I know that "I have no idea" is not usually truthful, as people do usually have some sort of ideas.
I think people say it when they don't know for sure what happened, even though yes they do have ideas.
I don't know why people say it in such a context. I know I've said "I have no idea, maybe ____".
I think it's maybe a habit, or an expression, really meaning I don't know.
I do understand in reality it's not a truthful statement, at the same time, I don't think it's (usually) used with the intention of being deceptive. I do understand why it's flagged, because it is not truthful, I don't think I'd actually hold that statement against someone though.
I do have a problem understanding the need for donations if they suspected she was dead. Reminds me of the Anthonys trolling for funds when they knew Caylee was dead.
There was a missing person local to me, Nick Steward. His family new he was suffering from depression, but never told anyone in the public. They accepted money through an online donation account. They continued to tell people he would never walk away from his wife and child. After his death his wife said that the money allowed her to pay for his funeral and for her and her son to "start their new life together." I don't donate to missing persons cases because I only donate when I know what the money is being used for. I have no problems if the money is used in search efforts, but I don't feel comfortable paying for someone's funeral who is depressed or for them to start their lives over. Or paying for a family because they quit their job. If I knew my money went to the search efforts, then sure.
I have many people suffering mental illness/depression in my family and when they die, we pay for this. I feel that when someone goes missing there needs to be a better way of the money being managed because I think the ones who do it poorly, screw it up for those who have good intentions.
Why are those the only two options? There are still some clues that beggar the imagination. Perhaps they aren't worth pursuing now that she's been found, the why's and deliberately withheld explanations. Yet supposedly he came on here to defend himself without giving extra information for clarity, just instead to insult and make strange comments about drones, paying for a PI when they already had one..maybe verging in psychosis from lack of sleep and stress. Maybe he was staying up all night searching the internet and found those, and with the lack of any incoming info lashed out. I want to believe him but I just don't. The PI went to Mexico? Beyond a 10 mile radius, and saying ine area had been adequateky searched. The longer she stayed missing the greater the $$ donated. Why else hide that info, the depression? Suicidal ideation adds urgency, LE would not have given up. Why wasn't her family involved? Did she visit them? I wonder how solid their marriage was. What is this about the cat and mouse murder overtones? I am on the fence about foul play, on the fence about suicide. Adjusting to life not overseas, that seems odd but not implausible. In the absence of her family I wonder if she was overly dependent on her husband as was feeling despondent about not having that codependent intensity. Ic you're emotionally needy and feel that closeness abd maybe deoendency, going without it and the pressure of moving on without it would be a stressor, especially if tgey fought. In any case, Im so sad for her, that whatever the adjustment truly was would be so crushing. When I say foul play, abd thats not the best term, I mean abandonment threats, real or perceived, not murder. Maybe they withheld the suicide information to avoid personal questions about the actions or words that were said and/or neglectful (oblivious) actions they feel guilty about. Guilt over suicide has to be the most devastating thing a person can go through. I guess Im coming off the fence now. Everyone takes people for granted in stressful times or transitions. I think withholding is from guilt, not of malice but of how could I have not noticed or why did I say that variety.
5 comments:
A general SA question/comment:
I know that "I have no idea" is not usually truthful, as people do usually have some sort of ideas.
I think people say it when they don't know for sure what happened, even though yes they do have ideas.
I don't know why people say it in such a context. I know I've said "I have no idea, maybe ____".
I think it's maybe a habit, or an expression, really meaning I don't know.
I do understand in reality it's not a truthful statement, at the same time, I don't think it's (usually) used with the intention of being deceptive. I do understand why it's flagged, because it is not truthful, I don't think I'd actually hold that statement against someone though.
I do have a problem understanding the need for donations if they suspected she was dead.
Reminds me of the Anthonys trolling for funds when they knew Caylee was dead.
There was a missing person local to me, Nick Steward. His family new he was suffering from depression, but never told anyone in the public. They accepted money through an online donation account. They continued to tell people he would never walk away from his wife and child. After his death his wife said that the money allowed her to pay for his funeral and for her and her son to "start their new life together." I don't donate to missing persons cases because I only donate when I know what the money is being used for. I have no problems if the money is used in search efforts, but I don't feel comfortable paying for someone's funeral who is depressed or for them to start their lives over. Or paying for a family because they quit their job. If I knew my money went to the search efforts, then sure.
I have many people suffering mental illness/depression in my family and when they die, we pay for this. I feel that when someone goes missing there needs to be a better way of the money being managed because I think the ones who do it poorly, screw it up for those who have good intentions.
Why are those the only two options? There are still some clues that beggar the imagination. Perhaps they aren't worth pursuing now that she's been found, the why's and deliberately withheld explanations. Yet supposedly he came on here to defend himself without giving extra information for clarity, just instead to insult and make strange comments about drones, paying for a PI when they already had one..maybe verging in psychosis from lack of sleep and stress. Maybe he was staying up all night searching the internet and found those, and with the lack of any incoming info lashed out. I want to believe him but I just don't. The PI went to Mexico? Beyond a 10 mile radius, and saying ine area had been adequateky searched. The longer she stayed missing the greater the $$ donated.
Why else hide that info, the depression? Suicidal ideation adds urgency, LE would not have given up.
Why wasn't her family involved? Did she visit them?
I wonder how solid their marriage was. What is this about the cat and mouse murder overtones? I am on the fence about foul play, on the fence about suicide. Adjusting to life not overseas, that seems odd but not implausible. In the absence of her family I wonder if she was overly dependent on her husband as was feeling despondent about not having that codependent intensity. Ic you're emotionally needy and feel that closeness abd maybe deoendency, going without it and the pressure of moving on without it would be a stressor, especially if tgey fought. In any case, Im so sad for her, that whatever the adjustment truly was would be so crushing. When I say foul play, abd thats not the best term, I mean abandonment threats, real or perceived, not murder.
Maybe they withheld the suicide information to avoid personal questions about the actions or words that were said and/or neglectful (oblivious) actions they feel guilty about.
Guilt over suicide has to be the most devastating thing a person can go through. I guess Im coming off the fence now. Everyone takes people for granted in stressful times or transitions. I think withholding is from guilt, not of malice but of how could I have not noticed or why did I say that variety.
I stared at the wording for the reward and drew a blank. Plus, Where did the reward money come from?
Post a Comment