Monday, April 20, 2015

Fifty Shades of Trouble on College Campuses

In observation, I am finding that more reports of sexual violence are being investigated by detectives, around our county, that include elements of specific "agreed upon violence" by college kids, in which one of them claims is criminal after suffering an injury.

                  This makes the work of the detectives even much more difficult.

In assisting detectives in analysis and interview preparation, I have seen a marked increase in reports that seem to echo or imitate the Hollywood movie and book, "Fifty Shades of Grey" in which the main character uses sado-maschicism to bring pain to a woman, which that, itself, brings sexual arousal  or pleasure to him.


How many of our young minds were influenced by this book and subsequent movie?

Can we expect to hear defense attorneys begin to embrace the "50 Shades" defense, claiming that their client was only copying the movie?

I read enough of the book online to know that it was not a work of literature of any value, but a cheesy appeal to teens and early twenties, and wondered how many young women would now, in emulating Hollywood, allow themselves to be struck.

I loathe to think of the males who seek to bring their girlfriends to see the movie, in order to de-sensitize them and inflict pain upon them for their own "pleasure."

It is an assault on human dignity, and specifically portrays women in a way that not only couples violence with sexual pleasure, but seeks to do so while making it appear as 'attractive' to young minds as possible.

As a nation, we celebrate mental and psychological damage as we see, for example, a man who, at age 65, has decided he is a female and will pay doctors to make him into such.  He then announced that when he becomes a female, he is going to date females.

No one seems to take notice of how this might impact the grandchildren.

"Hey, is grandpa now grammie?"

Does it even matter how this might impact the children and grandchildren?  Does someone really live 65 years and then insists that medical science seek to change him?

Politicians have, of course, stepped in and are making this America's latest "civil rights" movement.  But, it is helping anyone?

Fifty Shades sold and made millions.

Did it add to society?  Did it reflect society?  Does it contribute to an increase in sexual assaults?

What of the sexual identity confusion and the growing alphabet?  Are we helping children?

Few dare to take issue with the doctors who are getting wealthy from these surgeries.  Fewer will challenge politicians who are making this a "civil rights" issue, of extremely expensive surgery.

Hollywood, via TV and media, is glamorizing without question, anything and everything that sells, regardless of the impact on lives.  The same goes with our politicians.  If they can, even for a moment in time, appear to have the "moral high ground", they will take it, no matter the cost, and anyone who does not agree is "obviously immoral", "un-evolved" or even "hateful."

Such labels are the bane of the weak, but they are effective.  People remember bumper stickers and slogans more than truth.

"Lizzie Borden took an ax" or "Columbus, the world, she's a flat!  You'll fall of it!"  

Both falsehoods became 'hollywoodized' into acceptance.  Its the pre bumper sticker bumper sticker mentality.

Inflicting pain and injury upon a woman (yes, bruising and swelling are injuries) for the "sexual pleasure" (yes, in quotes), has suddenly become popular and it is an assault against a woman's dignity, by those, first, in Hollywood who know how to move the young and impressionable, and then later to the males who inflict pain upon them.  There's plenty of guilt to go around, including we parents who may have allowed the trash to enter our homes and lives.

Herein lies the challenge for detectives:

The couple engages in S/M sexuality, agreeing to be "rough" with each other.

The female is injured.

She files a criminal complaint with police.

What will the statements reveal, if both agreed to physically hitting and inflicting  pain upon each other?

What can a detective do?

Is this what we want for our daughters?

It is here where our politicians prey upon our young and vulnerable; the college campus, where protests of any sort can gain media attention.

The book sold and the movie has sold.

Money has been made.

Now it is for the vilified professionals of law enforcement to clean up the mess.

Hollywood and political correctness may say one thing, but the detectives who investigate and the social services professionals who seek to help people, deal with something quite different.




15 comments:

tania cadogan said...

It is a badly written book with a nonsensical plot line.
The 'woman' acts more like a prepubescent child than a college graduate.
it is all gosh and golly and she is apparently totally unfamiliar with the internet and social media.
Do you know of any normal 21 year old who doesn't have a computer/laptop/tablet or even cell phone?

I have refused to read the book or see the film since i feel it is promoting paedophilia (substitute and prepubescent girl for the 21 yr old and it makes more sense)

I have discussed this with my bro and his wife since she was all cool book etc (he hated the film and she was disappointed)

I asked her if this was joe bloggs down the street working in a warehouse would his behavior be acceptable?

Is domestic abuse acceptable when it is a multimillionaire or billionaire?

I know some who live the lifestyle and some who dip their toes in (online relationship) through my work as an admin.
At best it makes me smirk ( occasionally laugh out loud) when the slaves do their thing, plus i get to see who is a master and who is a wannabe (usually they change names and even gender to keep their fantasy going which if funny when they out themselves)

It fascinates me as it is human behavior. It is also interesting that the sub is actually the one with the power and control.
They are the ones who draw the line as to what is and isn't acceptabl eand when it must end etc.

It is concerning that women buy into the idea of BDSM, they have no clue , neither do the men.
There are often no rules or safe words and it always ends in tears and often a criminal record

Foolsfeedonfolly said...

I had the opportunity to discuss this very topic today with a young lady. A well-respected close friend and teacher that I know put it simply... Lust uses other people for selfish gain. Love is does what is best for the other person to help them become all that they can be. It's pathetic, frightening, and destructive that men and women can't seem to distinguish between the two. Is no one teaching discernment anymore?

john said...

OT:

Auschwitz guard trial: Oskar Groening admits 'moral guilt'

A 93-year-old former Nazi SS guard, known as the "Bookkeeper of Auschwitz", has admitted he is "morally" guilty.

Oskar Groening spoke at the beginning of his trial for being an accessory to the murder of at least 300,000 Jews at the concentration camp.
He described his role of counting money confiscated from new arrivals and said he witnessed mass killings, but denied any direct role in the genocide.

If found guilty he could face three to 15 years in prison.
Addressing the judges, Mr Groening also said: "I ask for forgiveness. I share morally in the guilt but whether I am guilty under criminal law, you will have to decide.''

This is expected to be one of the final trials for Nazi war crimes.

At the scene: Jenny Hill, BBC News, at the court in Lueneburg
Oskar Groening looked frail as he entered the courtroom leaning on a walking frame. But his voice was strong and steady as he spoke for nearly an hour.

Four survivors from the notorious death camp faced him across the room. Much of his testimony described his attempts to achieve his ambition of being an SS "executive", to work as a bookkeeper for the Nazis.

But there were haunting moments too; for a little while we saw the horrors of Auschwitz through his eyes.
The survivors watched him impassively but their younger relatives shook their heads in disbelief as he recounted his arrival at the camp as a young SS guard. He'd been plied with vodka by officers there, he said.

He even described the vodka bottles. As they drank the officers told him that the camp was for deported Jews. That those Jewish prisoners would be killed and disposed of.

Later, he pulled out a water bottle: "I'll drink from it like I drank from those vodka bottles in Auschwitz."

'I saw the gas chambers'
The nonagenarian only came to the attention of prosecutors following a decision to speak out against Holocaust deniers.

"I saw the gas chambers. I saw the crematoria," he told the BBC in the 2005 documentary Auschwitz: the Nazis and the "Final Solution".

"I was on the ramp when the selections [for the gas chambers]
took place."

Mr Groening, who began work at Auschwitz aged 21, has always maintained that his role as a guard was not a crime.

"If you can describe that as guilt, then I am guilty, but not voluntarily. Legally speaking, I am innocent," he told Der Spiegel in 2005.

Mr Groening served at Auschwitz between May and June 1944, when some 425,000 Jews from Hungary were brought there and at least 300,000 almost immediately gassed to death.
Charges brought against him in the 1980s were dropped because of a lack of evidence of his personal involvement.

However, following a recent ruling, prosecutors believe a conviction may be possible simply because he worked at the camp.

"What I hope to hear is that aiding in the killing machinery is going to be considered as a crime," Auschwitz survivor Hedy Bohm told Reuters news agency. "So then no one in the future can do what he did and claim innocence."

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-32392594

john said...

Updates:

La Plata County Sheriff’s Office looking at ‘new activity’ in death of Dylan Redwine

MONUMENT, Colo. — The La Plata County Sheriff’s Office said it’s investigating new activity related to the death of Dylan Redwine.

The 13-year-old boy was visiting his father in the southwest Colorado town of Vallecito when he disappeared. His remains were discovered nearby on Middle Mountain nearly two years ago.

No suspects or persons of interest have been named and the La Plata County Sheriff’s Office refers to it as a murder investigation. The sheriff’s office said it would not discuss anything related to the case.

“There are new pieces of information that we know and unfortunately because this is an ongoing investigation I can’t really speak to what they are,” Dylan’s mother, Elaine Redwine, said.

Although Dylan’s case has grown cold over the past year, Elaine Redwine recently taped a new, updated episode for the “Dr. Phil Show” that will be shown nationally.

A few months before Dylan’s remains were discovered, Elaine Redwine appeared on the talk show. She and Dylan’s father, Mark Redwine, lashed out at each other over their son’s disappearance.

Elaine blamed Mark and Mark blamed Elaine. Dr. Phil wanted to make it easy on them, so he offered both parents a lie detector test. Elaine passed her test and 20 minutes into his, Mark Redwine said he didn’t feel he could complete it because of a lack of sleep and having consumed a half bottle of Jim Beam the night before.

The latest episode is said to be more revealing.

“There’s a plea from Dr. Phil to Mark to take the polygraph again. Dr. Phil was going to send [his lie detector test] out to wherever Mark was to take it. And Mark declined,” Elaine Redwine said.

Mark Redwine doesn’t appear on the latest episode in person. He did call into the show.

Mark Redwine declined to discuss the show, saying, “I could say something, but it probably would be inappropriate.”

The new episode is expected to air in May.

http://kdvr.com/2015/04/19/new-developments-in-death-of-dylan-redwine/

Mother of Ayla Reynolds plans to speak at hearing on funding cold case squad

https://bangordailynews.com/2015/04/20/news/state/mother-of-ayla-reynolds-plans-to-speak-at-hearing-on-funding-cold-case-squad/

tania cadogan said...

Thanks John.
Mark redwine's behavior has all the hallmarks of a guilty person trying to avoid incriminating himself.
It is all too predictable.

he will fight any att6empt to polygraph him, in his case interview by a statement anlyst would reveal more.

His button is Elaine, introducing her name into the interview, given his intense hatred of her and a need to control and hurt her, could result in him opening up, even if by accident such is his need to get back at her.
Killing Dylan was in part to get back at Elaine and cause her intense pain, if he is asked the right questions his mouth will open and he will gloat and give himself away before his brain has time to say shut up fool.

She is his weak spot, his need to gloat and hold power over her is stronger than his need to not incriminate himself.

GeekRad said...

Thanks John. Maybe this news will prompt others to renew interest in cold cases.

Child Advocate said...

My daughter decided to live on campus next semester. I sat her down and explained everything going on at colleges, from drunkenness, rape, to murder. I insisted that she take a self defense class and not to take a drink from anyone or leave her drink unattended. She's a smart girl, I hope I got through to her.

GetThem said...

"Desensitizing" nailed the description of this book/movie perfectly.

Do I think defense attorneys will use it as a defense? Of course. Defense attorneys will use any excuse to defend their clients.

Just like we see other movies playing a role in crimes like school shootings, copy cat murders and more. Prosecutors should be prepared for this defense and should be able to easily prove it not a legit defense. It is absolutely provable to show the difference between right and wrong in a 50 Shades Defense. I say this because there will still be coverups, lies, past history, the ability to know and "understand the difference between right and wrong" and so much more. A 50 Shades Defense should be as easy to dispute for prosecutors as it is to dispute an "insanity" defense.

JMHO though.

Anonymous said...

I don't know about the book, but as one who served on a jury of a tape trial, I was shocked at the prevalence of "she asked for it" mentality among jurors.

Anonymous said...

http://www.spcitytimes.com/stevens-point-attorney-faces-29-felonies-for-abusing-wife/
Peter, if you read about this- this individual was convicted. Luckily the "50 Shades" defense didn't fly. There are many articles that follow the trial and conviction. This individual rec'd a larger sentence then I see in a lot of cases. I'd be interested for Peter to analyze the victim impact statement, I empathize with this family but found the impact statement wordy. Also, the individual convicted wrote a letter of apology to his family, I believe only part was shared in the media but I'd like to hear what anyone thinks who is working on statement analysis.

Anonymous said...

Victim impact statement
http://www.postcrescent.com/story/news/local/2014/07/23/dudas-victims-describe-life-changing-impact-crimes/13064899/

Lemon said...

OT
The followed is described as an apology.
Is this an apology? :)
Lemon

(snipped from link at bottom)

BEN AFFLECK'S FACEBOOK APOLOGY
After an exhaustive search of my ancestry for "Finding Your Roots," it was discovered that one of my distant relatives was an owner of slaves.

I didn't want any television show about my family to include a guy who owned slaves. I was embarrassed. The very thought left a bad taste in my mouth.

Skip decided what went into the show. I lobbied him the same way I lobby directors about what takes of mine I think they should use. This is the collaborative creative process. Skip agreed with me on the slave owner but made other choices I disagreed with. In the end, it's his show and I knew that going in. I'm proud to be his friend and proud to have participated.

It's important to remember that this isn't a news program. Finding Your Roots is a show where you voluntarily provide a great deal of information about your family, making you quite vulnerable. The assumption is that they will never be dishonest but they will respect your willingness to participate and not look to include things you think would embarrass your family.

I regret my initial thoughts that the issue of slavery not be included in the story. We deserve neither credit nor blame for our ancestors and the degree of interest in this story suggests that we are, as a nation, still grappling with the terrible legacy of slavery. It is an examination well worth continuing. I am glad that my story, however indirectly, will contribute to that discussion. While I don't like that the guy is an ancestor, I am happy that aspect of our country's history is being talked about.

Ben Affleck

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3049825/I-embarrassed-Ben-Affleck-apologizes-demanding-salve-owning-relative-cut-PBS-ancestors.html

Peter Hyatt said...

50 Shades of Affleck?

trustmeigetit said...

Two comments here.

First, when the movie came out, my cousin was beyond excited. Being that I had no interest in any of it, I flat out asked her why. She actually enjoys that. Even has a flogger (I didn't even know what it was) and said she has a safe word if it gets to be too much. Really shocked me and creeped me. She said she is such a control freak in real life that to give up control and be tied up for example is exciting to her.

What I find interesting is that I know she was raped by teenager when she was 9. Her sister is a horrible human being and locked her in the room with the man.

Now to me, I immediately thought of the prior assault she suffered. While I didn't say that to her, I didn't buy her explanation but rather saw it as a result of the damage the brain does to a person when they have been sexually abused.

So just some input knowing someone that says she enjoys this. She was sexually assaulted as achild.




Then I wanted to also comment on above talking about Hilter. I visited Dachau concentration camp when I was in Germany in 1991. Many things about the camp disturbed me outside just the horror that we all know occurred. So wanted to share.

First of all, it was surrounded by homes. Like it was a park. 2 story homes with windows that look into the grounds. Homes right next to it.

2nd, the area that back then was where the Nazis slept has become a museums you will. And there are pictures of dead bodies beautifully framed. Pictures of people being tortured...And more disturbing, photos with Hitler standing next to these half naked bodies that were mere skeletons smiling and arms around each other like a group of friends on spring break. Smiling Hilter, yes! Horrifying. It shocked me.

The next disturbing thing, the location of the showers that did just look like showers was the pretty yellow paint with rows of beautiful flowers. If it looked anything like that back in the day, I would not have feared that area. It looked nice.

Then last but not least, in the crowds were small children (I would never bring a child there) and people smiling and talking photos and laughter. I did not smile or laugh. The moment I stepped foot thru the fences I feel misery. Nothing more. I was quiet. There was this feeling that consumed me. The hall of torture (a long hall of rooms with different ways to torture people which was forbidden and had metal bars covering any possible entrance) stopped me in my tracks at the entrance and just this feeling of horror overcame me and I felt unable to move to a while. Just stood imagining the horror of those forced to enter this hall must have felt.

My whole group felt the same. That there was no room here to smile or laugh. That the photos of Hitler smiling next to dying people was sick and wrong. And more than anything, as it got later in the day, we only wanted to leave and get far away from that place. To then think of the homes surrounding it that look at this daily made me sick.

trustmeigetit said...

So on the Dylan Redwine case. I'm not sure moms new information means much if it has not pushed them to name a suspect.

I do however agree that it was all dad. I mean after being forced to spend time with him, he goes missing in that 1st 24 hours?

I also think he dumped Dylan's body that first night.

I will always be hopeful, but like so many others I think LE missed the mark and we may never get justice for these kids.