Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Have You Ever Told A Lie?

I ask this question, "Have you ever told a lie?" knowing that anyone who says "no" is not truthful, and I know from both experience and research that one who claims to have never lied, nor ever stolen something, even inadvertently, is going to trouble me, one way or another.

We are fallen creatures and all prone to make mistakes.  What makes us better people is the ability to learn from our mistakes.

What can one learn from a mistake if one never makes a mistake?

"Have you ever stolen anything?" is next up in the job application and interview procedure, as I help companies weed out liars.  (see next article)

Liars trouble companies. Liars put themselves first and foremost, before all, and bring trouble in for companies, in creative ways...ways that most HR have heard, but sometimes feel that upper management will not always believe.

Chiefly, liars put themselves first, and this means...

my back hurts...

I'm being sexually harassed...

So and So is doing such and such...

and on it goes.

The bottom line is that the liar does not hold the company's best interest at heart, and may even think that others exist for his benefit.

Recall the articles (and examples!) of tweaking the pride of the liar?

Call her a murderer, or call her a neglectful mother, and she could care less.

Call her a liar and she will rush down to the police station and take that polygraph, only to utterly fail it!

Liars hold the world in contempt.

They believe, from childhood, that they can pull the wool over the eyes of anyone, hence, the contempt.

This same contempt in the work place leaves the liar believing that the company owes her a living.

Remember the haughty attitude of not only Casey Anthony but her brother?

Remember the ad he put in the newspaper for a "personal assistant"?

It was an unpaid position, but the assistant had to have a college degree.

Something Lee Anthony did not have.

Liars are troublesome in all life.

Have you ever told a lie?

Yes, and I have regretted it. It was selfish and cowardly.


C5H11ONO said...

My inspirational quote of the day today:
"My responsibility to myself, my neighbors, my family and the human family is to try to tell the truth." - Spoken by Toni Cade Bambera --I believe the woman quoted was part of a radical group.

At least she was truthful. She attempted, but failed to be truthful. Isn't that what "try" is?

Anonymous said...

If you tell The truth 24/7 ie telling The wife She has nice family,instead of an Evil drug taking rat,youd offend 24/7.

rob said...

I often wondered, why didn't Mark Furhman just say 'yeah, I'm afraid I have used the N word', now after the Paula Dean fiasco, I guess I can see why. But it all honesty, who hasn't said things that are ugly and demeaning to others? Ugly, stupid, spic, whop(don't even know how to spell that one), cracker, honkie, what-ever. We all do it, and then, for self-preservation, lie and say we didn't.
What always gets me is, the people who lie, when telling the truth would be just as easy to do. Some people must just enjoy lying or the game of seeing if they can get away with it.
I have lied, usually to save myself embarrassment, and most often, had to later eat the lie, when called out on it.
I really believe Casey Anthony truly enjoyed lying, and believed herself too smart to get caught.

Katprint said...

I noticed that when I posted a (true) Facebook status a month or so ago about a deceptive situation, I dropped several "I" pronouns in my post.

My Facebook post: "Got back home after midnight last night from my little brother's funeral in Seattle. Now getting ready for my son's birthday party today (invitations went out before my brother died.) Keeping my happy face on is very difficult."

It was a deceptive situation in that 1) my decision not to tell my young sons that my little brother had died was indirectly deceptive, and led to 2) my concealing the true reason why we went out of town to attend his funeral -- my sons managed to hear enough planning to conclude that my husband and I were going to some sort of family reunion, and also led to 3) my pretending to feel happy when I felt sad which was an intentional deception.

I don't know if this counts as a "lie" per se. I don't regret it. I think that kids shouldn't have to deal with issues like death, sex, crime, money, drugs/alcohol, etc. until they are ready. Some people may feel that I'm overprotective, and some people can go cry in a corner because I'm not changing my parenting style.

Another true Facebook post:

Conversation with [my son]:

"Mom, what's the f-word?"
"Why do you need to know?"
"Well, people told me somebody's been writing it on the buddy blockers." (small three sided cardboard desktop booths to discourage cheating during tests)
"I don't want to tell you the f-word."
"Well, what if I say it by mistake?"
"You won't say it by mistake."
"What if it's fifferfafferfoo?" "Nope." "Faffaloodle?" "Nope." "FeeFieFoeFum?"
"Just don't worry about it."
"Am I the only one in the world who doesn't know what the f-word is?
"No, your brother doesn't know it either."

Deejay said...

I admit that I have used behavior based derogatory terms. (stupid, rude, etc) But Rob, there are people who don't use racial insults. In my memory, my parents never modeled racial slurs either. I don't say them or think them or need to lie about doing so.

Tania Cadogan said...

Hi Katprint.

You have just given me the name for my next kitty


I love the way it sounds and rolls off my tongue.

I will name my next kitty Faffaloodle Doodah

Hugs xx

Anonymous said...


What would you advise saying to the stealing question to one who has never stolen anything? What would be the point of admitting to non-existent stealing?

rob said...

Deejay, are you saying that you have never said anything negative about a person of another race? Not the whole race, but a particular person. My parents didn't model that behavior either, and would punish if you were caught doing it. I'm not one to use racial slurs, but if I get mad about something, or at someone, I have made ugly comments. But like most people, I didn't do it when I was likely to get caught.
This topic is about lying. Yes, I have lied and am ashamed of it.

Anonymous said...

Anthony Robbin's says the phrase "I'll try" is the "battle cry of losers".

Lisa said...

Whether a lie is good or bad, right or wrong, is dependent on many variables. Sometimes it is good to lie and bad to tell the truth, other times it is downright evil to lie.
I grew up with an abusive mother. She would beat the crap out of me whenever I did anything "wrong". More than once my older brother LIED and claimed responsibility for something that in actuality I had done. He took the beating for me. I look back on this lying as a sign of my brother's love for me. It indicates High morality, not untrustworthiness. An employer would be lucky to hire him.

Polo said...

Yes, I have told a lie and unfortunatly I still do on occasion. And in my prayers that night, I have to ask forgivness even if its a little white lie.
For example, I chose not to go to a barbeque last weekend, but I had told my coworkers I was going to go. On Monday, my coworkers asked how the bbq went. Instead to telling them I was too tired to go, I simply said I had a great time. If they ask follow up questions, the lie gets bigger.