Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Liars' Contempt Highlighted
USADA says that Armstrong must tell them everything he knows about drug use in cycling if he wants his lifetime ban reduced.
Armstrong was cited, here, years ago, for his unreliable denials, and eventually was forced to make an admission.
His admission, on the Oprah Winfrey program, including deceptive answers and deceptive statements about his son, his involvement, his ex wife, and about taking performance enhancing drugs during his comeback tour.
He is pathological in his lying and everything he possibly states to USADA must be verified. They should also take a summation of his answers (should he choose to meet with them) and lay out 10 questions for him to answer.
Then, they should take the same 10 questions, and polygraph him on these specific questions.
Armstrong's reaction to being called a liar is what pathological liars generally do:
A liar from childhood holds others in contempt. They believe, by virtue of expectation, that those they are lying to are beneath them, in the least, intellectually, which is why they have an expectation of "getting away with it" when they lie.
This pride, which often makes an appearance just prior to an embarrassing personal calamity, leads them to do and say foolish things.
It is also the number one trait to be exploited by investigators.
* A liar can, and must be, provoked into speaking.
* A liar will cause self-harm, just to answer a challenge.
*A liar will harm others to protect himself or herself. To this end, a liar will lie, steal, cheat, perjure, and do far more harm, than most of us ever are willing to admit.
The pride and ego of a liar will sometimes even cause them to take a polygraph examination when they know they are going to be asked questions that they must lie to.
Justin DiPietro, father of missing toddler, Ayla Reynolds, refused to speak to media when police asked him to.
When a child goes missing and kidnapping is presumed, the first thing an innocent parent does is call out to the child. This is echoed from a wandering child in a supermarket: the parent calls out to the child. It is instinctive. It is attempted to be done within hours of the report. The urgency is critical.
When a parent refuses to do so, the parent does not want the child found. This was seen in the case of 7 year old Isabel Celis. Media pressure forced them to finally speak, a week later, and when they spoke, deception was indicated.
In DiPietro's case, he refused, but when the mother of Ayla, Trista Reynolds, claimed to not hear from DiPietro, his pride welled up, as he had "proof" that he was in contact with her, via text messages and quickly made a statement which, sadly, revealed that Ayla was deceased, and that she was likely in water.
Billie Jean Dunn, mother of missing 13 year old, Hailey Dunn, was involved in sexual perversion, drugs, and violence, with live in boyfriend, Shawn Adkins. She copied a story from CNN on a murdered child, and made it her own. Police knew she was lying and challenged her to take a polygraph examination.
Dunn knew that she would fail.
She and Adkins did the waiting game, no show, and finally showed up under the influence in an attempt to beat the machine.
When caught, she was faced with the "liar's challenge" and, sure enough, the pride caused her to go through with it, against Adkins' pleas, and both failed the polygraph. Knowing she would fail, her pride caused her to go through with it. She spent 40 years getting away with lies, and could not stop herself.
Antiquity has some writing about Pilate that described him as a liar, mafia-type brute, who caused his rivals to disappear. This builds up, slowly, compromise by compromise, lie by lie, for many years until the habit leaves the subject weak and vulnerable. His young wife was "troubled" by dreams and warned Pilate not to have anything to do with the false trial of Christ.
He ceremoniously washed his hands, relieving him of nothing.
When Lance Armstrong was challenged as being deceptive, his response was not "I told the truth" (which is what honest people say), but was to feel, acutely, the sting of insult. In his mind, like the others mentioned here, it is,
"I am above this idiot. How dare he challenge me!"
He responded with threats, some of which, like the legal ones, he made good on, knowing that he could outspend his perceived enemy, and force them to resign.
Billie Jean Dunn did not say, "I told the truth. I don't care if someone says I am lying, I must find Hailey!", but instead responded with threats, which included, threats of sexual violence, including "gang rape." She threatened suit knowing that in a suit, she would have to testify. When the subject of an investigation sues, prosecutors rejoice.
DiPietro had his brother contact me with a threat of violence. Like all bullies, he needed a reminder that I was neither a female, nor a toddler.
What would have happened if the public had said Desiree Young was lying? Desiree is the mother of missing 7 year old, Kyron Horman, someone still very much I think that she would not have even responded. She cares for nothing but finding justice for her son, who's life, according to the analysis, was taken from him in an act of hateful vengeance by his former step mother, Terri Horman.
Kyron is not forgotten.
Liars don't know when to quit. They don't know the meaning of the word "beaten." This is what caused Charlie Rogers to issue a rambling narcissistic self-pitying video about herself on YouTube, who, no matter how many words she used, could not bring herself to say, "I told the truth" about the "attack by 3 men" (see "Fake Hate") here
Liars violate the "law of economy" in statement analysis where we say, "the shortest sentence is best."
Due to the sensitivity of lying and deception, they add words to their sentences whereas others, telling the truth, do not feel the need to add.
"I had nothing to do with it at any time..." is an example of adding "at any time", to the sentence.
When we see unnecessary words, we deem them "doubly important" to our analysis.
Liars got their experience in childhood where they learned to survive by their wits. Most are products of abuse, particularly Neglect, where, as a child, the neglectful parent did not correct them.
Teachers know this well.
The neglectful parent feels acute guilt and will often seek to project the guilt upon the teacher.
"My Johnny did not lie!" Neglectful Mommy fires back to the helpless teacher who knows that Johnny's date with destiny may include prison bars. Mommy has such guilt over her poor care of Johnny that, when given the opportunity to play the role of hero, she grabs it, proudly seeking to show the world what a great defender of her child she is!
She betrays herself.
This is why we highlight such hyperbole in statement analysis as indicative of a poor relationship.
"I'm a great mother!" is often heard from abusive and neglectful mothers, who acutely feel the sting of accusation and feel the need to boast. Great mothers are too tired to boast.
Like the bragging Blade Runner claiming he and his girlfriend "could not" be happier, it belies the problems in the relationship between Oscar Pistorius and his victim.