Tuesday, October 1, 2013
The Death Of Ayla Reynolds Part III: Motive
Did you ever hear the expression, "Our sins look so much worse on someone else"?
When we see someone do something that we, ourselves, have done, it looks worse to us. What we don't see is the many small, desensitizing steps that the person took to get to the point of surprise. "It took more than all this, your honor, that put that gun in my hand." When the steps of a crime are carefully laid out, we can see how the insidious ending grew from a much smaller beginning.
When we see something hideous, we are often stunned and marvel asking, "What kind of monster could do such a thing?" not realizing that "monsters" are often built that way, a little at a time.
I once said this, aloud, in a hospital room looking at the beautiful blue eyes of a toddler, who's gaze was forward and straight, and her tongue fell off to the side. She was hours from her death, and her brain-dead gaze will be forever with me. I wanted to tuck her tongue into her mouth for her dignity, but froze staring at her.
Someone shook her hard enough to cause this to happen to her, and the perpetrator is waiting to speak to me; that is, he "was" waiting to speak to me.
A cop got to him first.
He screamed into his face, "You did this! You're going tell tell me what happened! Right now! Tell me!"
I looked at the file. The perpetrator was ex military. He's used to being screamed at and did a good job tuning the blustering cop out.
I asked, "Officer, would you mind if I sat with him for awhile, and I will come get you when he is ready to talk?"
He said, "Yeah, he ain't gonna say nothing, so have at it."
I sat for the next hour or so, silently, with my head down in my hands, just like the perp.
The silence was broken by his soft voice, "I didn't mean to..."
He then went on to give an admission...well, it could be a confession, but, as is the case, he blamed the toddler.
It began before that, with a temper slap here, or a short yank on her hair, there, and he wanted her to quiet down. He was coming down from his high and feeling the effects of withdrawal and she was getting on his last nerve...and he had told the girl's mother that he wasn't up to babysitting, so it was her fault, too, and on and on he went.
Within a few hours, a nurse would come and gently close those sparking blue, but lifeless eyes, but I had no intention of being there for it. I had the information I needed, and gladly shared with the law enforcement official who was in a bit better shape after coffee and a break. He had been up all night with the perp and was worn down by the refusal to speak. The perpetrator's story was one of high school bully flunkie, joined the military, couldn't bear the discipline, got himself tossed out, and bounced from girlfriend to girlfriend, each with children and the perfume of desperation for a man.
There are those kind of men, unmanly men, who know little of the language of sacrifice of strength, but are fluent in selfishness.
Justin DiPietro is such a young man.
Reported to have been raised in Domestic Violence, confirmed by his mother's own choice of words, he was intelligent but being undisciplined, it would always be "the teacher's fault" or the "coach's fault" or anyone but Phoebe's precious son. The refusal to embrace the sanctified disappointments of lie that prepare the young for adult responsibilities is the out workings of a neglectful, guilty parent, who must "make a fair shew in the flesh" by yelling at teachers or coaches, to appease the inner ache of a guilty conscience. Many a good teacher has been victimized by such.
The child is raised to accept no responsibility. Couple this with violence and we have an adolescent ready for trouble.
The parent prided herself at giving her two year old "choices" to show how "smart" he was, and how her child was special above all the others. Now, at 15, the mother slaps all sorts of rules on him, fearing the damage he could do in life, but it is too late.
The bully is not masculine. Masculinity is the sacrifice of strength for right purposes. This is why Domestic Violence is such a terribly unmanly crime. Raised with seven sisters, my father taught me and my brothers that no man should ever call himself a man and raise a hand to a woman. It was inherently unjust, since men were created stronger; therefore, the strong were to protect the weak, just as those with are charged with helping those who do not have. Sacrifice.
Love is seeking the highest good of its object. I "love" you, means that I put you and your best interests above my own interests. The nature of love is sacrifice. Christians hold to "God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son..." as the ultimate display of sacrifice. Non religious people often also prize sacrifice as an element of noble behavior.
A child is, by creation, vulnerable.
The child is incapable of self protection, therefore, relies upon the parent to afford protection. When a child is sexually abused, for example, the brain does not develop as it should, and if the sexual abuse is by the parent, the element of confusion is at its highest level: the child looks to the parent, who, rather than protects, exploits. The repercussions will be legion.
Ayla Reynolds met her father later in life than most children meet their own fathers. Justin DiPietro had a relationship with Trista Reynolds which resulted in Ayla being born. Ayla did not ask to be born, and according to Trista, Justin did not want her born, either.
Her start to life was precarious, to say the least, and it may have been a stressor that triggered one event, which triggered another event, which triggered yet another, which led to her death.
What was the motive?
It is easy to say,
"A single, unemployed father of two children by two different mothers, bought a life insurance policy, not for, but against only one of his children; the child he, weeks later, reported kidnapped."
It is easy because it is true.
But is it the motive? Wasn't the life insurance just one of those things added to a larger policy?
As I have said before, insurance companies like to pull "the best and brightest" out of law enforcement, into investigating for them. They have money on the line, and their bottom line is different than law enforcement: they are to make a profit. Therefore, on average, they pay more than law enforcement and entice some of the more intelligent police officers away from law enforcement via a better paycheck.
An insurance investigator is trained in gathering information. He or she does not need many hours of vehicle maneuverability or gun training, but can have the bulk of training and refresher trainings in interviewing, statement analysis, and evidence gathering. Precious time is not lost aiming a gun. This is something necessary in law enforcement, but eats up training hours at a high rate.
An insurance investigator is going to note that a single, unemployed father of two purchased a policy (car insurance) not to provide for his children in the event of his death, but for his child to provide money for him in the event of the child's death.
If this was just a blanket policy, why not purchase it to provide for Ayla, in the event of the father's death? This would have been sacrificial; that is, to sacrifice monthly money now, so that should the father die, his child would be provided for after his death. Most people who have insurance do so to provide for their children.
Objection: it was kind of him to buy insurance to pay for his child's funeral expenses.
Answer: In Maine, he would have likely had no out of pocket cost to pay for Ayla's funeral. The average cost according to journalist Carol Bengle Gilbert, was about $500. I don't think it would have cost him a penny.
Justin took out a policy that would net him $15,000.
An insurance policy is a bet.
In sacrificing for our children, we are betting that which we all hope for: that our children will outlive us. It is often said that no parent should ever be forced to outlive his or her child. Sadly, many of us know this pain.
But who, in their right mind, would make a financial bet against a healthy toddler?
Who could look at that adorable little face of Ayla and place a monthly financial bet that he was going to outlive the child?
Answer: one who has struck that adorable little face here, and then there, and then...
Child abuse escalates while it desensitizes. What was shocking last month, is routine this month. Readers would be stunned to hear the litany of excuses made by abusers who blame 2 year olds for being...2 year olds.
A bruise here, a wrenched leg there, and then a powerfully gripped, anger laced yank...Little by little, resentment towards the child grows.
Couple this with:
the stressor of money.
Unemployed and chronically so, the "Uncle Eddie holding out for a management position" mentality of entitlement, along with a group of women providing for him, the father could not rage against Trista for "making" him pay child support. This was a bitter pill, indeed. Coupled with a selfish, self serving temper never kept in check by his mother, the perfect storm was brewing which would end with Ayla likely "buried" deep in the Kennebec River.
"The love of money is the root of all evil"; not so that "money is the root of all evil", it is that love of it, that sacrificing all to obtain it, that is not the evil, but the root of so many other evils.
When Ayla's case first broke, it was quickly followed by rumors of low level street peddling of pain killers.
With the initial statement by DiPietro, we heard "rumors floating" around out there, and we heard a father of a "missing" baby not only reference her in the past tense, as if dead, but a father claiming that his own emotions were superior in priority to Ayla's safety. This ridiculously unmanly statement is the clear signal that the father was hiding his daughter's death, rather than taking responsibility. This is why I say that when he is finally arrested, we will hear, likely in court, that this was "Trista's fault" in that Ayla died, by accident, falling down the stairs, or something along this line, and that it was out of fear of being blamed by Trista, that the Waterville Three concocted the kidnapping story, and will likely plead guilty to some form of illegal burial.
It is consistent with the inability to take personal responsibility by DiPietro. When the second grade teacher seeks to hold your son or my son responsible, instead of "fighting for" your child, send in a "thank you" note to the teacher, and have your child do the extra work mandated for his correction. When the coach overlooks your child and he has less playing time in soccer, tell your son to work harder than anyone else on the field and embrace the coach's decision.
In other words, let your child suffer a little bit now, to spare him greater suffering later. Displease him now, so that he will not displease you later. Discipline him now, and teach him respect for women, and your future daughter-in-law will thank you later.
Here, women are sacrificed for Justin DiPietro. Talk about the silly catch phrase from CNN on the "war against women" much? Well, here is an example of someone who has women work for him, speak for him, lie for him and then ultimately...
Justin DiPietro sought to have a little woman die to provide for him.
He is the perfect example of true misogyny.
Mommy lies for him, sister lies for him, his buddy's mommy embarrasses her own family name defending the indefensible and Baby Ayla died to bring him $15,000.
Could this really be the motive?
Ayla was a thorn in his side. He blistered under the child support and was going to fight for custody. The mother's ability or inability to care for Ayla is not part of the argument.
Ayla was a financial disaster and would have been, for another sixteen years.
Although Justin DiPietro had two children, it was only one child that he targeted for life insurance.
Ayla was a nuisance with lots of energy and she was a walking, talking reminder of Trista, who refused to abort Ayla when she was pre born.
Then, there was the issue of drugs.
We heard rumors that Justin DiPietro had been selling painkillers on the street. Whether you believe this or not, by itself, it is not enough.
Then we learned that there was a connection to drugs in the life of Ayla Reynolds; not specifically in substance abuse, which is dangerous enough, but in the far more dangerous world of drug trafficking.
In the selling of drugs, there are no receipts, and no 30 day money back guarantee, but a desperate element of risk that brings everyone associated with it into harm's way.
Addicts may want a refund.
Addicts may be displeased with the price.
Addicts may go into withdrawal and go violent.
Once cocaine addict told me that he needed just $10 from his aunt, who, when she refused, he took out a kitchen knife and stabbed her until she was dead. He then took the $10, and went off to buy crack cocaine. He spent less than 10 years in prison and had come to see me to complain that his girlfriend's father was being obstinate in not allowing his daughter to marry him.
Drugs and children are a lethal mix.
Drugs desensitize just as violence desensitizes.
Justin DiPietro had a live in girlfriend named Courtney Roberts, who also, police tell us, conspired to be deceptive, via withholding information, about what happened to Ayla. She has a sister, who has an apartment in Portland, where Ayla was reportedly taken, where police found a very large cache of drugs.
Drug wholesalers don't take Visa or Mastercard.
This large volume was enough to consider it wholesaling and Maine is a place where salaries are quite low and money is scarce. Police estimated the cost to be about $25,000.
Here is the connection between money owed and the extreme life insurance taken out against one of the two children; the unwanted bruised and battered one.
Do I believe Ayla was killed for insurnance money?
I believe it was an "underlining" motive, a "traction" for the desire to be free from the child support payments and to be free from the reminder of Trista and the 16 years of burden that awaited him.
I believe the motive unveiled in the string of injuries to Ayla: She was unwanted, and when he was presented with the fact that he needed to buy car insurance, the adding in of one child, not for, but against, became traction for the motive of wanting to be free from the burden.
I don't doubt, in fact, that Ayla fell down those stairs.
It very well may have happened, along with the wrenching of the legs, or the breaking of the arm, the black eye, and the various injuries, increasing with time, not specifically premeditated, but a process of systematic abuse from a selfish bullying irresponsible father, who, then knowing how unwanted she was, took out a policy which caused him to take a bet that Ayla wasn't going to live and he would then profit from her death.
Once purchased, the underlining thought became strong, overwhelmingly so. Was there pressure to pay off the drugs? Or, was it the hope of a big wad of money in his hand that could be used to purchase more, and sell, and...
No, this "great" man would not settle for a 'menial' job like truck driving! He was too good for that! He could turn that 15K around quickly, and make it into $50,000 on the streets of Portland, rather than Wall Street. The other 'dummies' who work hard to earn 15% interest trading stocks, or those who cut coupons to afford a dinner...those who think hard work pays...he would show them.
Once the math hit, the death clock ticked against Ayla.
We have heard that DiPietro was even foolish enough to telegraph his now stronger plan by sending text messages to Ayla's mother, expressing 'concern' that someone might "take" Ayla. Was this his way of attempting to blame Trista for the coming disappearance?
The DiPietro family has blamed Trista Reynolds. How plausible is this?
Justin would have us believe that he has "no idea" who took Ayla. Statement Analysis shows that this is just another verbal stop sign, as we all have ideas on just about everything in life. But if he blamed Trista, wouldn't this limit the pool of suspects, down from 300 million US citizens, to just a handful who have had contact with Trista Reynolds? How could he have "no idea" while feigning to claim that someone did not approve of his parenting Ayla?
By claiming that someone did this on Trista's behalf, he limited the number of suspects marvelously, so why then, would he not run to the camera, and negotiate for his daughter's safe return?
Now, I don't believe, for a minute, that he was "emotionally incapable" of not speaking. But if I did not believe it, why did I call it "unmanly" in early articles?
The truth is found in the lie.
When someone is deceptive, they use language familiar to themselves. This was seen when Justin said the toddler "got into a fight", not recognizing that children of this age do not get into fights. Like Casey Anthony's "dead squirrels climbed into the car engine", the lie reveals the person.
Justin used not being "emotionally capable", perhaps guided by Courtney, yet embraced it as, in his world, it is acceptable for a man to not help his child (his female child) if his "emotions" overrule him.
It reveals how terribly unmanly this human being actually is.
Men sacrifice for the good of others. Real men are not bullies, but help the weak. Real men protect children, from exploitation, rather than exploit children.
Ayla Reynolds was a victim of child abuse which escalated to the point that the life insurance policy taken out against her looked more and more attractive.
The guilt that must run through the veins of the man that sold the policy must be so unbearable that he must deny it and defend it, instead, in order to cope.
Ayla Reynolds was unwanted but it was the Life Insurance policy against her that gave traction to the selfish love of money that ultimately was paid for by Ayla's spilled blood.
No greater love has man than he that lays down his life for another. After two thousand years, this simple sentence remains as relevant as it was when first said. Love sacrifices for others.
Ayla was sacrificed for money.
The motive was initially being unwanted, but it was the money, itself, that gave force and power that led, not to the spilling of blood, but to the greater intensity of spilling of Ayla's blood. As her blood was spilled, it became a little less difficult with each blow against her.
Eventually, the lure money overwhelmed whatever restraint was still in place, and Ayla paid the ultimate price.
The love of money is the root of all evil.
Sadly, Ayla's life was cut short for this very reason. It may not have started out that way, but it did end that way.
The opinions here are only that of the author. No one has been charged in this case, to date, and all are judicially given the status of Innocent until proven otherwise.