Monday, October 29, 2012
Revisiting the Word, "Never"
We noted that although "never" may be truthful, it should accompany "did not" in order to be considered reliable.
Lance Armstrong "never" doped.
Marion Jones "never" doped.
Did Joey Buttafouco have sex with Amy Fischer? Long Guylanders can still hear the echo of, "Never. Never! Never happened!" from Joey's belligerent mouth.
Armstrong's entire cycling team has now testified that they eye witnessed him doping.
Marion Jones went to prison. Armstrong may be headed that way as well.
Even in small detail, we should note the word "never" when "did not" or "didn't" would be more appropriate.
A few recent examples:
"He never called me back" was blurted out quickly, in a self defense posture, with the unfortunate consequence of not realizing how easy it is to be able to retrieve phone records to show this was a lie. "He did not call me back" was avoided for the word "never" instead.
"He never sent his email" was another, 'on the fly' defensive reply which was quickly put to the test:
The "Sent" outbox and "recall" feature quickly showed that the email was sent, and it was read. He avoided saying, "I did not receive his email"
These are examples of "knee jerk" lies from one who does not wish to take responsibility. In both cases, the subjects avoided using the pronoun "I" and the past tense, "didn't" or "did not" in their lies.
For some reason, the use of "never" is easier on the liar than "did not", psychologically, and we have seen examples in the past of its employment.
Never accept never as if it is "did not" unless, of course, both are present:
"I did not receive his email. He never sent it."
"I did not use EPO. I have never used it."
This is actually easy to catch while listening during a conversation. If the subject says "never" where "did not" or "didn't" was avoided, don't buy it. At best, it is unreliable. At worst, it is a lie.
Remember: the more you practice on paper (or computer), the easier it is in conversation.