Our words reveal us. The words we choose allow others to know us, and know what is in our hearts. Even after saying, "that's not what I meant" we know the brain chose the words the tongue spoke in less than a microsecond.
From this abundance, that is, the thoughts accumulated over a lifetime, along with the emotions accompany them, the brain signals to the tongue which words to form. This is accompanied by a surge of hormones during a crisis.
Note the words from the two women, and then the words from the children. After the incident, note the male's words as well.