|event from five years prior|
Had the mother emotionally abused the children into hating their father; or had the father physically abused his wife before the children, neither abuse would justify what the judge did. I submit the statement for analysis and interest in the case.
He was accused of hitting the mother where one boy said he saw it. In his statement, he said that his ex wife accused him of pushing her but the police confirmed that nothing happened.
We will let his words guide us.
Here is the statement he gave media about it:
“The one incident that happened was five years ago I had a five-hour unsupervised visit. We were in a park and Maya was circling around the park the whole time, trying to sabotage the visit. Two hours into the visit, the children ended up in her car and she was trying to leave. I tried to prevent her from leaving because it was my time with the children. I was very careful not to do anything but she claimed that I pushed her. She screamed at the children, ‘Call 911! Call 911!’ The police showed up and Maya was screaming and the police confirmed that nothing happened. But in the children’s mind, that’s what happened.”
a. "I didn't hit her"
b. "I hit her but we fought"
c. "I was defending myself"
d. "I hit her but it was wrong..."
b. "she was trying to leave" does not tell us how she was trying. Was she behind the wheel? Was she trying to get into the car?
c. "with" between people indicates distance. He began with "we" but here changed to "my time with the children."
While she was circling, the pronoun "we" was used, but now, with the kids in the car by withheld information explaining how, there is distance between him and the children.
This distance is connected to his need to justify ("because") his action, which is thus taken with the missing information of passivity.
What he did to the children's mother in attempting to prevent her from leaving is something that caused emotional distance between him and his children.
Next note that he says "she claimed I pushed her" is the perfect time for him to say "but I did not push her."
He does not deny pushing her.
If he is unwilling or unable to say it, we are not permitted to say it for him.