house. <br />Yeah, I would definitely say don't believe someone who "verifies" their lies!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-38345408992087782962014-04-11T22:15:25.974-04:002014-04-11T22:15:25.974-04:00He used "his or her" in one example, and...He used "his or her" in one example, and he used "him" in the homework example. I think he was trying to change it up, without having to constantly say "him or her", she or he" etc. Or maybe he was thinking of specific situations from memory, which caused him to use gender specific examples.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-32595760527407319302014-04-11T20:42:48.506-04:002014-04-11T20:42:48.506-04:00P.s I "lied"a bit ;)P.s I "lied"a bit ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-69504348678265112092014-04-11T20:40:46.796-04:002014-04-11T20:40:46.796-04:00Peter every example you used you said"she/her...Peter every example you used you said"she/her"lol do women "lie"more than men? ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-8498534507474941722014-04-11T20:03:30.805-04:002014-04-11T20:03:30.805-04:00What do you think of a person who always thinks so...What do you think of a person who always thinks someone else is lying? I found myself trying to "verify" everything I say to that person. I usually don't do it anymore, because I don't care if they believe me or not, but it's annoying and tiring too. I wonder why this person always thinks everyone is lying, and why they need explanation and "verification" of everything said. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7164794708270892518.post-419624383346588082014-04-11T19:44:44.298-04:002014-04-11T19:44:44.298-04:00does this also count when somebody says
"be...does this also count when somebody says<br /><br /> "believe me when I say..."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com