Monday, December 31, 2012

Did Jaimee Chamberlain Participate in the Death of Carnel?

Did Anthony Bennett Act Alone?

Carnel Chamberlain was beaten to death.  His body was burned to hide the evidence of the beatings. 

Anthony Bennett is under arrest for the murder. 
One of the monsters that haunted Carnel's life. 

Questions for analysis: 

1.   Did Jaimee Chamberlain also beat him to death?

2.   Did she know that Carnel was dead before his remains were found?  

3.  Did the beatings she participated in contribute to his death?

4.  What was Carnel's condition when Jaimee left for work?

Four year old Carnel Chamberlain was reported missing last June.  On June 28th, 2012, it was announced that his remains were found under the house porch.  Jaimee Chamberlain's boyfriend, Anthony Bennet,  was charged in the murder.  
This was an appearance of Carnel's mother on The Nancy Grace Show, June 26th, 2012.  There were reports of prior physical abuse of Carnel.  

Date reported missing - June 21, 2012 evening - 10:12 I believe LE  were phoned - she home for approx 40 mins prior to calling LE

This appearance on Nancy Grace, via phone, June 27, 2012, aired on June 29th, the day after his remains were found.  This show was not live, so they used a break-in to report that his remains were found beneath the porch, burned.  

Date of his death is said to be 6/21 the day of his reported missing - 

Date of his discovery was officially said by press on 6/28/2012; likely early morning.  

NG show aired on 6/29 - as it was pre-recorded. The show was finalized without confirmation Carnel was found, - his status: MISSING - her Show lead line. 

*** NG producers edited in for the 6/29 air, that he had been found, using over talk. NG does not say it, she does not, it is though edited added in - he found under the porch.

Jaimee not involved within the commentary of Carnel found,  as the show was not Live. It was pre-taped at an earlier date

Jaimee has recently been arrested on drug charges,  but Statement Analysis showed that she participated in the physical abuse of Carnel.  

What does analysis of this appearance show?  The Statement Analysis is in bold type, with emphasis added.  

Did Jaime Chamberlain know that Carnel was dead before his 

remains were found?


GRACE: Jaimee, tell me what -- when did you last see Carnel?

Here, Grace goes right for the issue.  The question is "when" which should be answered with a day and time.  

CHAMBERLAIN: I left work about 3:45  right up the street from where I live at.

Please note that she did not answer the question.  Instead, it was the leaving from work that is on her mind.  

There are two areas in which Statement Analysis highlights as the most sensitive:

1. The reason "why" something happens when the question is "what happened"?
2.  The leaving of a place. 

They are highlighted in the color blue. 

"Left" (leaving of a place) is 70% likely due to rushing, traffic, time, etc. It is 30% likely to contain highly sensitive missing information. 

when Jaimee last saw Carnel is a very sensitive question.  It is not the topic that is sensitive, it is the question, itself, that it sensitive. 

Jaimee Chamberlain did not answer the question.  

GRACE: OK, and you work as a waitress, right?

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, at Isabellas, at the casino.

GRACE: OK. So you`re working as a waitress. You last see him at 3:45, and at that time, Jaimee, what was he doing?

Nancy Grace is now feeding her information instead of calling her out on her avoidance of the sensitive question.  

CHAMBERLAIN: When I left last time, he was laying in my back bedroom watching me get ready for work while he was watching cartoons. That`s the last time I seen him was when he was watching "Adventure Time"! That was the last time I seen him, when I left for work, he was in my bedroom, and everything was fine! And then I left. And then that`s why -- you know, I called him, and then that`s when I found out about everything going on.

Note the "left" is now repeated, making it highly sensitive.  

My conclusion is this:  She is withholding information about the last time she saw him. 

Next note that Carnel's body posture is noted, marking an increase in tension for the subject (Jaimee)

Note the location is also given:  "back bedroom"

"Watching" is repeated.  He was "watching me" as he was "watching cartoons" Anything repeated is sensitive.  

I cannot help but wonder if he was "watching" anything.  
Note that she adds on a small, seemingly insignificant detail:  "Adventure Time"

First, he was watching "cartoons" but now "cartoons" is changed to specific, "Adventure Time";

when language changes, it represents one of two things:

1.  Either there is a change in reality or;
2.  The subject is not working from memory

This extra detail reminds me of Casey Anthony's overabundance of details about Zanny the Nanny's hair and teeth:  Casey was not working from memory, but was being deceptive. 

Notice that the phrase "the last time" is repeated, in this one answer, three times, making "the last time" very sensitive.  Notice that it all comes in a "cluster of blues", our highest level of sensitivity.  She then uses the connecting verb, "left" also three times in one answer.  This is 'off the charts' sensitivity:  

Jaimee Chamberlain is deceptively withholding information about Carnel in this time period when she left for work.  The condition that Carnel was in, was not one that she wants to share with Nancy Grace

The last time Jaime Chamberlain saw Carnel, everything was not "fine."

GRACE: So he`s at home with your boyfriend. And you`ve known the boyfriend for about a year, getting close to a year now. Had there ever been any disputes or problems between your boyfriend, Anthony Bennett, and your little boy, Carnel?

CHAMBERLAIN: The only thing that we recently started doing was, like, Anthony started, like, spanking him and started disciplining him. And we started putting him in the -- like, we`d been putting him a chair in the corner to discipline him. That`s the only thing that recently has been going on between him and Anthony that I know Carnel is upset about.

The pronouns do not lie:  the "we" exists between the boyfriend and mother; not between Carnel and his mother.  The pronoun, "we" indicates cooperation and unity.  The change from "we" to "Anthony" to "we" shows that she participated in whatever it was that Carnel suffered from.  It was not spanking.  

GRACE: Well, OK, let me ask you this, Jaimee. What would set Anthony, the boyfriend, off? Why would he feel he had to discipline 4-year-old Carnel? What would Carnel do to make him feel he needed to be spanked?

CHAMBERLAIN: I don`t even know because even at times, I`d tell him -- I asked him, why is he disciplining him. And like, he`d tell him to go sit in the time-out chair just because he`d be crying for a reason that he doesn`t want -- like, if he doesn`t want to do something, he`d just start crying, and Anthony would just put him in the chair to, you know, put him time out because if he`s crying for no reason.

Note that not knowing is sensitive:  "I don't even know"

Note also the change of self censoring:  "I'd tell him" is changed to "I asked him"

GRACE: OK, what about spanking him? Why would he spank Carnel?

CHAMBERLAIN: That much I don`t know. I know when I noticed the bruises on his butt, like, he tried demonstrating it for me, and like, I seen him, like, put a lot of force into it. And I asked him, I was, like, Why are you spanking him that hard? I told him  you just need to tap (ph) him  I don`t know -- you know, a powerful spank, like it was to a point where I noticed there was bruises on his butt.

She denies knowing why he was spanked, even though she would "tell him" and "ask him" and the pronoun "we" tells us of their cooperation in "disciplining" Carnel; which did not leave red marks, but bruises.  Note that she did not see bruises on his butt, she only "noticed" them;  and the use of this softer language is repeated, used twice, making it sensitive to her. 

"Tried" in the past tense, means attempted and failed.  How does this it into her explanation? 

She participated in the beatings that left the 4 year old bruised.

GRACE: OK, Jaimee, Jaimee, your boyfriend was spanking the 4-year-old so hard, it left bruises on his behind?

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, it did.

GRACE: What, if anything, did you do about that?

Note the additional words, "if anything" revealing Nancy Grace's anger.  She likely sensed that within Jamiee's words are admission of being unified with the boyfriend in beating the child. 

CHAMBERLAIN: Well, I didn`t think of -- I really -- at first, I didn`t think of anything of it, you know, until, like, you know, after all this happened. But I just thought, you know, maybe he spanked him hard to where, like, you know, Carnel learn it.

But I know how my son is, and I know you just have to talk to him about it. You know, I tried telling Anthony that, You don`t need to speak him. Like, Carnel is able -- you`re able to talk to him and he understands right from wrong.

The question is:  "What did you do about it?"  
She begins with what she did not "think", which is repeated.  Then, she put her approval on it where "Carnel learn it"

Note the word "tried" in the past tense means failed.  

GRACE: Well, I have a concern if he would spank the boy hard enough to bruise his little booty, that`s pretty forceful, to get bruises on your rear end.

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes. Yes, I recently just -- I recently noticed this about - - it was about a week ago when I noticed the bruises on his butt.

Noticing the bruising is passive language which seeks to soften, minimize and, perhaps, conceal the responsibility for bruising Carnel.  

GRACE: OK. So that`s been in the last week?


GRACE: When you asked him about it, what did he say Carnel had done to deserve a spanking?

CHAMBERLAIN: He hasn`t -- he hasn`t really explained to me why. He just said that, like -- I know one of the times is because he didn`t clean his room. And he said, I keep going in there and asking him, and he`s not doing what I`m saying. So I know he spanked him because one of the times just because he wouldn`t clean his room.

He explained.  She is deceptive with hasn't "really" explained why.  They beat him because he did not clean his room. Follow her pronouns:  

GRACE: (INAUDIBLE) your 4-year-old would clean his room?

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes. Yes. We were training him to be a grown man. And we were -- you know, he`d clean his room. We trained him to put his toys  like, in the  We, you know, got him to where he was getting his trash in the trash can. We were pretty much making -- trying to make him do chores and stuff at 4.

The word "we" has entered her vocabulary after the bruising and beating of Carnel.  This indicates that she likely participated and/or approved of the beatings in order to make him into a "grown man"; 

Interesting choice of words.  

They were not making him into a "man" but into a "grown man"; which may tell us more about Anthony Bennett being, physically and chronologically a "man" but certainly not one who has "grown" in anyway.  

GRACE: Let me ask you about Carnel.


GRACE: How long has the boyfriend been living in the home? And did that bother your son, your 4-year-old son, when he moved in?

FOLLOW THE PRONOUNS.  PRONOUNS ARE INSTINCTIVE.  PRONOUNS DO NOT LIE.  It is likely that Nancy Grace is hearing the pronouns intuitively, but without training, is missing key points of how these two acted in concert.  

CHAMBERLAIN: Well, he moved in -- we started -- we dated about seven months now, and we moved in with each other around -- about the end of February or March. And this is the only man that my son has called Stepdad. He`s the only man that -- since his father has not been around, this is the only guy that Carnel felt comfortable enough to call him Stepdad.

It not not that "he moved in" but "we", repeated, until finally she said, "we moved in with each other" showing a very strong bond between them.  They were bonded, unified and together before, during and after the beating of Carnel. 

This likely explains why his body was burnt.  

GRACE: Well, did he ever complain about Anthony spanking him or being mean to him?

CHAMBERLAIN:  he had complained to me about him being mean to him and stuff. And I just told him, I was, like -- you know, I was, like, You should just listen to what Anthony`s trying to say to you. Because I thought it was just him being -- you know, Carnel being, like, you know, a little boy trying to say, No, I don`t want to clean my room, you know? But I didn`t think of nothing like that until now.

When it came down to choosing sides, the pronouns above did not lie:  Here she admits taking the side of the monster over her 4 year old son.  

Here is another indication of deception:  she claims to quote herself saying "you should just listen to what Anthony's trying to say to you" rather than "Step Dad" used above. 

GRACE: ... clean up it`s whole room -- OK, I want to get back to Jaimee. With me is Carnel`s mom, joining me exclusively tonight. Jaimee, what is Anthony Bennett saying now?

CHAMBERLAIN: He still ain`t working with none of the police officers. He still has no contact with none of my family.

She avoided the question.  She did not say that Anthony was not speaking to her; only to her family. 

GRACE: With me right now in a primetime exclusive, his mom joining me, Jaimee Chamberlain. She`s out working, supporting the family, comes home, the little boy is gone -- by all accounts, a peaceful, a sweet little boy, never gave anybody a day`s trouble. He`s gone, seemingly vanishing into thin air.

Jaimee Chamberlain, when you walked in the door that evening from work at Isabel`s  restaurant, what was Anthony Bennett, your boyfriend, doing? When you walked in the door, where was he?

CHAMBERLAIN: He was walking to me. As soon as I opened the door, he was, like, walking out to me.

The "walking" is repeated; as is "to me"

The door opening is often found in the language of those who have been sexually abused in childhood, or those who may be abusing a child.  It would be vital to learn if Jaimee Chamberlain was sexually abused as a child.  This would explain her callousness to his plight, and her joining in with Bennett on the beating; as seen in the use of the pronoun, "we" afterwards. 

GRACE: And what did he say?

CHAMBERLAIN: He pretty much told me that he`s gone. And like, I just didn`t believe him. And that`s all I could think about is, like, I need to look everywhere first. I need to look -- I mean, I turned my house upside down looking for him.

And then there`s the next-door neighbors, where there`s a bunch of kids next door, and like, usually, when we`re outside, they`re, like, Come on, Carnel, come next door. And that was the second place I went to go look. And once they said they didn`t see my son, that`s when I knew I had to call the cops because I don`t know where he could have been!

1.  "Pretty much" tells us that he told her other things, too.  "He's gone" may indicate that he was still breathing (not watching TV) when she left for work.  
2.  She didn't believe him until she looked everywhere "first"
3.  Please keep in mind who's house it is, at this particular time.  Here, it is "my house."  Let us see if she continues to take ownership of the house:  

GRACE: When you asked the live-in, Where is Carnel, what was his explanation as to the last time he saw him?

CHAMBERLAIN: He said he came up missing. That`s all he told me what happened. His story just doesn`t make sense, and he just came up missing.

GRACE: Well, what do you mean came up missing? Did he leave the boy outside while he was inside?

CHAMBERLAIN: He said that he was cleaning -- he said he was the house while Carnel was playing outside. And then he was telling everybody that he left the front door open, the sliding glass door open and a couple windows open. And it`s, like, Well, how come -- couldn`t you just hear him just take off, if that`s what happened? He said he didn`t hear nothing, said he didn`t see nothing.

GRACE: OK. Was the house clean when you came in? Did it look like he had really cleaned the house?

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, it was, until I -- later on that night, I noticed that there was something up in my bathroom.

GRACE: What?

CHAMBERLAIN: That my bathroom floor was wet, and that`s all I noticed that was messed up was in my bathroom.

GRACE: The bathroom floor was wet?

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes. And it was wet to the point where my carpet even got wet. And he said that he drew me a bath before I got home, and he said -- he said -- I don`t know what he was doing. And then he said he just wasn`t paying attention and the bath water overflowed. And that`s why (INAUDIBLE) you`re not paying attention to my son! You`re not paying attention to this water that you`re supposed to be drawing me a bath for, then what are you doing? It just doesn`t make sense.

GRACE: Has he taken a lie detector?

CHAMBERLAIN: No, he hasn`t. And then the next day, his dad helped him get a lawyer.

GRACE: With me tonight is his mother, who was at work that night, comes home, the baby is gone. To Jaimee Chamberlain, Carnel`s mom. Did your boyfriend, Anthony Bennett, have a job?

CHAMBERLAIN: No, he didn`t.


CHAMBERLAIN: Because he has two felonies on his record and nobody around us could help him out.

GRACE: What kind of felonies?

CHAMBERLAIN: I want to say felonious assault and (INAUDIBLE)

GRACE: Ms. Chamberlain, were you concerned about leaving your child with him? 

CHAMBERLAIN: He said he loved me. And the only reason why I started trusting Anthony is because my brother introduced us and, you know, I was thinking because, you know, I`m my brother`s little sister that he wouldn`t send me somebody like that. I trusted him with everything, with my son. 

GRACE: Out to Ellie Jostad, our chief editorial producer. Ellie, what else do we know. 

ELLIE JOSTAD, NANCY GRACE PRODUCER: Well Nancy, one of the problems here is establishing a timeline. Police are telling us that one of the key components, the reason why the police are saying the boyfriend isn`t cooperating, is the fact that he won`t answer really simple questions like what time was it that you last saw Carnel playing outside. They say he won`t answer that. And we have a big window of time here from 3:45, when mom leaves for work and 9:30 when she gets home. 

There were some neighbors saying they think they saw him playing in the yard that afternoon, but some other workers working -- construction workers working on a neighbor`s house saying they saw him Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, but they didn`t see him at all on Thursday, the day that he went missing. 

GRACE: Out to the line. Teresa in Oklahoma. Hi Teresa, what is your question? 

TERESA, CALLER, OKLAHOMA: He didn`t pay any attention about the boy, he didn`t bother to go look for him before she got off from work or anything? 

GRACE: Let`s find out. What do we know? I want to go to Frank Cloutier here, spokesman joining us tonight, speaking for the family. Frank, did he at least say he had looked for the boy? 

FRANK CLOUTIER, SPOKESMAN, CHAMBERLAIN FAMILY: No. At no time did he say he looked for the child. 

GRACE: OK. Frank, what is his story? When Jamie gets home, he just says the boy went missing, he doesn`t know when he last saw him, nothing? 

CLOUTIER: That`s basically where we are at. 

GRACE: Jamie, what can you tell us again about the bathroom?

CHAMBERLAIN: Because when I went in there and I first noticed it because I didn`t notice it until all the police were out looking and told me he`s there. And I was hoping that they would give me some information or in case he came home. And I was, you know, as soon as everybody was out looking for him, the first instance in my head was well, maybe I should go look in the house to see what was out of the ordinary. 

Note that the question was "what can you tell me?" which is answered with the sensitive need to explain "why", twice, making this highly sensitive.  Note that she tells us what she did not notice (in the negative)

Note again the "first instance" indicating other thoughts were involved.  

And then, that`s when I walked in the bathroom and my feet started sinking in like it was wet and I noticed that the floor in my bathroom was wet and I have little candles that sit beside my bathtub and those were in the water. So, as soon as I seen that, you know, I had to let the FBI and everybody know what I noticed so they could see everything. 

GRACE: When you asked him what had happened in the bathroom, what did he say? 

CHAMBERLAIN: He said he was drawing me a bath for when I got out of work. And he said that he wasn`t pay attention and al of a sudden, it overflowed. 

GRACE: When you got home, was there water in the bathtub? 

CHAMBERLAIN: There was, but you would think that if it was over flown, it would be over the top, and you would think all the water was drained out. The water was like - half way I there, more halfway in there than anything. 

"You" might think it, but she did not.  

GRACE: Did you notice anything else out of place in the home? Jamie, did you notice anything else out of the place in the home? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, I did. And I just -- when everything happened, I like, you know, because I`m looking in the room, and I was looking around to see if anything was, you know, anything out of the ordinary after I seen the carpet. And as I was looking around on the floor to see what all got wet, I noticed his two, they`re brown stains on my carpet and I noticed that only the stains were wet and around the carpet was dry and my first instinct was like, OK, I better go get a paper towel to see what color came out of it. And then when I see it, it came out was brown and then, you know, my first instinct was blood so I stuck my hand in it and my hand was sticky and then when I smelled my hand, it smelled like cleaning products. 

When someone tells us their "first" instinct or "first" thought, it means that there were others.  Here, we find the need to explain herself, in the sensitive, "because" and she was able to discern between blood and cleaning supplies.  Note the change to present tense language as indicative of story telling.  

Carnel did not die gently.  

GRACE: So, do you believe someone -- is your bathroom carpeted? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, it is. 

GRACE: So, you think someone cleaned the bathroom carpet? 

CHAMBERLAIN: I don`t know. I just know what I seen and I let the FBI take it from there. 

GRACE: This is what I don`t understand, Jamie, so he says the boy`s missing, but he thought to draw you a bath while the little boy`s missing? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes. That`s why it doesn`t make sense. 

GRACE: Did he normally clean the house, Jamie Chamberlain? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, he did. 

GRACE: Jaimee Chamberlain, when did he say the last time it, that he saw the boy, Jaimee? 

CHAMBERLAIN: He said 9:30? 

note that she reports what he said and not simply the time.  This is communicative language. 

GRACE: At night? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes. 9:30 at night. 

GRACE: And what does he say, he was doing? What is Carnel doing at 9:30 at night? He should have been in bed asleep, but what did he say he was doing? 

CHAMBERLAIN: He said, he was out playing in the in the pool that on our porch in our backyard. 

Note the pronoun "our" used twice.  Note that previously, she attempted to portray Bennett as saying nothing:  

GRACE: Well, Cloutier. This is new. This is completely new. OK. I thought he didn`t say anything. Now, I`m understanding, he says the boy was outside in the pool at 9:30 at night. 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes. He said he was outside playing in the pool and he was inside cleaning the house. 

GRACE: At 9:30 at night? 


GRACE: Why wasn`t the little boy in bed, he`s 4 years old. 

CHAMBERLAIN: Nancy, before I left for work, I told him to put my son to bed at 9:00. 

GRACE: Everybody, I want to give you the tip line, 989-775-4700. 


GRACE: You know, back to Jaimee Chamberlain, this is Carnel`s mother. And I want to report to everyone, she has taken and passed with flying colors, two separate polygraph tests, she was the only one working to support the three of them. She`s at work at her job at Isabel`s restaurant there at the casino, gets home 9:30, the boyfriend, the live in says, little boy is gone and he was distracted to cleaning the house. 

Now, I`m learning that he says the little boy was outside swimming in the backyard pool at 9:30 at night and the boyfriend is distracted cleaning the house. I also learn from Jaimee, tonight is the first we`re learning about this, the carpet in the bathroom was completely soaked. There was a brown stain and it smelled like cleaning fluid. 

Jaimee, does your bathroom tub have one of those drain things right below the hot and cold water controls. 

CHAMBERLAIN: It`s just a drain. We have in our back bedroom, we have a Jacuzzi. So I honestly don`t think it had a draining thing. I know where the Jacuzzi is, it has a little sitting point and then it has the switch on the jets and to control the jets and that`s it. 

Note the pronoun, "we"

GRACE: Ok. Wait a minute. Wait. Is the bathtub also a Jacuzzi? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes it is. 

GRACE: All right, so there`s not one of those little holes, kind of a drain right there underneath the hot and cold water control? 

CHAMBERLAIN: No. No, there is not. 

GRACE: You know, to Jaimee Chamberlain, this is Carnel`s mom, the description of him wearing the dark blue angry bird t-shirt, the blue short with the green trim is that what you observed him wearing when you went to work? 

CHAMBERLAIN: No, it wasn`t. 

GRACE: What was he wearing then? 

CHAMBERLAIN: He was wearing dark -- dark green shorts with a light green trim and then the shirt, wasn`t even wearing a shirt when I left. He was just wearing shorts but as the cops were looking through my house and they told me to go through stuff, I actually found the wet pair of shorts that I see him wearing when I left for work. 

Another cluster of blues; another indication that there is critically missing information from her story and it is related directly to the time period when she left for work.  She is withholding information.  

GRACE: You found him -- you found the green shorts? 

CHAMBERLAIN: That he was wearing before I left for work and they were wet. 

GRACE: So the shorts he was wearing when you went to work, were they sopping wet, like they had been underwater? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, they were like in between damp -- it was in between damp to wet, it was in between that. 

GRACE: Where did you find them? Where were they? 

CHAMBERLAIN: They were in our laundry room. 

GRACE: Were they wet with water or wet with urine like he had wet his pants? 

CHAMBERLAIN: They were wet like water. 

GRACE: Why were they wet -- why were they wet? 

CHAMBERLAIN: My first instinct was to think that them were the shorts he was wearing when he was playing outside. As soon as Anthony saw -- he made no sense to me, that`s when, even me, I thought he is probably not even wearing the clothes he said he was wearing. So -- 

GRACE: Did you give police those shorts? 

CHAMBERLAIN: Yes, I did. I gave them every piece of article I thought he was wearing. Yes. 

GRACE: Jaimee, is the water in your pool chlorinated? 

CHAMBERLAIN: No, it`s not. 

GRACE: OK. So, it would be the same as the water in your bathtub, correct? 

Nancy Grace recognized that something was very wrong with the swimming pool story.  Did they drown Carnel?  Was he beaten so badly they tried to clean him up?


GRACE: What was your boyfriend`s explanation as to why your little boy`s pants were soaking wet? 

CHAMBERLAIN: He didn`t say why. He just said he changed him. 

Nancy Grace knows that it is not credible. 

Analysis conclusion:  

Jaimee Chamberlain deceptively withheld information that is

 specifically related to the time period in Carnel's life just prior

 to her leaving for work.  That she has a need to be deceptive

itself, suggests involvement in the beating of Carnel, who was 

a victim of such violence that there was a very messy clean up,

 and his remains needed to be burned so that evidence of what 

was done to him was covered up. 

There is a very strong bond between her and Anthony Bennett

 as seen in the pronoun, "we."

Even in describing the "discipline" that left bruises on Carnel, 

the mother continues to use the pronoun, "we" shwoig the

 interaction, unity, and cooperation between them. 

There is, in my opinion, strong linguistic indication that Jaimee

 Carnel was not only physically abusive to Carnel, but that she

 has need to lie about what happened to him just prior to her

 leaving for work.  She likely passed a polygraph when asked if 

she knew where he was, while missing, because she did not 

know where Bennett had disposed of Carnel's remains. 

She would not pass a polygraph if asked specific questions 

about beating him, and about her own activities and 

knowledge over what befell Carnell in the hour before she 

left for work. 

 Anthony Bennett is not the only monster that

haunted the young life of Carnel.  Perhaps she sought drugs

to quiet her screaming conscience.  

2012: Remembering Susan Murphy Milano

A golden treasure was lost to us in 2012, transplanted to the eternal garden, where she will bloom without hinderance. 

Susan Murphy Milano was more than just a woman; at times she seemed like she was one and one-half a person in one body. 

She shared her life story with me, and I will share just a bit of it with you.  

She made sense of her suffering; something I struggle to do. 

As a child, she suffered horrific child abuse; the worst that any human being can suffer, at the hands of the man designed and created to protect her.  As she grew to fight the abuse, her young life was dedicated to protecting her siblings from the abuse; even taking the abuse upon herself to save another. 

Because of the abuse, she was led to seek shelter with a family, who bowed before Christ, and who's steadfast love for each other created a longing within her.  She longed to be loved, but she also longed to make sense of her suffering.  

She continued, as a young adult, to suffer from the horrific assaults of her childhood.  It was a poison in her soul that she had to fight, and fight she did.  The poison finally took her life this year, but as I think back, if cancer ever feared anyone, it had to fear Susan. 

Susan found some solace in her success in the business world, but it did not fill the empty void within her.  This void was heightened by the abuse she suffered.  She found comfort nowhere but in God, through the Person of Christ.  This is her testimony, offered freely and without reservation.  She was unashamed of her faith, even while being thoroughly ashamed of all of those who use faith as an excuse for wrong doing.  She prayed for guidance in what she should do with her life.  Whatever it is that she was to do, she would put her hand to it, with all of her strength.  

She then tirelessly took up the cause of abused women.  

She shocked me with her attitude.  It was bold enough, yes, and energetic enough for two people, but it was honest enough to make me stop and listen to her. 

I had, up to Susan, less than good experiences with Domestic Violence Advocates, in my work. I admire what they want to accomplish, but honesty must be the driving factor. 

 I found that an underling hatred of men often clouded their judgement.  Many of them found a friend in a venomous prosecutor in Maine, who never saw an innocent man anywhere.  This is not justice, and this is not protection of women.  This was something Susan wanted nothing to do with. 

Thinking that they are helping victims, some advocates will stretch the truth on sworn affidavits, in order to get  a judge to sign an order of protection for a woman.  Later, when the same woman allowed the man back into her home, her children were removed, based upon the sworn affidavit.  Statement Analysis helped me sift through truth and deception.   I was able to show some that the strongest affidavits do not need to employ persuasive language; the truth of the threat of violence, for example, is powerful when it is presented without qualifiers.  The pronoun, "I" reaches deep into the mind of the reader of such an affidavit, and judges want honesty.  

Susan loved the truth.  Susan despised deception and the only deception she found necessary was what she did to the abusive male who wanted to find out where his victim was hiding.  It was there that Susan's careful planning shined brightest.  

Susan invited me to help shoot a pilot for A&E.  She thought she could put together a series of shows that would be both educational and entertaining; and she said she would publish my book. 

She left a voicemail for me, but due to the busy life of family and two jobs, I did not call her back in a timely manner.  She called again and laced into me for it.  Her urgency frightened me, but she then confirmed it for me:  she had stage four cancer.  

How I wish, today, I could hear just a moment of her angry voice, and her driving passion, and her laughter at my reaction. 

I'm jealous of those who knew her longer than I did.  She had wonderful, caring friends who worked with her professionally and privately.  

Susan wasn't afraid to be wrong; she was afraid to stay in a wrong position.  How I admire this trait!  She was both humble, and confident, strong, yet vulnerable, and it was time. 

Why was she taken from us?

Why did she suffer?

How does a loving God let someone so special, suffer so badly?

Susan herself can answer the latter question; I can answer the former. 

Susan told me that without her suffering, her drive and strong intellect would have never allowed her to see a need.  She called for the Physician because she knew she was ill.  Those who do not know they are sick, do not make the call.  Her suffering, she said, was what drove her to Christ. 

As to why she was taken from us, I think I know the answer. 

I think that, perhaps, her Savior said that He would no longer be without her, and at that moment, she became absent from the body of suffering, and in the presence of eternal glory. 

It is our loss, but Heaven's gain.  

2012 was a year where a sister in the faith made it across that final river, safely home, and awaiting us.  

Would you consider, in 2013, reading "Holding My Hand Through Hell"?

The Use of The Pronoun, "I"

                                                  The pronoun, "I" is always strong. 

Question:   Yesterday, from the time you woke up until the time you went to bed, how many times did you use your name?

2nd Question:  Yesterday, from the time you woke up until the time you went to bed, how many times did you use the pronoun, "I" while speaking?

It is likely that you rarely used your own name, but used the pronoun, "I" more times than you can count.  It is used millions of times, and we are incredibly adept at using it properly.  This is why Statement Analysis calls pronouns, "instinctive" and exempt from the internal, subjective internal dictionary that we all have. 

The pronoun "I" is always strong.  It is easy to use and having used it millions of times, it is fair to say:

                               We mean what we say.  

This is why listening is an acquired skill, one that can be learned, practiced, and improved upon. 

Text Messaging

It is something that emotions grab onto, and emotions may eject as well.  We saw it in the suicide note, and we saw it in the text message from Elizabeth Johnson who used it to tell Baby Gabriel's father that she had killed Gabriel.  When she texted that she was on a plane, leaving the country, she dropped the pronoun, "I" which, given the number of text messages, allowed us to establish a base line, or reference point. 

Some examples:

1.  Missing "I" in text messages

If text messaging is in a series of messages, we can learn if it is the norm or pattern to not use the pronoun "I"; if so, if the subject does not use pronouns normally, and suddenly uses the pronoun, "I", it should signal the reader that this sentence is very important to the subject.  This is how we knew that Baby Gabriel was dead at his mother's hands, and how we knew that Johnson did not get on a plane to leave the country.  

If someone regularly uses the pronoun, "I", take careful note where it disappears. 
If someone regularly does not use the pronoun, "I", take careful note at its sudden appearance. 

2.  Strong, personal, up close issues. 

Let's say your grandchild was kidnapped.  Can you imagine anything more horrific than believing your precious little granddaughter is in the hands of a stranger and there is nothing you can do about it?  Can you imagine the feeling of helplessness?

To add to this, imagine said kidnapper actually broke into your home to grab her.  

Anyone who has ever been robbed knows just how personal and invasive this is.  It is not very common.  In common situations, sometimes the pronoun, "you" is used.

While it is your grandchild kidnapped, and your home invaded, there is nothing more personal.  

The pronoun, "I" is the expected. 

When the pronoun "I" is ejected from the language, there is a reason. 

Here is the case of Baby Ayla, whom was reported kidnapped last year, from her grandmother's home. When Phoebe DiPietro spoke to media, did she believe her grandchild was kidnapped, or did she know what actually happened to her? 

Her words reveal much: 

"You're waiting for a call from the police saying they found your granddaughter" and

"Someone has been casing your house..."

The pronoun "I"  is ejected from her language because lying is stressful.  She did not lie.  She did not say that she was waiting for the police to call her about her grandchild.  She did not say that her home was being cased.  These would have been lies, and people like to avoid direct lying.  Her pronouns tell us that she knew her house was not cased and she knew the police would never call her about her grandchild. 

She knew these things.  

This is why we say it is almost impossible for someone to lie.  It is very rare.  Instead, they edit their words to deceive while not lie directly. 

Remember the example of Hillary Clinton:

1992 Gennifer Flowers:

"It is difficult to watch the man I love be attacked...the man I respect be hurt..." but by 1998, the pronoun "I" was ejected from her language:

Monica Lewinsky:

"It is difficult when the man you love... the man you respect is attacked..."

It may have taken 8 years, but the most commonly used word in the English language has been ejected from her language.  Even in prepared statements, where one is watching her words carefully, the truth seeps out.  8 years of humiliation was more than she could bear. 

Take careful note of the pronoun "I" in all conversations.  When an issue is not common to mankind, the pronoun "I" is the norm.  When an issue is common to all of us, the pronoun, "you" is often used. 

"When you lock your keys in the car, you get frustrated."

Since many of us have had this unpleasant experience, it is common.  If the same person used the pronoun, "I", it is a signal that the frustration level was quite high.