Husband on Wife's Disappearance: Not Knowing 'Most Brutal'
January 29, 2013
New Berlin, NY (WBNG Binghamton) After his wife went missing seven weeks ago, Ganesh "Remy" Ramsaran broke his silence and wept for her return.
On Dec. 11, 36-year-old Jennifer Ramsaran went missing after leaving for a shopping trip to Syracuse.
For the first time, her 37-year-old husband Ganesh Ramsaran spoke to the media about his wife's disappearance.
"There are days where I have hope," Ramsaran said. "And then there are days exactly the opposite."
Ganesh Ramsaran said he has spent nearly two months on little sleep wondering where his wife could have gone.
"You think about the worst, you think about other possibilities, you just don't know" he said. "The not knowing is the most brutal."
He does not say that not knowing is most brutal for him, nor does he say what he thinks; only what "you" think.
Ganesh Ramsaran and his wife share three children. He said she has always been passionate for her kids and her artwork.
But in the few months before her disappearance, he said she stopped painting, lost weight and her mood changed.
"I was so proud of her because she was 190 pounds that Sunday the (Dec.) ninth. She hadn't been 190 pounds in years," Ramsaran said. "And you know, she changed unfortunately ... I'll leave it at that."
Ramsaran said he'd stayed silent to avoid disturbing the ongoing police investigation.
"The people that know us, I so appreciate their support. And everything that they've done, not just for me, but for the kids," he said. "The people that don't know us, that mudslinging and everything else, I have nothing to say. The truth always comes out."
He does not deny involvement in her disappearance even though he does acknowledge "mudslinging"
He tells us that the truth always comes out. This is true.
If he wants, he can tell the truth right now, and not wait, and tell us if he is involved, or tell us if he is not involved.
He avoids doing so here.
In a prepared note, Ramsaran addressed his wife of 13 years.
"I don't think you ever knew how much we care for you, and how much your love and everything else -- " he read, before breaking down.
We expect to hear a personal, singular pronoun, in the statement. The use of the pronoun "we" is not expected. Regarding her smile, he referenced her in the past tense, "that's how I will always remember her" indicates belief or knowledge that she is dead.
The Chenango County Sheriff's Office has no updates on the case since they discovered Ramsaran's car and cell phone last month in two separate places in the town of Plymouth.
Ganesh Ramsaran has offered his DNA, and to take a lie detector test if it would help the investigation.