Thursday, November 30, 2017
Missing Mariah: Is Mother Cooperating?
On Wednesday, the sheriff, who was asked by the media if the family was cooperating.
This is a "yes or no" question. Once the answer avoids using "yes" or "no" in it, the question, itself, is considered sensitive to the subject. Here, the subject is the local sheriff.
That media asked this question tells us of their doubt.
He said, "Let me put it to you this way: we talked to them and they talked to us."
This is to separate the law enforcement investigators ("we") from the family by deliberately severing interaction. The use of the preposition "to" here is not something the Sheriff paused to consider using; it is an instinctive display of his perception of the cooperation by the family.
The mother's language, thus far, has shown red flags for homes of child abuse and neglect. In court entanglements, it is not always best for insight to see which side "won." Sometimes it is the "lesser of two evils", and other times it is where one fails to prove a case.
The language commonly heard in mothers where abuse and neglect is indicated includes
a. Focus on Self
In the short statements by the mother, she shows a steadfast focus on what she is experiencing. This ego centric view is often flagged by delivery room nurses when a child is born. They note, instinctively, "virtue signaling", or mothers boasting, as well as placing themselves in a verbal theater of sorts where she is front, center, and the only star. Generally, mothers are frightened, exhausted and verbally focused upon the child, especially in the immediate aftermath of birth.
This mother went as far as posting on facebook her lack of sleep.
The mother does not show concern for what Mariah would be, at present, going through. This may suggest that mother knows the child is deceased, similar to the slipping into past tense language. The reason I do not make this a conclusion is that neglectful mothers may mimic this language. If it is combined with the past tense verb slip, the child is dead.
Billie Jean Dunn on national television talked about having a "tooth ache" while her 13 year old was "missing." We knew it as a drug reference but it also showed her priority.
Recall when the McCanns claimed their child was kidnapped. There was a distinct void of language of concern by the parents, with my focus upon Kate McCann's language. The lack of concern about what Maddie was going through, who was feeding her, how were they talking to her, did she have her special toy, and so on, indicates that a normally caring mother does not need to concern herself with what the child is experiencing. Indeed, Madeline died and was not kidnapped. How do I know this? Because I followed and trusted the parents' language to guide me. I began with the presupposition that she was kidnapped and sought to hold this position but the parents talked me out of it.
I have not seen the mother use Mariah's name consistently in statements. She did, at one point, reference the name in distancing language, "she goes by Mariah."
This is a three year old child.
This is a three year old missing child.
She does not go by "an alias" at age three. She does not "choose" or makes
"preference" to the public on what to call her.
This is not only a signal of distancing language, but a strong signal of child neglect. The mother assigns an adult (and impersonal) status to the child. The other children in the home are in jeopardy. This is a mother who sees children as older than they are, which would alleviate her own responsibilities in caring for them. These types of neglectful mothers (and fathers) will often boast how a 3 year old can make their own breakfast, including doing things, such as running an electric appliance, at an age where tiny fingers are in risk.
The neglect parents boast of the "maturity" of the children, which allows them to not only sear the conscience, but lay in bed longer. The hours that the child was up likely surprises no professional.
By saying she "goes by", she verbally separates the child (de-personalization) from the name.
This is not the instinct of a protective or normal mother.
The psychological distancing of not using her name is to depersonalize and it is not associated with death where no guilt exists. Mothers who have lost children to death will use the child's name, pulling psychologically close to the child.
We find terms associated with the afterlife to be, in deed, associated with the afterlife. This status of "angel" bestowed upon a missing child, is another possible indictor that the mother knows she is not alive but "in heaven."
We also saw that the mother, speaking freely, said she would not let "her" go "again."
This indicatates the mother thinking about the time prior where she did let her go. The mother did not stop, mid sentence, and ask herself, "Should I use this word, "again", here?"
It is processed in the brain in less than a micro second of time. She is thinking of a time when she "let her go" while her child is missing.
Was there an altercation between mother and boyfriend in which mother had Mariah as a human shield?
Did mother "let go" Mariah to be exploited?
Did she drop her? Fall on her?
Like Billie Jean Dunn, were they trying not to have a party?
With substance abuse, child injuries increase. Recall the leg injuries, and eventual broken arm of Baby Ayla in which Justin DiPietro delayed 24 hours seeking medical attention.
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