Sunday, March 30, 2014
The Language of Mark Redwine Analyzed Part One
Dylan Redwine went missing after visiting his father, Mark Redwine.
The case is not closed.
The following two articles are Statement Analysis of his father, Mark Redwine. Police said he was not a suspect, but he was the last to see his son, whom he had in his home on a visit.
Here is a video with Mark Redwine, father of missing Dylan Redwine. His language has some very concerning portions. Please note that Statement Analysis is in red flag.
Mark Redwine uses the language of domestic violence.
Please note that a reliable denial of involvement would be simple to say:
"I did not cause Dylan's disappearance" and things similar. It will have the pronoun, "I" along with the past tense verb, since what happened to Dylan happened in the past. It will also address the disappearance.
Words that do not show a reliable denial:
"Never" "Would never" "...would never harm..."
If someone adds to the three elements of a reliable denial, it becomes unreliable.
What does he tell you?
With the interviewer, we find a desire to 'please' Mark Redwine, and not ask direct questions, as she attempts to sound empathetic rather than journalistic. It is a mistake.
Here are a few of my observations:
He subtly attempts to blame Dylan's mother as she was out making a living he was home bonding with Dylan.
"This versus That"
The word "this" indicates closeness, while the word "that" shows distance. If I ask for a cup of water, I might say, "Not that one (far from me) but "this one is mine" (near me). It is the same in emotional distancing language.
He speaks of himself in a positive light, as a great father, yet the language shows distance:
"I would do anything for that boy."
He portrayed himself as willing to drive all the way to Brooklyn, just to buy a pizza:
"That boy ate 2/3rd of it. He woofed it down."
We hear the need to persuade the interviewer what a great father he was. This need to persuade should be noted in context of distancing language from Dylan.
When a parent has a need to persuade that he is a good parent, it is this need, itself, that is concerning.
He speaks as one who is involved in Domestic Violence, as if something was wrong with Dylan's mother not wanting the father to know where she was working. He blames the mother for a poor living environment and for providing for Dylan instead of bonding with him.
His plans for Thanksgiving:
He avoided the question directly, making the question sensitive.
"I just wanted him to be happy."
"So when he wanted to spend time with his friends, I had no problem with that."
"He wanted to spend time with his friends. I have no problem with that."
He had no problem with "that", which leads to the question:
What did he have a problem with?
This is the nature of "this and that" that even parents readily recognize. "Did you really tell the teacher you were not going to do your homework?"
Child: "I didn't say that!"
Parent: Then what did you say?
Mark Redwine is telling us that he did have a problem with something.
"When he's with me, its me and him, with the exception of his friends. You know, I know those are important to him."
Note how he goes from past tense to present tense.
"I monitor what he does, where he's at. Its just me and him. There's not people coming and going in my life because everything I focus on is him and us being together and spending that time.
"I monitor" is present tense.
Note the need to explain why he has no social interaction with people.
"There's not a day goes by that I am not hopeful that we will find Dylan today. "
Since he is not with Dylan's mother, and his references to her show a very poor relationship, we do not expect to hear him use the word "we" often. Pronouns are critical to understanding what someone is thinking. His language shows distance from Dylan's mother. There is no "we" when he speaks of Dylan's mother. There is, however, a very strange and unusual use of the pronoun, "we":
*Please note the use of "we" when speaking of Dylan being missing. As a father, and the last one to see him alive, if he is speaking for himself and not for he and Dylan's mother, Elaine, the expected is the pronoun, "I" (he and Dylan's mother are not speaking as one as Elaine believes he killed Dylan)
"We still don't have Dylan."
"We needed to know where he's at. We need to know he's safe. And we need to know that whoever is repsponsible for this has enough compassion in their heart to to change what has been done and bring him home. I know that is imprtant to his mom. And it is very important to me. We need Dylan home."
1. Who is "we" is something the interviewer should have asked a man who speaks so poorly of Dylan's mother and has already asserted that he does not have "people" coming into his life "because" of his focus on Dylan. This is a missed opportunity of a very strange use of the pronoun, "we"
Please note that guilty people will often use the pronoun "we" when having a need to share guilt or responsibility. This is something that parents of teenagers are familiar with.
A simple and direct question as to his involvement could have, and should have, been asked.
2. "needed" came first, and is past tense.
3. Regarding the "person" involved in Dylan's disappearance, Redwine says "compassion in their heart" and needs to:
4. "change" what has been done. This is a strange expression. Rather than just say "bring him home" he says that what has happened needs to undergo a "change."
What "change" does he refer to? This should have and could have been asked.
4. "I know this is important to his mom" is the obvious.
5. He then adds in what would apparently be needless: "It's very important to me"
Note that it is only "important" to Dylan's mother to have him back, but it is "very important" to him.
Both phrases are unexpected.
When something is "important" to a person, it takes a place of priority, along with other things that are also important in life.
Is there anything more important than a missing child to a parent? It is needless to say.
It is "important" to his mother, but "very important" to him.
This is highly unexpected language.
Q. What do you want to say to whoever has Dylan?
This addresses, possibly, the person involved. What language will he associate with this "person"?
A. Let him go. Drop him off at the closest police station. Take him to a Walmart.
Dump him off. If you have any compassion in your heart"
Note the use of "dump" in regard to his missing son.
Why would he consider a kidnapper or someone who harmed Dylan would be a compassionate person?
That the word "dump" entered his vocabulary, law enforcement should consider searching in dumps.
For the love of God, if you have any compassion in your heart, you will do the right thing and let him come home to his family.
Note the invocation of Deity is not in asking for help in finding Dylan.
Note the phrase, "compassion in your heart" is repeated; making "compassion in the heart" something sensitive to Mark Redwine.
The person associated with Dylan's disappearance has the description of "compassion" and "heart" together.
Regarding abduction, he claims that Dylan never met a stranger, and continued to use the word "that boy", which is distancing language.
"He never knew a stranger, ever in his life."
If he knew a stranger, it would not be a stranger. This is a very unusual sentence and appears to be an attempt to portray Dylan as having gone off with someone he instantly trusted, without discrimination or sense.
This is, in a twisted way, a disparagement of the victim.
The interviewer sounded juvenile with her overly use of the word "like" in her sentences and does not ask relevant questions, in spite of preparation. Some sentences she uses it 3 and 4 times.
She needs analytical interview training.
There are some very concerning things in this interview, in spite of the interviewer's reluctance to do her job.
"I wanted to go to a sit down restaurant. Sit down and talk to him. He wanted to go to McDonald's."
Argument. They wanted different things. The reference to "sit down" is associated with tension (body posture). It is also sensitive since it is repeated. This appears to be another reference to arguing with his son.
When he wanted to see his friends, Mark had no problem with "that" yet here, there is a problem. Where there is a "that", there is a "this."
His description of what time he got home begins a period of time that is sensitive. (12:50) This period of sensitivity continues.
"I specifically remember him texting at that time." People can only tell us what they remember so why the need to emphasize? The texting is important to Mark Redwine. Why?
He wants us to think he cannot remember certain things, like a movie title, or what time he went to bed, but wanted us to know that he "specifically" remembered Dylan texting that night.
Whatever took place that night is sensitive to Mark Redwine. From this point in his statement, we enter into the very sensitive part of his story and it continued through the next day. Anything said during this period of time is important.
Alibi building should be considered.
Regarding waking Dylan up:
"He was having no part of it. You can't get him to bed and you can't get him up. "
He did not say Dylan was asleep here. Note the distancing language of "you" and not "I"
It is hard to believe that Mark Redwine could not wake up his son, unless his son was dead.
"Never heard from him. I sent him text messages. Hey dude, are you up yet? Call me. Is there anything you need?"
dropped pronoun means no commitment. This is very significant. People do not like to lie outright. He did not say "I did not hear from him." He said, "never heard from him." Notice how he can say "I sent him text messages"? This is likely true, based upon the structure of the sentence.
"Never heard from him" may be because it was a ruse: Dylan, dead, cannot return text.
"I spoke with my divorce attorney" is mentioned in the same time period. This is alarming.
The word "with" when found between people, indicates distance.
Q. Anything else?
"I made a phone call to a property managment company."
He then went on to say what his "biggest reason" to want to communicate with Dylan was.
Note his references to phone call, bill, and divorce attorney, while Dylan was not responding.
"I need to go find that boy" is not only present tense, but it also uses the distancing language.
"So I am driving by the lake and I didn't see anything..." is also present tense.
Present tense language, in this sensitive period of time, is unreliable. Redwine changes to presnt tense language after Dylan is no longer 'speaking' or communicating in the story.
Police should consider Mark Redwine a suspect in the disappearance of Dylan Redwine.
"I was at the marshal's office taking care of this" and than about Dylan's mother he said, "that's when all hell broke loose with her"
"Taking care of this" and not about the business of finding his son.
Why wouldn't "hell" be his missing son? Why is "hell" associated with Dylan's mother, and not with Dylan being missing?
He continued to disparage Dylan's mother. The repeated emphasis should be something police consider as a motive.
"Dylan's a peace keeper. I believe that Dylan's the kind of kid that when he is with his mom, tries to keep peace with her and will tell her anything she wants to hear."
He only "believes" Dylan's "the kind of kid." He does not know.
"I don't bug him about what goes on with mom."
He did not "bug him" but this is not to say that he and Dylan did not talk about his mother.
"He and I get along, when we're together. Contrary to what people might want to think."
Note the lack of "we" with he and Dylan, in context, to Dylan being missing. From the point of the sensitive part of his story, Dylan is no longer quoted.
"I'm a private person. "
"I see her being more vocal. I can only imagine that her focus is on finding someone to blame" instead of finding Dylan. This is a very negative portrayal of a mother of a missing child. Police should take careful note of the level of bitterness this man has towards Dylan's mother.
"In her eyes, 'Im the last person to see him. "
Please note the words, "I'm the last person to see him" are not words attributed to Dylan's mother, but to her thoughts. When asked about blaming himself, he switched from "I" to the second person, "you":
"you relive this a thousand times. "
In the police eyes, he is the last one to see Dylan.
"I seen him laying on the couch and maybe I didn't try hard enough, maybe, to wake him."
The concern here is that in a domestically violent situation, did Dylan stop breathing and Mark not try to revive him due to fear of consequences.
"To sit here and beat yourself up...is not helping me stay strong."
"yourself" and not "myself"
Mark Redwine speaks like a man who has been domestically violent.
Note that the language, "beat up" enters here. This may indicate what happened to Dylan. This violence is associated with Dylan's mother.
This may indicate that Dylan was defending his mother, to his father, when the father became violent.
"I don't care if its his mom he reached out to"
Mark Redwine has a strong need to portray himself as being very close to Dylan. There are two things to be noted about this:
1. The need to portray himself as close to Dylan suggests distance.
2. The language employed by him about Dylan is distancing language.
3. Note the lack of the pronoun, "we" regarding Dylan, particularly note the change in language AFTER the last night he described Dylan, right at the point of sending a text message.
The language before the text and the language after the text should be noted.
"Authorities have not said a whole lot, to be honest with you" suggests that police do suspect him.
Redwine questioned that in only 24-48 hour period that a sex offender could be cleared. It can be done in under 5 minutes: if a sex offender has an alibi, it is not difficult to discern. This appears to be a desire
"I'll be honest with you. We are all suspects."
He is now going to be "honest" here, indicating that he has not been honest elsewhere.
A journalist should simply ask direct questions. She finally asks him about his involvement:
"Absolutely not. I would never do anything to harm that boy. "
"I'll be honest with you, the only thing that anyone should be interested in is finding Dylan."
Note the need to use this phrase comes only after the sensitive time period above.
Is he still alive?
"Absolutely" quickly became "that's a possibility"
"It's a thread that we all hold on to"
He then confused pronouns, "that's what crosses our minds and I..."
Regarding not going public early on:
That's why I agreed to participate in this. This isn't about me"
The interviewer went to Jonbenet case. Self-importance. Poor interview. Jonbenet had nothing to do with this case and the interviewer should avoid, as best as possible, of introducing any new words or new topics. Training is needed.
Analytical Interviewing takes the words of the subject and asks follow up questions using the subject's own words, seeking to avoid introducing even a single new word.
"These are the things I say when I am praying to him, talking to him."
Note that he "prays" to his son. This deification of someone is after death.
Redwine does not give any indications that he believes that Dylan is alive. When he does assert, he contradicts quickly.
His animosity towards his ex wife is severe.
The time period in his story, beginning where Dylan sent a text message, is highly sensitive and the language changes.
Next: Part Two indicates guilty knowledge on the part of Mark Redwine, along with indications of how Dylan died.